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Name: Delapan Cara Menjadi Muslimah yang Sabar & Ikhlas - Ustadzah Herlini Amran
Uploaded: 2018-11-09T00:25:45-08:00
Description: Fiqh Wanita Pada Hari Jum'at, 9 November 2018.

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Fiqh Wanita Pada Hari Jum'at, 9 November 2018.

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Muhammad wa ala ali sayyidina Muhammad.
Peace be upon you warahmatullahi
wabarakatuh. Brothers and sisters who
are blessed by Allah subhanahu wa taala
who can reach us through radio or
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not forget the brothers and sisters who
can reach us through racial networks in
Pontianak, Batam, Singapore, Malaysia,
and many more places. Hopefully, the
brothers and sisters are in good health
and surrounded by the love of those
around them. Alhamdulillah, I, Karolin,
am present in the Ikhwan and Akhwat
live listening room today, Friday and
God willing, we will learn together
because our teacher has been present
among us. Let us greet you first. Peace
be upon you warahmatullahi wabarakatuh,
Ustazah.
Waalaikumsalam warahmatullahi
wabarakatuh.
Always happy when I meet Ustazah.
Blessings. Masyaallah. And I'm sure
that's what the brothers and sisters
feel at home who listen to us or on the
street.
Amen, O Allah. God willing, pray for
each other. And brothers and sisters.
God willing, for approximately the next
90 minutes, brothers and sisters will
listen to the theme that will be
discussed by Ustazah, namely eight ways
to be a patient and sincere Muslim
woman.
Yes.
Tafadol Ustazah.
Bismillahirrahmanirrahim.
Alhamdulillahiabbil alamin. Wasalatu
wasalamu ala rasulillah. Wala haula
wala quwwata illa billah. Allahumma shi
wasallim wabarik ala sayidina
Muhammadin waa alihi wasbihi aj w.
Hopefully on this Friday which is
glorified by Allah we are blessed by it
. May all our acts of worship and
activities be accepted by Allah.
And we intend all of this from the
moment we wake up until we go to sleep,
with the intention of seeking Allah's
pleasure. May Allah be pleased with us
all. Insyaallah, today we will discuss
a topic that is actually not quite
eight, but to shorten it, if we count
it, it might not be several Maulidin,
maybe thousands of ways. How to be a
patient and sincere Muslim woman. There
are many, but we will shorten it to
make it easier for us to remember and
practice it. Insyaallah, we, you, me,
and all of us. I, you, we are all,
insyaallah, in the process of change.
So, our discussion is aimed at all of
us who are called Muslim women. Whether
she is a mother, a wife, a daughter, or
whoever she is, we can use this as our
guide. Eight ways to be a patient and
sincere Muslim woman. Earlier we talked
with Mbak Olin, wow, being patient is
difficult, let alone being sincere.
Ustan, but insyaallah, we still want
the best. Therefore, we will limit our
discussion to just
eight ways, and even that takes time
and process, because even one requires
practice. So, the first is how to
become a patient and sincere Muslim
woman. The first is to be a worldly
person, or at least strengthen your
intention in your heart. We discussed
earlier how to be patient, how to be
sincere? Have I become a patient mother
, a sincere mother? Have I become a
patient and sincere wife, a patient and
sincere Muslim woman, or a patient and
sincere child? There are so many trials
. This feeling is extraordinary. Can I
be patient and sincere? Well, the first
thing we want all Rasil listeners and
Rasil TV viewers to know is that
innamal a'malu bin niat (innocent
intention). All deeds depend on
intention. How can we be patient and
sincere if we don't have the intention
to be patient and sincere? If we
complain all the time, 'I'm impatient.'
How can I be forever impatient and
unable to be sincere? So, therefore,
the first thing we must truly instill
in ourselves, in our souls, is to renew
our intention. Intend, "O Allah,
hopefully I can become a patient woman,
a sincere woman." So, it requires a
strong intention. This intention cannot
be half-hearted. This intention is not
just following the crowd. This theme
now is about patience and sincerity.
Try it. No. This intention and
sincerity, this intention of patience
and sincerity must be complete. We make
it a whole. God willing, O Allah, I
intend to hopefully become a patient
and sincere mother. O Allah, I want to
be a patient and sincere wife. This is
a lot of trials, O Allah. Here is a
husband like this, children like this,
economic conditions like this. Yes,
what, O Allah? O Allah, I want to be
patient and sincere. Strengthen your
intention and determination. Convince
yourself that, God willing, we can be
patient, we can be sincere. God willing
, we can hopefully become the person we
desire. Therefore, we do all of this
for God. Only because of God do we have
strength. We want all our deeds, all
our activities, God willing, for God.
So when we want to be a patient and
sincere Muslim woman, of course
everything is for God, not because of
other people. That would be a huge loss
, right? Therefore, first of all, our
intention is to hopefully become a
patient person. If in our minds we
already have the element of "I can't be
patient," how can I be patient if I was
born to temperamental parents, I will
never be able to. So it goes back to
intention, motivation, suggestion. Yes,
God willing, it can be. This is a
matter of intention. It's not just our
desire to be patient and sincere.
Actually, for anything in our life
activities in this world, there needs
and must be an intention for God. Yes,
let me give an example. Innamal a'malu
biniat. It all depends on intention,
right, Miss. There are people who have
it, and there are two people, two
Muslim women who are both doing
activities, there is no difference. A
wife or a mother has the same
activities, taking care of her husband,
children, and the household, all of
which are the same, there's no
difference. But what differentiates
them is their intention. When they
position themselves as a wife or mother
, one's intention is for Allah, the
other's is just a routine. Right?
Routine, right? A wife's routine?
Another husband as a mother's routine
is taking care of the children.
Obligations,
yes, are like this: waking up, sleeping
, children, yes, everything, yes,
meaning just live it as it is, like a
flowing area. The results are different
.
When a mother or a wife wakes up, then
her intention is only to seek Allah's
pleasure, all the activities she does,
God willing, are worship. So, this is
the function of extraordinary
intentions, yes. Intentions are
extraordinary. So we start with
intentions with the hope that we can be
patient, can be sincere intentions,
Miss. Another example, this is the
importance of intentions. This toll
road is congested, there is a rest area
. Usually, if someone wants to relax
and rest, they say, "Let's stop by the
rest area first." There's a mosque or
prayer room there, where you can sit,
or maybe a mosque. If the rest area is
outside the city, the mosque is quite
comfortable. So, let's wait, rather
than get stuck in traffic on the toll
road, let's rest. So, we rest, then at
the mosque, we go in and lie down, then
when it's time to pray, pray, join the
congregational prayer. What's the
reward? Of course it's big. Because
he's at the mosque praying in
congregation. But when someone has an
intention, he has the intention to go
to the mosque first, ah, just intend to
do i'tikaf. Rather than doing nothing,
he has the intention to do i'tikaf.
Then he also intends to wait for the
next prayer time. Well, while he's at
the mosque, he gets the reward for
i'tikaf. He also gets the reward for
waiting for prayer time. Because it's
considered worship, the reward for
prayer too, right? So it all depends on
the intention or for example the
donation box, Miss, you usually like to
reflex, right, mothers or anyone who is
studying at the mosque through the
donation box, yes, we have taken out
the money from our wallets, put it in
the donation box, it's finished, right,
what was the intention, Miss? Sometimes
we forget, right? Well, when we intend
in our hearts, "O Allah, I intend the
reward, hopefully, hopefully, it
reaches my father or mother who has
passed away." Allahum yarham, O Allah,
convey the reward to them, O Allah.
Bismillah, it reaches them, Miss. So,
all that is needed is intention, so be
smart in your intention. Well,
therefore, because the theme of our
discussion is eight ways to become a
patient and sincere Muslim woman, the
first thing is to strengthen the
intention in our hearts. Hopefully, God
willing, we can become patient and
sincere Muslim women. O Allah, give me
patience. O Allah, please continue to
let me be sincere. Hopefully, no matter
how big the test and trial, hopefully,
we can handle it well, face it well
because we have increased patience.
Because of God's help, we have
sincerity, no longer relying on humans.
Okay, bismillah. That's amazing, isn't
it, Miss? So, this is the first step:
intend everything for God. Your
intention shouldn't be half-hearted.
Your intention shouldn't be just
following others. Your intention should
be entirely for God. Hopefully, we will
get God's help here, God's help so that
we have patience and sincerity in
living our lives and carrying out our
daily obligations. We can do it, God
willing. Yes, that's the first.
Intention. Second, of the eight ways to
become a patient and sincere Muslim
woman, is to continue to draw closer to
God. That second, patience and
sincerity are actually difficult. If we
want to have this difficult quality, of
course we need help, need backup or
backing, ee backing from ee the ruler
of the universe. The all-powerful, the
all-powerful, the one we depend on,
should be how we draw closer to our
creator. We can't bear the burden. We
lean on the cupboard, but it turns out
the weight is heavier than the cupboard
. Yes, we could fall under that burden.
But when we lean on the all-powerful
ruler of the universe, God willing, the
burden will be made easier. So,
therefore, we can hopefully draw closer
to Allah. Of course, drawing closer to
Allah is not just through talk, right,
Miss. Drawing closer to Allah does
require maximum effort by performing
all the sunnah acts of worship. By
performing all the sunnah acts of
worship, God willing, we can draw
closer to Allah. I want to convey there
is a hadith. This hadith is a valid
hadith narrated by Abu Hurairah.
Rasulullah ee Rasul sahu alaihi
wasallam ee said that Allah has said,
so this is a hadith qudsi yes. So in
this hadith the essence is like this.
servant bai ahaba mim alai whibbah. So
what this means is, if I am a servant,
he does not draw closer to me with a
form of worship that I love more than
what I have obliged him to do. The
servant then carried out the worship
that I required. So first, do the
obligatory obligatory worship. Then
after that because he wanted to get
closer to me. Well, then my servant
drew closer to me with sunnah practices
. First you have to do it. This
mandatory thing is important for Muslim
women. Let us not neglect what is
obligatory. What is mandatory, Sis?
Those who must
pray.
Prayer, fasting.
Fasting, zakat like that. This means
that the first thing that many of us
have to do is pray. When it's time for
prayer, leave all our daily activities
and immediately answer Allah's call.
Cooking, whatever, stop the stove.
Whatever Allah has called us to do,
stop for a moment, it won't be long.
Because usually, I'm sorry, usually
when we are mothers or wives at home,
the housework is endless. Sometimes
it's already too late, after cooking,
all we have to do is wash the dishes.
Then the call to prayer is in our
hearts, after washing the dishes, we'll
pray for a moment. It turns out that
Satan has distracted us, he's always
looking at the dishes, looking at this,
looking at that. It turns out, God
forbid, the endless work of this world.
Now, when we hear the call to prayer,
it's Allah's call, hayya alas shaya
alal falah. We leave all of this. Yes,
this is easy, later we can stop, and
later, the endless business will stop.
We clean ourselves, perform ablution,
and pray. Subhanallah. We have
fulfilled our obligation. We draw
closer to Allah and the goal is to seek
His pleasure. Done. That's another
thing, it feels light, Sis. If we do
our obligations on time, it feels like
time is a blessing. Sometimes there are
mothers who are busy feeding their
children, feeding them. Feeding a child
doesn't take a short time. So, ah, feed
them first, then they'll be satisfied.
Yes. This child can be tempted by Satan
. He causes all sorts of trouble,
taking a long time. In the end, how
many prayers do they pray? Almost close
to Asr.
Satan goes through the child.
Satan goes through the child. Children
are made, well, subhanallah, yes. So
this is so that we can gain patience
and sincerity. Second, we draw closer
to Allah. First, with the acts of
worship that He has made obligatory for
us. We try to do them on time. Then we
perform the voluntary acts of worship.
Yes. So, you and my servant draw closer
to me with voluntary deeds until I love
him. So, when we have completed the
sunnah practices, the obligatory ones
are obligatory. That's the sunnah. So,
never mind what, usually if someone is
accustomed to sunnah worship, it's
certain that the obligatory ones will
never be neglected. But if it's only
the obligatory ones, then he might
neglect the obligatory ones, and the
time shifts. Well, these are two of
them. Well, then in the hadith, the
hadith qudsi, then Allah explains again
, if I love him, I become his hearing
that he uses to hear. Subhanallah. The
hearing of this servant is hearing that
is as if Allah is the one who hears.
Because it is hearing because Allah has
loved him. Then and ee then next is and
as the sight that he uses to see. So
seeing the sight of this servant who
has become accustomed to carrying out
obligatory and sunnah worship because
he wants to be close to Allah is as if
Allah is the one who sees. This means
that Allah is guarding his sight from
sinful things. There are always ways to
make it difficult for him to commit sin
. There are always ways for Allah to
protect him, you know. Then the hand
she uses for her activities is like ee
as if ee Allah is Allah there. So, how
does she restrain herself? Here is my
husband's wallet, like that. There
isn't much red in it, right?
Take it? Take it?
Take it? This need has been met by my
husband, all no problem. But what is
this? Well, this is Allah will protect
her, right. This could be not halal,
right, even though her needs have been
met. Especially if it's even excessive.
But indeed, humans, if they can't
resist the temptations of Satan who are
idle, sometimes ah, just grab a few
pieces, right? Well, Allah will ee
protect her hands from bad things. In
fact, this hand, the hand of a mother
who is said here that ee her hand that
she uses for doing that, as if Allah is
with her, is being held back. Don't hit
your child. Hm. After all, mothers,
when their emotions are at their peak,
that's how they do it, whether they are
conscious or not. Consciously, hitting
a child is different.
Can flick, can pinch, what can you do,
Miss, usually right?
Rough talk,
rude talk, right. If the hand can't
keep still, right? Son, with him close
to Allah, performing obligatory and
sunnah worship, Allah protects his
hands, think first, "Oh Allah, this
child is poor. Why not, it's not his
fault, Allah protects his hands. Then
his feet that he uses to walk, Allah
protects, Allah protects. He wants to
go to the neighbor's house to gossip,
oh there's no time. There are many
obligations that he wants to fulfill,
but there's no benefit. Protected by
Allah." This means that he is protected
by Allah. Allah always protects him
from actions that can harm his good
deeds. Protected because he has carried
out obligatory and sunnah worship. Yes.
Then Allah mentions it again in this
hadith qudsi. "And if he asks me for
something, I will definitely give it to
him, and if he asks for my protection,
I will definitely protect him." So when
he asks, "Oh Allah, give me patience
with these extraordinary children,
super nauzubillah minzalik." That's his
behavior. Oh Allah, give me patience.
Allah, give him patience. Oh Allah,
forgive me with my husband who is my
model. Allah, give him sincerity. So
these are my two tips on how a Muslim
woman can be patient and sincere. The
second one is to get closer to Allah.
Well, the way to get closer to Allah is
by practicing not only the obligatory
but also the sunnah. Now, if the sunnah
is difficult, try at least the
obligatory first. Gradually, the
process, right? Try to do the
obligatory on time, on time, don't
waste time later. Sometimes Satan likes
to tempt me, sis. He whispers, "God
gave us time, ee prayer is long,
meaning there's still time later, it
doesn't have to be at the beginning of
the time." This is Satan's temptation,
because in a hadith the Prophet said
the deed that is loved by Allah is*
asalatu fi alqatiha*, praying on time.
So when the time comes, we pray. So,
why does Allah give a break, a few
moments, or how many hours, for that
long Dhuhr prayer time? To give an
opportunity to Allah's servants who
might be in a situation where prayer
time is approaching, in a place or in a
situation that makes it impossible to
pray immediately, like in a vehicle, or
in a traffic jam. It means that it's
impossible to give a break. But for us
Muslim women at home, who are always
busy at home, right? From the bed, to
the kitchen, to the well, it's endless.
Those chores have been cleaned, and
then they're messy again. There's no
reason to postpone this prayer. So at
least first, let's try to cut back when
we hear the call to prayer. All
activities are stopped, we pray. Then,
we start with the sunnah prayers. We
carry out the sunnah. Patience does
take time, right? Insyaallah, we can
achieve it from the first point, we
have strong intentions and
determination. Insyaallah, hopefully,
Allah will help us to be patient and
sincere. Yes, that's the second point.
Draw closer to God. The third point, no
less important, is to associate with
good people, associate with pious
communities, and associate with
environments that can lead us to
goodness. So, we, as humans, when we
are in the best communities, God
willing, can change for the better. But
if we are in a community or environment
that forgets God, we will certainly
forget. At a minimum, if we always
carry out our obligations, we are in a
community that perhaps does not uphold
these obligations, perhaps not praying.
How will we be affected? We neglect our
prayers, perhaps busy with karaoke,
perhaps in an environment that is so
lively. At least we still pray, but the
time we usually pray on time can shift,
which is the influence. So, in order
for us to have patience and sincerity
in facing the trials of our daily lives
in this world as wives or mothers, we
need a community, we need a good
environment. Find a good environment.
Subhanallah. With a good environment,
good company, God willing, we can
become patient individuals. Because we
befriend good people, people who are
also patient, not people who are angry.
Hopefully, we can be sincere. In fact,
we need to emulate when we find one of
our friends who is patient. Oh God, he
can do it, I must be able to do it too,
God willing. For example, Miss, for
example, in everyday life, we can find
pious environments. A mother with eight
children doesn't have a moral. All of
them...uh, I have a friend, Miss, whose
children have memorized the Quran, 10
of them. When she was little, she
didn't have a moral. I see this person
as someone who can be imitated,
emulated. This means that the lives of
our brothers and sisters in this good
environment are an inspiration for us
to follow. Even though we know that the
only example is the Prophet Muhammad,
we take the good from him. He can do it
and he is consistent. So, Miss, at
sunset, the TV is not on. All the
children, so if the boys go to the
mosque, it's a commitment, it's him
with his husband. The men go to the
mosque at Maghrib. The mothers, their
mothers with their daughters at home.
They pray in congregation at home.
After that, when they come home at
Maghrib, there's no TV on. They're all
doing murajaah, reading the Quran. Well
, this is extraordinary. We see that,
it motivates us. Oh God, how many
children do we only have? The most, now
two or three at most. Three is a little
bit too much, right? That's still a
code, right? Well, this means
extraordinary, right? So, in this pious
environment or community, we need to
learn lessons, emulate, hopefully, his
patience and sincerity can be
transmitted to us. But still, the
example is only from the Prophet. We
take the good things, okay? So, that's
hanging out with good people. When we
hang out with good people, God willing,
our faith is maintained, our hearts are
protected. If the environment is good,
God willing, gossip will not be a habit
. If the environment is good, people
are not used to always cursing and
saying bad words. If the environment is
good, religious studies, and the people
are sincere, we will be carried away,
God willing. Yes, that's the third.
Then the fourth, of the eight ways for
Muslim women to be patient and sincere,
after the first, we straighten our
intentions, we intend to Allah to be
given the ability to be patient and
sincere. Then the second, draw closer
to Allah by not only performing
obligatory worship, but also carrying
out sunnah worship. Third, we associate
with good people, with a pious
community that reminds us of Allah. So
the fourth is we learn wisdom from
every event. So, in facing the tests of
life with all its challenges and trials
, when something happens in our lives,
we learn from it. Now, by learning
wisdom from each incident, hopefully we
can be broad-minded and patient. It's
natural to be disappointed, right?
Meaning, for example, someone losing
money, that's a disaster that befell us
, right? Let's learn from it, like
yesterday, when another plane crashed,
Miss. There was someone who was late,
just a few minutes. Maybe at that time,
that person regretted himself. So
regretful. Why did he end up burned?
Until this point, that must be it. But
after he saw the wisdom of what
happened, oh, it turns out that Allah
still gives me the blessing of life,
I'm still given the opportunity to live
. We learn from what is happening now.
This means that when we learn from
every incident, God willing, we will
definitely get happy things. Well,
there is something, what is it called?
For example, how do we see, or do we
learn from what happened in each
incident, for example, if we see how
when we have a child, for example, who
is involved in drugs, for example, Sis,
it feels like the parents are really
shocked. Parents 'feelings are caring.
But it turns out, this is just an
example of how we can learn from every
incident. It turns out that the child
is unexpectedly affected. We can't just
scold the child. Let's think about it
for a moment, what is the silver lining
? Oh, it turns out maybe the parents
are busy, the father is busy, the
mother is busy, the child's only
attention is maybe the form of
affection is only material, right? Take
the wisdom that exists. So, with
conditions like this, hopefully both
parents can improve themselves and
hopefully their children can also
become better. Take the wisdom behind
that. Whatever it is in our lives, God
willing, we can see the greatest wisdom
. God willing, in name usri yusro.
Every time there is something
difficult, there must be something
difficult, there must be ease. So, let
me give another example like this. ee,
for example, we see the wisdom of the
pious Salafus in the past, the ee
people in the past, how the calamities
that befell them were because they were
able to take lessons from ee existing
events, events that existed. They
turned the disaster no longer into a
loss, but into an advantage. for
example, for example, yes. So don't let
it fall and hit the stairs too. So,
learn from the calamities that occur.
For example, the Prophet Muhammad was
expelled from Mecca to Medina. That was
a very painful event. The Prophet
Muhammad was preaching, inviting people
to believe in Allah. But what did he
experience? He was expelled, expelled
in various ways, which means he truly
experienced extraordinary trials. But
what happened after that? It turns out
that the pages of history prove that
when the Prophet Muhammad was expelled
from Mecca, he was able to establish a
nation that fills the pages of history
with success and brilliance. That's the
wisdom behind any event or calamity. We
don't know, right? So, it could be that
we are currently being struck by a
calamity. If we endure it patiently and
sincerely, we will then be able to reap
the fruits. So, we learn from an event.
For example, what's it called? His
child died, for example. Even though it
was a child he had hoped for. We do
grieve, we grieve. But we learn from
this trial. Oh, thank God, this child
of mine will be the one who will help
me in the end. When in Padang Mahsyar,
these children who died when they were
little, he brought drinks for their
parents. This is extraordinary.
Extraordinary. Even though it was a
very difficult trial at that time, but
God willing, the trial will surely pass
. What's the term, Miss? The storm will
surely pass. Masyaallah, right?
Song.
Song, right. Or another example, let's
look at Ahmad bin Hanbal. He was a
scholar and pious person. He was
imprisoned and punished with lashing
because he didn't want people to
believe that the Quran was created,
right? Even though the government at
that time was an Islamic government,
you know.
Yes, it means
very cruel. But what happened later was
that he became the leader of the Sunnah
scholars. He was incredibly glorified
and respected. So usually people who
experience these scholars' calamities
will later produce brilliant works.
Look at Mrs. Hamka, in prison, she
managed to write the Tafsir Ahar. Yes,
there's another example, Ibn Taymiyyah,
who was also imprisoned. Ibn Taymiyyah
was imprisoned after he was released
and became a scholar. Oh, Subhanallah.
Prison is indeed pleasant, but that's
where we learn wisdom from an event,
from an unpleasant event. Or, for
example, let's look at Ibn Jawzi. I
think when we talk about Ibn al-Jawzi,
we're all familiar with him because
many books have been translated from
his writings. He was also exiled in
Baghdad. Well, during his exile, he
used his time to write tajweed on
qiraah sabah. So, this means that when
these scholars experience trials or
calamities, behind them lies a delayed
success. After all the trials are gone,
what emerges is a brilliance and
extraordinary success that can be
enjoyed by the next generation. So if
we experience a calamity because of our
faith and belief, God willing, after
that there will definitely be something
that surprises us from happiness and ee
that we want, God willing. Or for
example, there is another inspiring
story about how we take wisdom from the
events that occur when we are hit by
calamities and others. For example,
Malik bin Raib, he was struck by a
fever that led to his death. So during
his illness, he composed a beautiful
qasidah. So he had a fever. He composed
a beautiful qasidah that was famous
among everyone so that ee what is the
name of his work became ee what is the
name? It was recognized by the Abbasid
Caliphate government. So when we have a
fever, when calamity befalls us, God
willing, there will definitely be
something we gain, including our
brothers and sisters who are struck by
calamity. God willing, we will take
wisdom from it. The wisdom is that we
are the ones who know the wisdom, the
wisdom is that there are only two
possibilities for a disaster, like what
Allah has inflicted on our brothers and
sisters in Palu, there are only two,
either punishment or blessing of
martyrdom. So we are the ones who take
the wisdom here. If we commit sins,
Allah will intervene. If we obey Allah
and remain in faith, God willing, Allah
will give us the extraordinary gift of
martyrdom. Many people are happy about
martyrdom, people are waiting for it,
you know, Miss. Martyrdom is the
highest deed. All sins are forgiven,
extraordinary, yes. This means we no
longer need to be nervous. We will die
a husnul khatimah or suul. We will not
think about that anymore. It's safe,
it's over, it's at peace. We are the
ones who are still alive, it's still
unclear when and how because we don't
know what our fate will be. Well, this
means we take wisdom from or take
lessons from every incident that occurs
, for example. So, in the Qur'an, Surah
Al-Baqarah, verse 216, it is explained,
"Waasa an tuhibbu saian wahua sharul
lakum." Wallahu y'lamu wa antum laun.
It may be that you hate something when
it is better for you. Well, how many is
that, Miss? The discussion was the
fifth. The fourth, take wisdom from
every incident. No, I am indeed patient
, God willing, I can be patient
sincerely. But I regret marrying this,
my current husband. If I had known he
was like this, I might not have wanted
to. Ah, that's called not taking wisdom
from every incident that occurs.
Even though he said he was patient at
first. He
said he was patient at first. Well, we
take wisdom from this. Why are we
destined to have a husband like this?
There must be a lesson. If we had a
husband who wasn't like this, maybe we
wouldn't have become like this. Hey, so
this is indeed a trial and tribulation
when we talk about marriage. Marriage
is the longest and longest form of
worship. It requires extraordinary
patience and sincerity. Whether we like
it or not, we accept it; this is a life
choice. What do we want? Do we want to
remain patient with conditions like
this or do we decide immediately;
marriage is all a choice. What do we
want? Do we want the reward, do we want
the many benefits, and have patience?
After all, life isn't long, it's just a
short time. That's an example. Or, for
example, the condition of children when
we complain about them, "Oh God, this
child is difficult to manage, why is he
rebellious, why is he like this?" There
is a cause and effect. We learn from it
. Why is this child like this? If it is
indeed our fault, we just have to
repent to God. Maybe our parenting
style was wrong, we set a bad example,
or we set a bad example. But the
reality is that now it has turned out
like this. We just have to pray a lot
to God. Who knows, one day when we die,
this child will be the one who will
pray for us, asking Allah with his
solemn prayers during the tahajjud at
night. Oh Allah, forgive my parents.
Subhanallah. My parents have passed
away. It's extraordinary, right? Let's
face what is there. We take the wisdom
that happens behind this, okay? Or for
example, losing this car is also a
disaster, right, Miss? Well, if we lose
a car, what is the wisdom that we can
take? The car is lost,
this is the first new car,
if I have money, next time I will be
careful, don't be careless, that's the
first thing. Then secondly, let's try
to evaluate whether there is anything
haram in our wealth. What I mean is,
are we sure that the sustenance that we
have been seeking, we obtain, and we eh
what do we interpret, we eh what is it
called? We spend it, we are sure that
it is halal. Now, there are many
sustenances, Miss, that are not halal,
Miss. Yes, for example, if you want to
work, you have to bribe first.
Well, this is the kind of halal belief.
Getting promoted involves money, right?
Children go to schools that have a lot
of applicants so our children can get
in, and we give bribes to schools so
our children can get in. Even though
there are others who deserve it more.
Is that not true? Is it halal? Well, we
can evaluate these things. It could be
that Allah takes our car in His way to
purify our wealth. Well, that means
taking the wisdom in, oh, maybe there's
something that's not halal, or maybe
the wealth is halal. Why Allah? Maybe
He wants to replace it with something
better. Because in principle,
sustenance will not decrease. Allah has
determined the amount of sustenance for
a servant. When sustenance is taken by
force, stolen, or theft, that doesn't
mean our sustenance is reduced. It's
basically a reduction in its outward
appearance, but in principle, Allah
will replace it later. We won't be
lacking. God willing, our wealth will
not decrease when it's stolen. Allah
wants to replace it with something else
. Well, only Allah knows the form.
Whether we will be given a healthy,
devoted, intelligent, pious child, or
replaced with a job, only God knows. We
learn from this. God willing, we don't
need to make this incident a destroyer
of our faith. Imagine, imagine. So what
we see is the past, imagine this
destroys our faith, this is impatience,
this is insincerity. How can we be
patient and sincere Muslims if we
always complain and even blame others.
See. Especially to the point of going
to a shaman. There's a neighbor who is
a psychic. Try asking where his car is?
Oh, he said where? In Mangga 2, huh.
Just coming to him is already
destroying our faith. So, we learn from
every incident. That's the fourth point
. Then the fifth is always think
positively. What does always think
positively mean? It means we have
husnuzon (trust in God). We have
husnuzon (trust in God). Never be
suspicious. If we have suspicion of God
, that's what happened. Our title is
patience and sincerity, right? When we
talk about patience and sincerity,
what's actually difficult, Miss, is
when we are patient in obedience or
patient in not committing sin. There
are three kinds of patience. First,
patience when facing calamities and
trials. Second, patience in obedience.
Third, patience in not committing sin.
That's the hardest. Which of the three?
Which is the hardest? They're
all hard.
Patience in obedience. Yes, to obey we
must be patient. It seems like patience
, God willing, we can do it. Obeying is
indeed difficult, but God willing, it
means that people have different levels
of faith. The one who doesn't wear a
hijab and then tries to obey Allah's
commands. She must be patient with what
people say. What do you hear? The
chatter of people who don't like that
is also patience. Well, patience in
obedience. Well, patience in not
committing sin. For example, the
Prophet Joseph. Prophet Yusuf with his
youthful soul, with the passion of
human lust, was then tempted by a woman
, Aziz's wife. When her room was locked
, he tried to seduce her. Well, that
was a
heavy trial too. If not, Allah wouldn't
have shown it. So if he didn't see
Burhan, what would he call it? Allah
gave him the strength of faith, he
would have been tempted. This was
overflowing lust. This beautiful woman,
no one else, was tempted, subhanallah,
fahamma biha, huh. Hey, I almost got
tempted. If it weren't for Burhan from
Allah, and protection from Allah, maybe
it would have been nauzubillah. That
also requires patience. Patience to
refrain from sinning, huh. Third,
patience during calamities. Well, these
three are the hard ones, all depending
on the form. Well, it's up to us as
servants of Allah when carrying this
out, can we be patient? Patience means,
can we have a high positive attitude
towards Allah? It means, maybe Allah
wants to test me because he wants to
increase, or elevate my status. So
don't think negatively of Allah. So, we
need to think positively. When we
encounter a trial or calamity, we
immediately hope that this will be the
best part of our lives. Don't be
suspicious. If we are suspicious of
Allah, we will experience a calamity.
The most severe calamity was the
calamity of Prophet Job, whether he was
sick or
not. He was sick
before
his wealth was gone.
Then his children died. Allah is
extraordinary, his whole body was sick,
only his tongue and heart were healthy
so he could remember Allah. In fact,
his whole body was in disarray, very
sick, his wealth was gone, and his
children died. But let's see how
positive thinking Prophet Job was. This
means that we are trying to get this,
we see how Allah replaced everything as
a result. All of that makes us think
positively about Allah. That's why, "
Ana 'indadon' abdi" bih, I depend on my
assumptions, if I really think badly,
that's what happened. Why has life been
so difficult since I got married? Maybe
this husband brings bad luck. Well,
that's how it is. I really think he's
unlucky.
So we need to be in a position of
thinking about Allah. Well, this is
from ee five, right, Miss.
Let's take a break first.
Okay, out of the eight, there are five
that Ustazah has explained about eight
ways to be a patient and sincere
Muslimah. First, straighten your
intentions. Second, continue to draw
closer to Allah, especially ee
prioritize the obligatory. Then, ee
istikamah carry out the sunnah. Third,
associate with good people. Fourth,
take wisdom from every incident. And
fifth, always think positively. There
are still three more, brothers and
sisters. So we hope that brothers and
sisters will remain with us. Later we
will take a break and I will also
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Silaturahim Rasil TV Ikhwan and Ahwat
for one Islam. This time we are
listening to women's fiqh with Ustazah
Herlini Amran with an incredibly
interesting and important theme for us
to pay attention to, namely eight ways
to be a patient and sincere Muslim
woman. Ustazah has already conveyed
five ways. We will look at the
remaining three, Ustazah. Tafadul
Ustazah,
yes. Bismillahirrahmanirrahim. The
sixth is understanding the essence of
life. Yes, actually, the order is not
necessary. The order is just looking
for which ones are not part of it, but
for intention, it is important.
Well, for intention, it is indeed at
the beginning, before we do good deeds,
intention comes first. Well, this sixth
is understanding the essence of life.
Understanding the purpose of our life.
What is the purpose of life?
We are indeed in this world forever. We
are in this world, whether we like it
or not, in the end, we end up doing
what we want. Usually, people who don't
understand the essence of life, don't
understand the purpose of life, the
world is everything to them. They even
have the heart to ignore God's commands
because they think they are unimportant
. Basically, if there is no money there
, no material things, they won't do it.
That's a person who has no purpose in
life.
If someone doesn't have a purpose in
life, how is he different from an
animal? Yes, look at the chickens that
wake up in the morning, go out to look
for sustenance, find food, and go home
to sleep. Well, if a human being is
like that, go out to work to earn money
to support his family, and that's it,
what is the purpose of life? So it's
really very important for us to
understand the purpose of life. What is
the purpose of life? Where is he going?
We have been living for a long time, O
God, this is truly extraordinary. If
someone forgets the purpose of life, he
will definitely hold on to the world
very tightly. He doesn't want to lose,
he doesn't want to give in, he really
doesn't want to. In the end, everything
is easy for him. So when he's like this
, for example, he has no empathy for
people, he will do anything he can to
get as much profit as possible, no
matter what. He's not afraid of Allah.
People who don't understand the essence
of life don't fear Allah. He's attacked
because Allah doesn't see him. He's
only afraid of the people who see him.
Well, that's a matter of the foundation
of faith. So, what it means is that
when we talk about understanding the
essence of life, we're actually talking
about faith, the pillars of faith.
There are six pillars of faith, right?
This means that when we talk about the
pillars of faith, God willing, we will
understand the purpose of our lives. We
once discussed how many phases of human
life are there? There are six. This
means that humans have six phases of
life. The first realm is the realm of
the spirit, the realm of the soul,
which we have already passed. Then the
realm of the womb is also in the realm
of the spirit, are we aware of it? Not
aware. But we have been asked to
declare our shahada to Allah. Bearing
witness alastuikum quala. We've been
through it, but we don't remember it
because there wasn't sophisticated
technology to record it all except the
womb. Yes, we used to believe that we
had experienced it in our mother's womb
, but what did we know? Because now
technology has developed, how does a
fetus meet, sperm, and egg cells
develop, and so on? We've passed.
That's only the third phase in the
worldly realm. We're in the third phase
, and the journey is certainly long,
there are still three more. The realm
of Barzakh, then the Day of Judgment,
and the sixth is our determination
because this is an eternal day. Heaven
or hell? So the journey is still long.
So when we know the essence of life,
we're only in the third phase. What are
we looking for in this world? What's
the use of the wealth we seek by all
means, rank and all that if it's not in
accordance with Allah's path? Well,
then we understand the essence of life.
People who understand the essence of
life, God willing, will be patient and
sincere. No matter how much she suffers
, whether it's being wronged, hurt
between siblings, or a husband
oppressing his wife, when she knows the
reality of life, she will accept it
patiently and sincerely. Life in this
world is not forever, while Allah will
surely repay those who do wrong. It's
finished, meaning life becomes easy.
Just as it was easy for the companions
when they understood the reality of
life when they faced trials and
tribulations. There was a black woman
with epilepsy who asked to be healed
because the Prophet's prayer could
definitely cure her. It was answered.
The Prophet just gave her a choice. Do
you want to remain sick but be patient
or if you remain sick, be patient, then
paradise will be yours. The reckoning
will be lightened, or I will pray for
you to recover. Which one do you choose
? Of course, if someone understands the
reality of life, they will definitely
choose. It's okay if I'm sick, I'll be
patient, as long as I go to paradise.
That's how it is. But someone who
doesn't understand the reality of life,
doesn't know the purpose of life,
surely thinks that in this world, the
important thing is to be healthy, the
important thing is to be beautiful,
right? Well, we see this is what
happens. How can we be patient and
sincere if our orientation is worldly?
If our orientation is solely to gain
praise from others, just prestige.
Prestige is only for the sake of praise
from others, that's all. So when we
talk about patience and sincerity, make
sure we have a purpose in life, we
understand the essence of life. Yes,
this is life, right? What else can we
do? There are only two lives. If you
are not patient, be grateful. If you
are not grateful, be patient. There are
no more, Miss. Yes,
only two. And those two are in heaven.
Those two are easy to say, but
difficult to implement. And it takes a
lifelong process to be grateful and
patient. Yes, we are grateful for what
we get. So, that means, uh, the clerics
of the past, Miss, how did they define
gratitude when a trial had befallen
them, their house was burned down,
their bodies were sick. Then when they
ate, they were still able to eat, thank
God. People are confused, even though
you have been hit by such a heavy
disaster, you are still grateful as
long as you can still eat smoothly,
that is a gift from Allah. The others
are just that, that's just transitory,
that can also be replaced, Sis. It
means that the test that Allah gives is
not much. If it's a serious test of
faith, right? The test of religion is
if we are not strong, nauzubillah right
? So that's the fifth one, namely how
we can understand the essence of life.
What is the purpose of our life, but
hopefully, Sis, don't be idle talk, Sis
. What does idle talk mean? Just
talking like that. When we know, yes,
we know the purpose of our life is to
seek Allah's pleasure. We know the
purpose of our life in the hereafter,
but when given a test, what He said is
not reflected in his practice. Because
if we talk, it's very easy, right? So
hopefully, by understanding the essence
of this life, we can be stronger, more
resilient in facing every test and
trial. Insyaallah, it's not just words,
but also ee we can implement it with
actions, insyaallah. That's the
sixth one.
Six. The seventh one, I believe that if
we can control and manage our anger,
then Paradise will be ours. In the
hadith, eh la tagdob wakal jannah.
Don't be angry, heaven is yours. It
means that anger is only for trivial
matters, so there's no need to be
excessive. Except when our faith is
disturbed. If the honor of Muslims, our
prophet, is insulted, then we should be
angry. But in everyday life, anger is
related to personal matters, right? We
need a lot of patience. Uh, patience
and sincerity can calm the heart. But
sometimes anger is like this, right,
Miss, for example, there was a mother,
Miss, there was an incident in Saudi,
it was said that the mother was angry
with her child because she broke
something expensive, it was destroyed.
So because she was so angry, your body
was destroyed too. Like that.
Your body was destroyed, that means
because of that anger. It turns out
that after 25 years, Allah answered her
wish. So her child is a graduate. Well,
he works for his father, who owns a
property. Well, when he was about to
get married, he was on his father's
property, where, what, uh, the wall of
the building collapsed on him, so it
was destroyed. When she was at the
hospital, her mother was called and saw
what she had said, "Yes, your body is
destroyed." So, it means be careful,
this is something that is destroyed,
even though it is expensive in worldly
terms, it is a valuable item, but this
was done by a child, it was not
intentional. It means don't overdo it.
If you are too angry, what will be the
consequences, will you regret it? So,
it means anger should be appropriate.
It does exist, even imagine, there are
mothers who are angry with their
children to the point of being locked
up, even tied up, oh my God, this is
truly sad. And indeed, to be able to
train this anger, we just need to
remember la taqdob wakal jannah.
Keeping our anger from being excessive.
There are rules, right? If you are
standing, change to sitting, still do
ablution, then ablution, then sit, then
still take it to bed, then take it to
bed, so that your anger doesn't get to
the top of your head. Well, at least
from a health perspective, angry people
can make you age quickly and become
sick. This means that people who are
always angry will gradually age.
Anything that makes you angry, anything
that makes you angry. Yes, what is
there to be angry about? Yes, sometimes
we are like this, for example, on the
way, Miss, you are driving and there is
a traffic jam on the road. There are
people who weave in and out, people who
are unable to control their anger
sometimes say bad words. Oh God, what
is the benefit for us if, for example,
we are crossed by someone and then we
say things like, "mar" and hit them
until we say "astagfirullahalazim". If
we can be a little patient, we can
empathize. Oh, maybe he has to go to
the toilet, poor thing. That's to calm
his heart or if cars overtake here and
there, oh, maybe his wife is about to
give birth, that means never mind,
there's no point in us getting angry
because people don't listen, they don't
know them, they don't
know them. So, here we start to train
our anger. But, this is sometimes a
parenting style, Miss. That means, the
child can imitate that from their
parents. Maybe a child who is fierce to
his younger sibling may have seen his
parents being fierce to him, like
hitting him. So, it really comes back
to parenting. It used to be, now that
we're adults, we have reason, we have
thoughts, we need to break the chain.
We are also creatures who have been
given reason by Allah. Don't imitate
bad things. Don't blame it all on your
parents. It's because of something, it
can't be used as an argument. Well,
let's look at the Prophet Muhammad (
peace and blessings be upon him). Allah
brought him to a place where everyone
had their own character and nature, but
the Prophet Muhammad, through the
guidance of revelation, was able to
transform into a person of noble
character. That's why the Prophet
Muhammad was sent as an initial
morality to improve human morality.
Temperamental morality can become
patient, it can be trained. So don't
use it as an excuse because your
parents made you stubborn. No. That
person, God willing, can be patient,
God willing. Hopefully. That's the
seventh. The last of the eight. So,
eight ways to become a patient and
sincere Muslim woman. Lastly, we
believe that every deed will be
rewarded by Allah. So, this is to train
patience and sincerity. Sometimes, some
people may feel like my life has been
miserable from the past until now. My
life is full of sorrow. There are
trials, all of
life, being an orphan, being poor. Many
people are probably like that. I was
wronged, got a husband, was wronged
again. My parents were abandoned, my
parents—ah, there are probably many.
Well, we believe that all our deeds
will be rewarded by Allah. So, to train
ourselves to be patient and sincere, we
believe that Allah is all-just. All
human actions will certainly be
rewarded. No sin escapes Allah's
reckoning. Therefore, we don't need to
tire ourselves out torturing ourselves.
How do I repay that person? Yes, they
have wronged me, I must repay. We don't
need to tire ourselves out, we don't
need to think about that person, just
leave it to Allah. Yes, when we
surrender everything to Allah, Allah is
the most just judge. Knowing what is
right and what is wrong, that's how it
is. For example, if we are wronged
while trading, or someone takes our
property, then whatever we do, leave it
to Allah. Allah will repay us. So, once
again, the last eighth point is how we
can become patient and sincere Muslims.
We believe that all our deeds will be
rewarded by Allah. Whoever sows, he
will reap. This means, God willing,
when we are wronged, God will leave it
to Allah. Allah will repay the matter
with Him. Yes. So, with this, we
believe that everything has been
determined by Allah. Hopefully, we hope
and pray to Allah to become patient and
sincere Muslims. Pray a lot too.
Allahumma ja'alni syakuron wa'alni
shuran. O Allah, make me Your patient
servant, Your grateful servant. O Allah
, forgive me in every deed and so on.
Hopefully, we all become patient and
sincere Muslims.
Amen. Amen, O Lord of the Worlds. Okay,
Ustazah. The eight methods have been
revealed. That's it. Alhamdulillah.
That's
the key, yes. Hold on to it well, and
it seems we'll go straight to the
questions and answers. Ustazah,
remembering that the time is
approaching, the end of time. Uh, we'll
start with this first question from Ibu
Darma, Ustazah. Peace be upon you. And
peace be upon
you.
Ibu Darma is in Bekasi. Ustazah asked,
"I have a little problem, Ustazah, with
my brother-in-law. It was just because
of a trivial matter, actually, before
the fasting month, my biological
brother went to Jakarta on duty and
then stopped by my house. His wife was
not happy. Even though my brother meant
that instead of staying at a hotel, it
would be better to visit his sister who
was not far from her duty. Well, since
then my brother's wife has been angry
with me. Should I go ahead or contact
me WA never replied and now they even
changed their cellphone number. Ustazah
, please enlighten me. Oh, this is
quite strange between brother and
sister. Then brother-in-law, I mean,
brother going to my sister's house is
normal, yes, staying overnight is
normal. But what is not normal is what
the brother-in-law responded to with ee
attitude that we try to see first,
maybe there is a reason and problem
like that. If it is not related, maybe
maybe the wife ee brother-in-law is
jealous, maybe. Because the
brother-in-law could help ee or her
husband help her sister. Maybe we also
don't know what the problem is. But in
this case, Ma'am, because ee you feel
this is my brother, why is my
brother-in-law So that's it. Is it the
mother who is the first to do good? Do
it, mother. God willing, whoever does
good first will be the one who receives
the reward from Allah, the multiplied
goodness. So when someone breaks off
relations even though the one who is
wrong is someone else. So what I mean
is, when that person breaks off
relations with us, we try to reconnect,
that's an extraordinary reward. Even
though it's not our fault. The one who
is wrong is that person. That's an
extraordinary reward. So,
ee, do it for Allah, not for anyone
else. He. So, let's not worry about our
prestige, let's just be sure that
whoever reconnects with us will have
abundant sustenance, that Allah will
give him mercy, and his prayers will be
answered. That's all, don't be the same
, okay, Mrs. Darma. If we are the same,
what's the difference between us and
him? If he does bad things, then he
does bad things, that's just him. If we
want to be good people, then we should
be the first to reconnect with him. God
willing.
He surely knows where he lives, right,
Mom? Darma. No, sister. So even if you
change your phone number, there's no
problem looking for it. No.
Actually, your sister is still
connected, just ask her.
There are lots of tips, Mrs. Darma. God
willing, your relationship will improve
. I'll move on to the next question,
Ustazah, from Mrs. Sofiatun in Munjul.
Ustazah, peace be upon you, Ustazah.
And peace be upon you, Ustazah. It's
true, Ustazah, that's what I felt when
I fixed the prayer problem. Both in
terms of time, understanding the
readings, and the best clothing for
prayer. Subhanallah, my life is now
happy and calmer in facing any problem.
Masyaallah. Alhamdulillah. You
also pay attention to your clothes,
Ustazah.
Yes. Yes. It's normal. So, when we face
Allah, is it appropriate for us to face
Allah in our mediocre clothes?
Sometimes it might just be inside out,
wrinkled. Never mind facing the
president or governor, facing Even the
head of the neighborhood association (
RT) is embarrassed to wear clothes that
are not ironed, inside out. How can we
approach Allah with such mediocrity?
Nauzubillah minzalik. This is Allah,
the ruler of the universe, where we
depend on Him. We pray, hope only to
Him, we worship. How can we approach
Allah with our mukena sometimes not
washed, Miss? It already smells, and
what else is inappropriate? Well, when
we start from ourselves that Allah is
the place where we worship, praise, and
worship, we will definitely try to
appear good. Before facing Allah, we
should look in the mirror first. Why
look in the mirror? Yes, just face the
front. Going out and going to the
mirror, maybe just go to the shop first
, Miss.
It means that people who have nothing
mess up. Why should we invite Allah?
Look first, is her clothes really
visible? Is her private parts visible,
is her hair sticking out? Is her
clothes thin? This is roughly what ee
what if we mess up, it looks oh no,
it's not inside out, want That's it. So
we need to be worthy of Allah because
we expect His mercy, His blessings, we
expect His sustenance, everything is in
Allah's hands, right? Search the heart
first, we seek Allah's face first by
doing our best. And the proof is that
you, who is that mother, Miss? ee
earlier, Mrs. Sofiatun appeared.
Subhanallah, you feel it. So, God
willing, whoever you are, listeners and
viewers, if we start with the intention
of doing it for Allah with a good
appearance, God willing, Allah will
give us whatever we want, God willing.
Thank you, Ibuatun.
God will make everything easy, God
willing. So, hopefully, what Mrs.
Sofiatun feels can be felt by others.
God willing.
Amen. Amen. Caller ee Mas Yusuf Duren
Kita. Asalamualaikum. Asalamualaikum.
Still? Well, I apologize, it seems like
it might have taken too long. We
apologize if the connection was then
cut off. Hopefully, you can try again.
And for now, I will move on to the next
question from ee, just a moment, Mrs.
Liza asked," Asalamualaikum
warahmatullahi wabarakatuh, Ustazah. "
Waalaikumsalam warahmatullahi
wabarakatuh.
Please advise, Ustazah, how can we
remain steadfast in patience and
sincerity in all things, Ustazah so
that we do not waver easily.
Yes, actually the method that we
discussed earlier is how to be patient
and sincere. Now, how can we remain
steadfast? Yes, just strengthen your
intention and renew it. Then continue
to get closer to Allah. Seek Allah's
face, yes. Seeking Allah's face is fine
. How can we get closer to Allah? Doing
sunnah deeds. Then there is qiyamulail,
reading the Quran, saum sunnah,
basically the sunnah things. Then we
pray to Allah to be given steadfastness
. Allahummarzuqnal istiqomah is that's
the prayer. O Allah, we are
steadfastness or the prayer of Allahum
ya muqbalubik. Basically, everything we
do is our dependence on Allah, our
reliance on Allah, our hope in Allah,
everything is only for Allah. Please
help. God willing, hopefully Allah will
give us help. God willing.
God willing. Amen. And ee next from
0853 1123 and so on. ee servant of
Allah ustazah asked ee my husband has
not worked as a ustazah for years. I
have tried to be patient and sincere
but it seems like I am angry because he
wants to be served and doesn't want to
share the work. I have, I have talked
to him nicely but he is lazy. But when
I am angry, he just keeps quiet,
doesn't joke, doesn't chat. How is that
, Ustazah?
Masyaallah.
Sorry for being late reading,
Well, so it's like this. This is an
incident that this servant of Allah has
actually probably been experienced by
many wives, wives just maybe don't ask.
So, when our husband doesn't work then
everything comes from the wife, maybe
ee it's said maybe the wife works, the
wife helps ee support. This could be a
misunderstanding in the husband's
understanding, yes. Because ee as ee
because not equipped by religion, maybe
or maybe there are examples from their
families who rely on their wives, you
know, Miss. There is this, Miss, what
is the question the teacher asks his
female students," What do you want to
be? "" I want to be this, this, this. "
Basically, all the difficult things
were asked, eh, what will your male
students become? So her husband, like
that. So what can this be called? Ee
mindset, huh. So, ah, look for a wife
who is already established, huh. But if
we understand Islam, it's not like that
. It means that a man is in his hands,
the obligation to provide for his
family. Well, her husband hasn't worked
for years. This needs to be seen why
that is. There are reasons, first,
perhaps the desire is not strong
because he feels comfortable like that.
The comfort of ee what ee being treated
or given by his wife, huh. So, it's
enough,
enough. So, in the end, he doesn't want
to try anymore and then doesn't want to
share. This is probably because you are
so patient and pamper yourself, huh. So
, what about this condition, ma'am?
Life is a choice. Hm. Which one do you
choose? If this condition continues, I
think what will you do? Just stay quiet
, tired and annoyed, comfortable like
that, please. But don't forget, ma'am.
Be sincere for Allah. If you are not
sincere, you won't get anything, ma'am.
When you are sincere, you who Providing
for the needs of the family is a reward
for charity. This means there are two
rewards, such as what happened during
the time of the Prophet, Zainab, his
wife Ibn Mas'ud. Ibn Mas'ud was indeed
one of those who sought something that
wasn't, this is a bit difficult, he was
busy preaching. Meanwhile, his wife was
creative. She opened a home industry at
home until she made a living. Now, when
she wanted to, in the hadith, was it
mentioned as zakat or charity? Is it
permissible to give zakat to her
husband because her husband didn't
provide for her? I wanted to ask the
Prophet, but he was embarrassed.
Finally, Bilal asked. Then the Prophet
said," The Prophet, apparently knows, "
Oh, her, Zainab. Tell him, laha ajron
marattain." Oh, he gets two rewards.
The reward of giving charity and the
reward of maintaining ties of kinship.
That means, why is the reward of
maintaining ties of kinship here? From
a fiqh perspective, a wife can ask for
a divorce when her husband doesn't
provide for her. That's allowed. Right?
Isn't providing for her husband's
obligation? It's the husband's
obligation to provide for her. Now,
when a wife doesn't get her rights
because her husband doesn't fulfill his
obligations, she can do whatever she
wants in this household. It's better to
just break up, rather than not, this is
allowed. But he doesn't want this
Zainab. He wants this, my husband is a
good person, he preaches, his morals
and his religion are beyond doubt. I've
been patient. He gets two rewards. Now,
being a mother in a condition like this
, if you persist, you have to intend
everything for Allah. Pray, pray hard,
"O Allah, give my husband guidance, O
Allah, so he realizes that." Because
after being talked to, there's no way
what else can be done. Well, then later
he asked to be served. This is really
too much, isn't it, Ma'am,
Ustazah.
It means this person wants something or
other, right? Yes, you can be firm,
meaning you still have to do it in a
good way, right? It means, ee, if you
have accepted your husband who doesn't
provide for you, then whether you like
it or not, you have to fulfill your
obligations. Whether you want it, it's
your choice, right, or you have to try
to find a third person. The third
person might be from your family, right
, Ma'am. Usually, when we wives confide
in our husbands 'families, they usually
give us input, right? Don't confide in
our families about our husbands, or our
families will tell you to divorce them,
right? That's not a solution, right? I
came, maybe my husband's family asked
me how I can make my husband have a
good work ethic or at least not be
spoiled like that. So that's it, Ma'am.
This life is a choice, Ma'am, you can
live a condition like this sincerely
for the sake of Allah. You will have
multiple rewards, God willing, every
day. Continually giving alms like that.
The rewards are extraordinary. So it
can be a choice, or if, for example,
the mother chooses to separate, that's
also not good for the children, right,
Miss? Try to see what goodness your
husband has. Sometimes we wives only
see our husbands' shortcomings. When
we're emotional, when we're angry, our
husbands are all bad. But when we're
calm, we're sane, Miss. When we're
conscious, when we're in good condition
, we can say, "Oh, yes, my husband is
still good, he takes care of the
children, he's still patient and
willing to take them." At least there's
a motorcycle taxi that's on standby
every day to deliver, that means it's
better than other people. Okay, what's
the point? These are poor children, he
still loves them, he can still teach
them. Take the positive, don't remember
the bad. Hopefully, this way we can
face life patiently. Ask Allah to give
us the strength to face it and give it,
ask, "O Allah, I ask for a multiplied
reward, O Allah, with this, with
everything," and intend that every time
we spend our money to buy a house, pay
for our children's tuition, that is the
intention of charity. O Allah, this is
my charity. If necessary, the intention
is because if there are parents who
have passed away, "O Allah, I intend
that the reward reaches my parents, O
Allah." Bismillah. That's it, Sis. So,
there is no day without worship. God
willing,
God willing,
everything will be full of goodness.
God willing.
God willing. Amen. Good. I hope you
will be strengthened in your field of
charity from your husband. God willing,
Mom. I'll read that there is still a
chance Ustazah, OK? One more thing.
Asalamualaikum warahmatullahi
wabarakatuh, Ustazah. Waalaikumsalam
warahmatullahi wabarakatuh. It's
a bit long, Ustazah from the servant of
Allah, I was planning to divorce. So,
not only was my husband not working,
but he also had an affair with my
husband repent. God willing. Please
pray wearing the hijab, I have already
made up my mind to change myself and be
on his path. But my husband remains the
same, Ustazah. I have explained it to
him, but he encourages me, Ustazah. I
want a divorce, but I already have
three children, Ustazah. If I continue
to divorce, will Allah hate me? As
Allah said in a letter that I forgot,
Ustazah.
Hey, what was her name? Servant of
Allah, Ustaz.
Servant of Allah. So, this is it,
ee, the desire for divorce is because
the husband's condition is still not
compatible, not the same, well,
life is a choice. There is indeed a
hadith of a woman who asks for a
divorce, huluk yes suing her husband
for divorce, asking for a divorce will
not smell the scent of heaven. Well,
let's see what the reason is. This was
seen first, ee, her husband ee, yes, it
is fate, it is already in the past, yes
. But let's see now, Ma'am. Ee, is the
husband still responsible for the
family, with the mother and children?
That is necessary, yes, one, is
responsible in the sense of providing
for them. Then secondly, This mother
who has migrated and has covered her
aurat, is her husband allowing her to
do so, or is he hindered or permitted?
Yes, that's the second one. This means
that you were given the freedom to
migrate, to realize your past mistakes.
This is a question that you need to
answer yourself. Third, when you chose
to migrate, ee ee I mean, was your
husband responsible for the children
with ee attention or meaning,
right, we don't know whether your
husband is a good father to his
children. Meaning he is very attentive
to his children. I'm worried that if
you choose to divorce, your children
will lose their figure. This means that
this needs to be considered. Then,
fourth, when you choose to divorce, who
will marry your children? Do you have
an income or not? So this is a question
because ee what I asked wasn't
explained, at least I gave you what you
call ee options. He. The
first option, if you have the intention
to divorce, you believe that your
condition will be better than your
current condition. That's one, right?
Then second, if you choose to divorce,
will your children Will it be possible
to be good? Meaning that their food,
clothing, and shelter are met, meaning
their education. Right? There are
people who choose to be single parents
because they work, right? But is that a
solution for children who need a father
figure? Then thirdly, the husband's
affair, is it remarriage or adultery?
This also needs to be explained because
the definition of cheating is still
unclear. If you observe, Mbak Olin, is
cheating adultery or remarriage?
Adultery.
Adultery.
He, cheating means doing it secretly
because he is worried
that there is
something bad going on.
Because there are also those who think
that by saying cheating, he has an
underhand marriage. Hm. A secret
marriage. A
secret marriage. A secret marriage is
actually valid according to sharia law.
So is it called seliwer?
Sliwer.
Yes, this means ee, meaning a more
explicit explanation. Cheating means
adultery. If your husband commits
adultery, then that is not good for the
household to be united. It means they
will not meet. between faith and sin.
Then what, Mother, can you, ee, do you
think, with the guidance that Allah has
given you, bring a husband? This means
that you are determined, trying to make
your husband follow your path one day.
Because a husband, ee, if he does it in
a good way, the gentleness of a wife,
God willing, can follow the level of
his way. Let's look at, for example,
Asia, ee, Asia, Pharaoh's wife, for
example. Pharaoh's husband claimed to
be God, but with her gentleness, Asia
managed to negate a very dangerous
decision. Pharaoh's decision was that
if a baby boy was born this year, he
was to be killed. That was a decision
that could not be refused. But with
Asia's gentleness, you could kill the
Prophet Moses, no, no, no. So, this
means that your husband is not Pharaoh,
not Pharaoh. Nauzubillah minzalik. Of
course he can. ee, we, ee, mean, you
have the hope that your husband will
one day follow what you have done now,
migrate. If you have an on-mission, for
example, ee, you are determined, I
don't Whether we want to or not, we
will divorce our husband. I want my
husband to follow my path. How
wonderful it is that we have received
guidance. I want to. Now, when you have
a desire to attract your husband, of
course you have good, gentle methods.
Don't force him. So treat your husband
like a foster child or a student or
something like that. We even tell other
people, why not your husband? Poor
husband. Now, you are the one who knows
how to soften and win your husband's
heart with gentleness. So don't think
that if your husband gets angry or if
we get angry, we won't meet. Instead,
it's through a process. Yes, if the
choice I mentioned earlier is not to
divorce yet, but to try to see if your
husband can follow you? It takes years.
This means that when a wife is patient,
like Asiah was when she faced Pharaoh,
she tries to pull her husband from bad
friends and environment to a good one.
It takes a process. How? With
gentleness, with what? Giving him what
he needs. Yes right? If I ever, Mbak ee
Mbak Olin, maybe you still remember me
comparing a husband to a baby with a
beard, Mbak? Still remember, Mbak?
Forgot, Ustazah.
Forgot huh? Like a baby with a beard.
What I mean is,
like a small child but already old.
Heeh.
It cries.
If anything happens, it cries. Well, a
wife knows her baby's needs, right? If
he's hungry, he's fed, if he's wet,
he's changed. Basically, all those good
needs, if he's been met, he'll be quiet
, right? He.
Well, if he's quiet, we want to turn
him back and forth, want to lift his
legs, want to dress him, he'll laugh
happily even though we're doing it like
that. It's like that, right? It's like
B with a beard, right? Fulfill his
needs, we satisfy him. We serve what he
wants. Later, when he's like this,
he'll definitely follow us. He feels, "
Oh, it turns out my wife is better
after she changed into wearing the
hijab, she's better, she serves him
better, it turns out." Well, this is
extraordinary, right? There is this,
there is a certain pleasure, yes, when
you see your husband has started to
follow us, following our invitation to
go on Umrah together, for example.
Hopefully, God willing, this is all
with God's help if we, eh, if you want
to be patient, meaning you save your
husband from the abyss of hellfire,
this will be an extraordinary reward.
Yes, that's if you really want to, if
you want to divorce, there's no problem
. That means it's a choice, yes. So
everything is up to you, yes. You want
to get a big reward or it's over, yes.
And the future is also unknown, yes,
whether it's best for you to separate,
God willing,
for the questioner. Yes, that's the
last question, Ustazah. Ee, please
conclude our theme today.
Listeners and viewers of Rasul TV,
blessed by Allah. We as Muslim women,
whether our position as a mother or a
wife requires patience and sincerity.
This patience and sincerity are things
that need to be worked on and require a
process and that is indeed It's not
easy. Well, with these eight ways,
among them, we must strengthen our
intentions to draw closer to Allah
through all our acts of worship.
Associate with good people. We take
wisdom from every event and incident.
Then, we, among them, the last one, is
how we believe that, among them, we
understand the essence of our lives,
know our purpose in life, and lastly,
Allah will reward all that we do. This
means we don't need to tire ourselves
out trying to please others. We
surrender everything to Allah. And
hopefully, with this surrender, this
faith, and our acceptance of destiny,
may Allah grant us patience and
sincerity. Continue to pray for all of
us Muslim women, including me, Mbak
Olin, all of us pray for each other
that we are given patience, given
sincerity, and that we are able to face
life in this world which is full of
trials and challenges. May we succeed
and gather together in Paradise, God
willing. Astagfirullahakum. Peace be
upon you warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.
Waalaikumsalam warahmatullahi
wabarakatuh. Before I really close this
event, please allow Ustazah ee I read
the announcement for the listeners of
ikhwan and akhwat this afternoon. Among
them ee the first is zikir jamai or
dhikr together commemorating the 2018
Republic of Indonesia Heroes Day and
the day of the birthday of His Majesty
the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam
together with abina almurabbi K. H.
Muhammad Ihya Ulumuddin on Saturday,
November 10, 2018. The event, God
willing, will be held from dawn until
.00 Western Indonesian Time. Located at
the Nurul Yakin Jami Mosque, Jalan
Syahrin, Gandaria Utara RT 7 RW7
Kebayoran Baru, South Jakarta. God
willing, the event will be filled by
Habib Husein Alatos, Alhabib Mahdi bin
Alwalid Abdurrahman bin Syekh Alatos.
Then there is K. H. Muhyiddin Abdul
Qadir. There is also K. H. Ustaz eh
sorry there is K. H. Muhyiddin Ishak.
The name is similar. I think ee this is
copy paste. Sorry. Let me repeat it
again. In addition to Habib Husein,
there is Al Habib Mahdi bin Alwalid
Abdurrahman bin Syekh Al-Attas, there
is K. H. Muhyiddin Abdul Qadir, there
is also K. H. bin Muhyiddin Ishaq,
there is Ustaz Heri Nurdi, there is the
Chairman of the MUI DKI Jakarta and
other religious scholars and habaib.
And for the second one is an invitation
to the Bi-Weekly recitation of the
Nurul Hidayah Mosque Bumi Serpong
Residence with Ustaz Zen Muhammad
Alhadi. God willing, it will be held on
Sunday, November 11, 2018 at 0:30 am
until finished. located at the Nurul
Hidayah Mosque, Bumi Serpong. Residents
are waiting for brothers and sisters
who may be around Bumi Serbong. Thus,
brothers and sisters, the announcement
or information that I can convey. Ee
thank you Ustazah jazakillah khairan
khasiron. Hopefully Ustazah is given a
long life, health, we are all given
sustenance, age, and patience as well
as sincerity to be a better Muslimah
than today and the previous days.
Insyaallah. Thank you for those on duty
today. There is a guest star Nana who
suddenly appeared in the studio. Then
there is Zen and there is Duren we have
Yusuf Subangkit. Thank you for your
help. Hopefully our mistakes this
afternoon will be forgiven.
Subhanakallahumma wabihamdika ashadu
alla ila anta astagfiruka wa atubu
ilaik. Wabillahi taufik wal hidayah.
Wasalamualaikum warahmatullahi
wabarakatuh. H