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Brail TV. Bismillahirrahmanirrahim.
Alhamdulillahiabbil alamin. Allahumma
sholli ala sayyidina Muhammad wa ala
ali sayyidina Muhammad. Brothers and
sisters who are blessed by Allah
subhanahu wa taala who can reach us via
radio or via Rasil visual via Rasil TV.
Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi
wabarakatuh. Hopefully in good health
on this blessed Friday. May the
brothers and sisters be filled with
beneficial things. Among them is thabul
ilmi, namely seeking knowledge as we
are currently doing. Alhamdulillah
every Friday at 00 noon we are present
in the Ikhwan and Akhwat listening room
with a women's fiqh session with our
teacher Ustazah Herlini Amran. She has
been present among us even though it is
still hybrid. We are in our respective
places even though virtually we are at
Al-Aqsa Mosque. Pray that all of us who
listen can also visit Aqsa later.
Masyaallah. Let us first greet our
teacher Ustazah Helini Amran. Peace be
upon you, Ustazah. And may
Allah bless you all.
Masyaallah. Pray for us, Ustazah, so
that we can all visit Alaqsa, Ustazah.
We pray that the Al-Aqsa Mosque in
Baitul Maqdis will soon be free, Tah.
Amen. Amen. Yes, and it is currently in
full swing, Ustazah. Hopefully, the
martyrs will also be accepted in the
best side by Allah Subhanahu wa taala.
Amen. Okay, Ustazah. God willing, for
approximately 1.5 hours, the theme that
will be raised is only about old age,
namely 10 things that cause our old age
to be more blessed. Tafadol Ustazah.
Jazakallah. Thank you, Mbak Olin.
Bismillahirrahmanirrahim.
Alhamdulillahiabbil alamin. Hamdan yi
wafi mazidah. Yaabbana lakal hamdu bil
iman. Yaana bilam yaanaalamdu quran
lakal hamdu bil ahli wal muah lakal
hamduin anamta biha alumma shli
wasallim wabarik ala sayyidina
muhammadin waa alihi wa ashabi ajmain w
allahumma inna nas'aluka ridaka wal
jannah wa naud naubika minhatika amin
ya rabbal alamin our discussion on
Friday morning. Oh before that we pray
for Ms. Olin who is sick, may she be
given healing.
Amen.
In a state of grief, may Allah comfort
her, may Allah replace the best. We
pray for those who are in difficulty,
may Allah lift their difficulties. We
pray for our oppressed brothers and
sisters on this earth, may Allah give
them victory, may Allah remove them
from all their life problems. We pray
that the strength of the Muslim ukhuwah
will be re-established. God willing,
may Allah give us blessings, mercy,
forgiveness, grace, and love. May Allah
broaden our sustenance and may Allah
grant us the most beautiful ending,
husnul khatimah, God willing. Our theme
this morning, this afternoon on this
Friday, blessed by Allah, is ee related
to ee how our old age will be more
blessed. Yes, we certainly want our old
age to be filled with beauty, right,
Ms. Olin. So there will be 10 things,
of which there are actually many, but
these 10 things are just a summary so
that we can make our old age a blessed,
beautiful, and beneficial old age.
Insyaallah ee we know that old age
cannot be avoided by anyone, no matter
what. Sometimes it is worrying, Miss,
yes. ee for some people, yes, they used
to be beautiful, now they are wrinkled.
Indeed, ee this old age will definitely
come, this phase will definitely come,
physical strength will gradually
decrease, yes. Eye sharpness begins to
decrease. Ms. Oli used to not wear
glasses, yes, now she wears glasses.
That's right. That's right. need a tool
to see yes hearing has started to
decline yes or something yes
old or ustazah
oh there she is oh God
Meanwhile the skin is also sagging, yes
, it's starting to not be as firm as it
used to be, yes. Lines of aging have
started to appear, yes. Maybe the lines
between our eyebrows have started to
wrinkle, yes. Hair has also started to
turn white, has started to decorate our
heads, yes. Even diseases, uh,
degenerative diseases have also started
to appear at this phase. If Buya Hamka
said that we like to hear Mbak Lin, yes
, when hair or when hair starts to gray
, yes, energy starts to decrease, yes,
skin starts to sag, vision starts to
blur, teeth start to fall out like that
. That's ee very beautiful language yes
. Well, this is where old age begins.
If we see and hear the word of Allah in
surah Almukmin verse 67 eh Allah said
azubillahyairim. musammaun. So, Allah
explains in Surah Al-Mukmin verse ee 67
that it is Allah, He who created man
from dust, then from a drop of semen,
then from a clot of blood, then He
brought you forth as children, then He
left you alive until you reached
maturity, yes. Then He left you alive
until you reached old age. Some of you
died before that. We did this so that
you might reach your appointed term and
that you might understand. Subhanallah.
So this verse explains our old age,
which is part of the final phase that
humans face. Starting from a drop of
semen, then successively, yes,
gradually until old age. Well, this
verse also says tumma litakunu syuko.
Then He left you alive until old age.
So this is indeed our time, getting
older every month, every year, right,
Sis. Before we were unmarried, we got
married, then we had children. The
children gradually grew up, then we got
married, and the children then had
children too. So, what we used to be
was a virgin, then we became
grandmothers, then grandfathers. And so
on. Well, of course, you are then
allowed to live until old age. Well,
regarding the age limit of old age,
Imam Alqurtubi rahimahullah once said
that an old person is a shukh, someone
who has passed the age of 40.
Masyaallah. Are you almost 40, Miss Oli
?
Is it past, Ustazah?
It's past, right? Masyaallah. It's far
past.
Masyaallah. This means that you have
passed the age of shukh, yes, you have
entered the age of over 40. Well,
especially when we hear from the hadith
of Abu Hurairah radhiallahu anhu that
the Prophet said, "Umtiin." So,
waqumajuz. So, the age of my people is
between 60 and 70. Few of them exceed
that. So, there's a bonus for those who
are 70 years old and above. Well, we
will reach our final years. This is
what is called old age. Especially in
the Yasin letter that we always read,
right? Usually on Friday or Friday
night, right. Whoever we extend the
life of, we will return him to his own
destiny, so will they not reflect? So
it means when we were young, when we
were approaching old age, when we were
old we would return. So it means like
children, yes, we are kept away, we
avoid, hopefully, God forbid, don't let
it become worse as we get older, right,
Mbak Oli. God forbid. Don't let us be
old, starting our twilight years,
thinking only of wealth, only position,
or only a partner, ee, to indulge our
lusts, yes, to prove that I am still
young even though I am old. This is
what we avoid. Even in the hadith, it
is mentioned that there are still
people who are old. So when they are
getting old, what is it that in their
hearts is like a young person, what is
it that they love? Long dreams and love
of wealth. So let's see, maybe there
are those who have entered old age who
apologize for remarrying. Even though
physically, in terms of energy, maybe
in terms of attention, ee, is
decreasing, quote, yes. There could be
an ambition to prove that even though
they are old, their spirits are still
young. This is careful because we are
worried that when we do that, due to
our lust, we will leave many traces of
sin or sin that flow, responsibilities
that we neglect, injustice towards our
families, many things. So, eh, in the
narrations, it is also mentioned that
there are people who are old but their
desires are like those of young people
in two ways. Greed for wealth and long
dreams. It seems like they want to live
long. So they give vent to their lusts
as if old age is allowed, but their
enthusiasm is no less than that of
young people. Nauzubillah minzalik. We
don't want to be like that. When that
time happens, nauzubillah, what will
happen when Allah takes his life? His
age, nauzubillah, ee...It's sad, Mbak
Olin, when on the Day of Judgment we
only hope for Allah's mercy, Allah's
forgiveness, Allah's love. It turns out
that God doesn't talk to us. No. W
yuzakihim, did not clean them even if
ilaihim. Don't even look at them. Even
if you are pious. For them it is a
painful torment. Oh my God, that's
really, really sad. Where today we have
no more protection than Allah's
protection. Hope only in Allah. Ask for
forgiveness for our sins and mistakes.
Just hope in Allah that at that time
Allah doesn't care about us. Doesn't
clean us, doesn't look at us. Even
painful torture. Who are those three?
Among them is Syikhun Zanin, an old man
who commits adultery. So in his old age
it wasn't the pious deeds that he
brought, that he collected, that he
prepared, but what? Indulging in lust.
Adultery, changing partners.
Nauzubillah minzalik. That's why we
find several cases of people dying on
the stomachs of old prostitutes.
Nauzubillah minzalik. Or perhaps the
elderly still indulge in lust for the
same sex. Nauzubillah minzalik, yes.
Then, what else are the three people
mentioned above, including the sikhun
sikhun zanin, men who commit adultery.
Then there is the wikun kadzab of
rulers who like to lie. So, making
empty promises, lying to the people is
among those who do not receive mercy
from Allah. Allah does not speak to
them, Allah does not cleanse them,
Allah does not look at them, and for
them is a painful punishment. Then the
third is the waailun mustakbirun, the
arrogant poor. Already poor, arrogant
too. Yes, what I mean here is that the
arrogant poor, for example, are those
who are already poor financially, do
not want to pray, they are arrogant
before Allah, do not want to follow
Allah's commands. So that is considered
arrogant. Well, ee listeners who are
blessed by Allah. So, old age for a
Muslim is both an episode and a final
opportunity that greatly determines our
fate in the afterlife. It is a
beautiful time, but also full of
anxiety because there is no other
period of life after that except death.
Of course, when you are old, you die.
Although death is not actually due to
old age, death is indeed a fate that
has been determined by Allah, not
because of age. But usually when Allah
gives a long life until old age, it is
certainly close to death. Well, if old
age is good, the afterlife will also be
good. But if it is bad, the afterlife
will also be bad. So the determination
in old age is what determines our fate
in the afterlife. Whether it is
beautiful or not. Well, that is why our
discussion this time is related to 10
things that make our old age more
blessed. So this is what I said, Mbak
Olin, actually not to preach because I
am also in the process of aging, yes, I
am old too, I am over 50, right? Ee
means we have good luck, yes, it is
yukhah, at least to remind myself
personally, all of us because reminding
each other is ee without mukminin which
is beneficial ee for believers. God
willing, hopefully we are among the
faithful when reminded, hopefully we
can immediately be aware and we can
carry it out because we have gained a
lot of knowledge but only a little of
it we are able to put into practice. I
know that, but hopefully with this
reminder, we will be aware, take care
of ourselves, and then try to practice
it, God willing. The first thing, so
that we can make our old age more
blessed, is to revive the spirit of
life. What do you mean? Rekindle the
spirit of life. This is how it is, ee,
usually elderly people lose their
spirit, right? Especially when the
children are grown, married, living in
their own homes. The house that was
once busy becomes quiet, lonely, alone
with a partner. If indeed there is
still a life partner, if the partner
has gone before returning to Allah,
left alone. Sad, right? Well, here
usually ee there is a feeling of
discouragement, right. So, life seems
meaningless, just waiting for death.
When will I die, it feels like life is
not pleasant. Well, that's usually how
it is. Even ee, in everyday reality,
many people place elderly people in
society. Usually, that's true, those of
non-productive age are pushed aside
from life, don't get the attention they
deserve, are considered trivial, as if
they are a burden. Well, this feeling
is definitely present in the elderly.
Well, this feeling must be fought.
There is a revival, instill a sense of
optimism with our enthusiasm for life.
A strong enthusiasm for life will
usually give birth to positive energy
that encourages people to always be
creative and productive. Of course,
this can make life more meaningful, yes
, yes. Even though we are old, we still
feel the benefits, feel the blessings,
there is a zest for life. Oh, but don't
let your enthusiasm be excessive, you
have to be self-aware. E. For me, I am
old but young in spirit, so I end up
trying to get married again. Instead of
being responsible, ee, it becomes a
burden. It could be that people want to
marry us not because we feel young, yes
, but because they want money, yes,
which will eventually lead to arguments
between our children and our wives.
Let's take this as an example, it
doesn't mean we can't have a partner,
but at least we can start to realize
that we're old. Even though we're old,
we still have a zest for life, a
positive zest that gives rise to
optimism and allows us to produce works
that are beneficial to others. But
don't overdo it, meaning you'll create
problems later on, just to prove that
you're still young and have plenty of
energy. Don't use things that you'll
regret in the end. So, this is the
first step in how we can have a zest
for life. Well, if we look outside of
Islam, for example, in countries like
Japan, for example, when they're older,
their children don't want to care for
them. Eventually, their parents end up
in nursing homes. Being in a nursing
home means they don't want to care for
their parents. So when this happens, a
phenomenon like this occurs, and they
end up feeling like there's no point in
getting married. They feel like if they
get married, they'll be a burden when
they're old. Many of them don't want to
get married. Even if we get married, it
will be useless if we have children
later, ee, raising children is already
difficult, later when the children are
grown up, they will be successful. Oh,
we are old, eh, in a nursing home, no
longer want to be cared for. Yes, so it
is this materialistic life that makes
them not want to marry. It is different
from Islamic teachings, huh. When in
Islam, how to be devoted to parents,
then in Islam there are no nursing
homes. Yes, so here we are, ee, in this
old age, we hope that the spirit of
life is there. Because didn't the
Prophet say khairun nas is khairukum e
anfaukum binnas. The best people are
khairunas, namely those who are useful.
Even though we are old, but if we are
useful, that is extraordinary. So
that's the first thing, first rekindle
the spirit of life. Don't lose heart,
don't want to ask for death, don't. The
main thing is to have the spirit of
life. At least before we leave this
world, we want to have work that we can
carve out. That work will be our
charity later that we will receive
after we are gone. Well, that can be
done later, whether the charity can be
adjusted to our abilities. Is our work
included in our goodness? Well, that
can be done. The point is, don't lose
heart, don't ask for death. You're not
allowed to ask for death. Except when
we are in a serious condition, which is
really, really, like the illness of old
people, where they can't do anything.
Then we can pray, "O Allah, give me
life if life is good for me. Or, let me
die if that's what's best for me." Well
, that's the form of prayer. So, it's
not a form of prayer, "O Allah, let me
die, O Allah." Not like that. Well,
that's the first thing. How do we
revive our enthusiasm for life. Then
the second is gratitude. Yes, we must
be grateful for the various blessings
we have received so far, we have
received from Allah. Allah has given us
so many blessings. Especially the
blessing that we must be grateful for
is the blessing of faith. The blessing
of Islam. If we are not in Islam, in
faith, well, maybe we are now at a loss
, not receiving guidance, not receiving
direction from Allah. This is an
extraordinary blessing that Allah
bestows upon His chosen ones, with
which we can fill our old age with the
best things. Yes, so the blessing of
faith, the blessing of Islam, is an
extraordinary blessing for which we
should be grateful. Alhamdulillah, we
are in a state of Islam, hopefully in a
state of faith, God willing. Now, this
gratitude is capable of bringing
extraordinary vibrations, yes, which
will have a profound effect on us. This
gratitude will of course spread from
our hearts to our entire bodies. This
will ultimately affect the hormones and
energy waves in our bodies. Besides
being healthy, of course, the effect
will also give us positive thoughts,
yes. This means that if we are grateful
and good at being grateful, God willing
, our old age will be full of blessings
and valuable. Isn't it true that Allah
will increase the blessings of those
who are grateful? So never be someone
who is ungrateful, regretful. Imagine
if you were not grateful for having
children. Alhamdulillah. What about
people who don't have children? So
everything when we see ee with the
glasses of gratitude, God willing, the
next pleasures will be given by Allah.
This is incredibly powerful. So
lainatum laidanakum. Hopefully, ee in
the old days that we want to be blessed
in, we go through it with gratitude.
Alhamdulillah, the children are now
adults. Maybe some feel that their
children are old enough to marry, but
they still regret not getting married.
Why is this just a thought that keeps
thinking about it? We should be
grateful, thank God, our children,
hopefully, we hope to Allah to get a
partner, but thank God our children are
healthy, our children ee can ee be
devoted to their parents. Alhamdulillah
means be grateful. Don't look at the
negative ee, ee see the shortcomings.
We are grateful for everything we have.
Alhamdulillah. Don't regret this life.
If only my husband were still alive. If
not, we wouldn't be like that. We are
grateful, thank God, there must be
wisdom here. Well, that's the second
thing, be grateful. Always be grateful.
Then the third is filling your time.
Filling our time with religious studies
, yes. With knowledge, regularly
studying the Quran, contemplating it or
meditating on it. Yes, at least if we
can still read, we also read the
translation. We can listen to religious
studies on the radio, we can, uh, if we
are still able to read YouTube, or
maybe, uh, if we can still walk to the
mosque, we can attend religious studies
. There are lots of ustaz, right? Yes,
if we are still able to read, we read
tafsir books. This means, uh, studies
that will broaden our horizons, yes.
Because by participating in these
religious studies, our old age will
certainly be a blessing. Even staying
young means being busy. In fact,
sometimes people say, why do we get
busier the older we get? Busy with what
? Busy with studying the Quran, huh.
Masyaallah, Miss. We find some of our
mothers who are active in religious
studies who are already getting old,
huh. That's an extraordinary spirit of
life, huh. Ee, of course, besides
attending regular religious studies, of
course we have a lot of friends, many
can even exercise here, Miss. I haven't
had a chance to join the sport yet,
Miss. What, Miss?
Where, Ustazah?
The sports that are being discussed are
those
Oh, lintikung. Lintik.
Lintik huh. Eh, liantik what? Lintikung
.
Lintik
huh. That's what most of the
looting is like.
Well, that means when we are active, ee
, in positive things, yes, with the
study, God willing, it will be a
blessing for our lives. So we fill our
time, not just brooding at home,
sleeping or regretting our inactivity.
Then not only that, pay attention to
our obligatory deeds, yes. If at our
age, ee, so that our old age will be a
blessing, we pay attention to
obligatory deeds, such as our prayers.
Don't forget, when you hear the call to
prayer, get ready for prayer. This is
the obligatory thing for Ramadan
fasting if you are strong enough. If
you are not strong enough, then don't,
if you can pay fidyah, yes, if it is
not obligatory. This means paying
attention to our obligatory deeds and
never neglecting them. Yes, this is
very important. Sometimes, when we were
young, we didn't enjoy worship, Mbak
Olin, but sometimes we neglect it in
our old age. So, while we're still
young, our younger siblings, our
children are still young, we should
enjoy worship so that our parents will
also be diligent in worship. Sometimes
we find people who are senile who are
senile in their worship. They pray
repeatedly because they forget, because
senile people forget, right? So they
pray, even though they've already
prayed, and then they pray again. That
could be because they really enjoyed
worship when they were young. Well, we
want that to be the case, not because
they neglected obligatory deeds. In the
end, what happens is what they did when
they were young. They enjoyed watching,
but in their old age, they also watched
. When they were young, they counted
money because they had a lot of money,
and when they were senile, they counted
money like that. So, here we want our
days in old age to be blessed. We pay
attention to obligatory deeds and don't
miss anything. Then we avoid things
that are forbidden. What are forbidden
things? We avoid them. Yes. Yes. Of
course, we know all this from attending
religious studies, we gain knowledge,
we know what is permissible and what is
forbidden. Then we add to the
recommended deeds. Yes, so far, we
never forget the obligatory ones, never
neglect them, add the recommended ones.
Yes, there are many recommended deeds.
Of course, we know that from the
knowledge we always study. We often
recite tahmid, recite istighfar, and
practice tawwah. Because we have many
sins. When we reached puberty, perhaps
we didn't understand or didn't
understand, or perhaps our parents
didn't understand Islam and didn't
teach us Islamic values, maybe. Because
each of us has a different upbringing.
There are many obligations we neglect,
many sins we commit, many things that
perhaps our sin record is already
extensive. Now, we realize that we will
meet Allah, we will be called by Allah.
So, the opportunity still exists; we
increase our istigfar, we pray to Allah
, we are given the opportunity to live,
we are given the opportunity to repent,
we are given the opportunity to correct
all our mistakes and mistakes in the
past. Now is the time to start making
istigfar and repent. God willing, Allah
is the Most Gracious of the Womb. No
matter how big our past sins are, the
benchmark for us, husnul khatimah or
suul khatimah, is at the end of our
life. There are many people whose days,
time, and age are filled with
disobedience and sin. But when on the
last day before he dies, he repents
with nasuha repentance, God willing, he
will get a good final husnul khatimah.
So do more tahmid, read istigfar,
repent, do more light deeds but the
reward is big. We've discussed that,
Mbak Olin, light practice has big
rewards, yes, we've discussed that a
lot. Yes, we've discussed that. So we
do those light deeds but the rewards
are great, like dhikr, reciting salawat
, whatever, we will certainly get it
with knowledge, right? Then regularly
read dhikr morning and evening, read
the morning and evening Magfurat. Try,
even if Allah can force it. If we force
worship, if we don't force it, we will
definitely follow Satan's temptations.
There are so many things to do, not
this and that. Unless we still have
responsibilities, right? When we're old
, there are no more children, and the
grandchildren are grown up. Some people
run out of time to raise their
grandchildren. Yes, actually it's okay,
there's no problem. But this way,
grandchildren are their parents '
responsibility, right? Indeed, some of
them are like this, so it's up to each
of us. Well, we used to spend time
raising their mothers, now we raise
their children too. Well, well,
hopefully if the intention is for Allah
, hopefully it will be rewarded. It
will be beneficial. Yes. Then, ee,
strengthen ties of friendship. So,
don't just spend your days being silent
, sad, or doing nothing. We should be
active. God willing, our days will be
blessed, and our old age will be
blessed. That's the third point. Then
the fourth, avoid negative thoughts.
Suspicion. Masyaallah. It's true that
when we get older, we become more
sensitive, right, Ms. Olin? Usually,
when our children say something, we
translate it, we interpret it, we
become sad, we cry, even though they
might mean something different. So,
negative thoughts, of course, ee, ee,
negative thinking, of course, won't
give us any positive value in life
because negative thoughts or suuzon
will certainly bring anxiety, doubt,
hesitation, and heartache. Well, this
is negative energy. If this negative
energy is channeled from the mind, from
the heart, and distributed throughout
the body, it will affect the
performance of our organs. So we lose
enthusiasm, become lazy, become
discouraged. Well, if this continues to
happen, eventually illness will come.
There are many illnesses, all kinds of
illnesses, that will affect you because
most of them, you can ask a medical
professional, a health professional,
that one of the causes of illness can
be due to thoughts. So, that's why we
should avoid negative thoughts. Just
think positively. Oh, I mean, don't
think about it, don't take it to heart.
For example, if you're sad, for example
, your grandchild is like that with his
grandmother screaming. After all,
children of old people are sad, right,
Miss Olin? Are you starting to feel sad
yet? I think it's
just experience.
Experience means that those of us who
are entering old age usually feel sad.
If a child speaks loudly, it
immediately becomes very sad. Remember
again, "Oh God, this child used to be
taken care of, we gave him our whole
life. Now he's starting to act like
that just because he's being nice."
Well, that's usually how parents are
like that. So, let's avoid that. We
should avoid negative thoughts.
Directly ask for forgiveness,
astagfirullahalazim. Pray for it right
away. That's the fourth point. Avoid
being suspicious. Then fifth, expand
your chest as wide as possible, as deep
as possible. E, what is it called?
That's as high as it is, right? So
expand your chest as wide as possible.
So it means a lot of understanding, a
lot of understanding, so a lot of what,
ee, in the position of yes, never mind,
maybe open up your chest, forgive
profusely if there is a mistake, be it
to your partner, to your children, to
your neighbors, to anyone, or to you,
usually, Ms. Olin. What I hear is that
as you get older, paranoid schistopenia
disease appears more and more, it
recurs, it makes it easy to think badly
of people, you like to bring up the
past, it's hard to forget. ee what is
the name of the words of the person who
hurt him. Well, this is normal. So, if
we, who have gained the knowledge,
fight everything that is painful, that
offends our feelings, that we don't
like, let's just ignore it. The
atmosphere has cleared up. Oh God, we
don't think about other people, we're
at a loss if we think about what other
people say. Okay, we only hope for
Allah's pleasure. Well, that's the
fifth point. That's it for now, Miss.
We'll continue later.
Okay. Masyaallah, Ikhwan and Akwat,
we've heard five of the 10 things that
will make our old age, God willing,
more blessed. Among them are keeping
the spirit of life alive, then being
grateful, then by attending religious
studies, avoiding bad deeds. The third
is maintaining ties with relatives, the
fourth is avoiding suspicion. And the
fifth is being broad-minded. There are
still five more. God willing, I will
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Currently we are hybrid live with
Ustazah Herlini Amran for a session on
women's jurisprudence with the theme of
10 things that make old age more
blessed. Ustazah has already delivered
five points. There are still five more.
Tafadul Ustazah continues,
okay. Let's continue, okay.
Bismillahirrahmanirrahim. The sixth.
The fifth ee sixth now, okay. Uh sixth
ee, uh what is it called? Earlier we
have opened our hearts as wide as
possible. So now the sixth is accepting
reality. Accepting this reality means
ee accepting destiny sincerely. So here
, ee, how do we, in terms of our lives,
have been determined by Allah. Allah
has given us according to the
provisions that Allah has determined.
So we accept all the destiny that Allah
has determined. So don't let there be
regrets or say what if. This is destiny
, okay. For example, maybe in our old
age, the one who precedes Allah might
be our partner. Then we feel regret,
yes, if only it were longer, if only.
Then we compare our lives with our
friends' lives. If only my husband were
still alive, if only my wife were still
alive, if only try try try. Ah, this is
not allowed. It means that all of our
lives have been determined by Allah.
Yes, this is part of the pillars of
faith. One of the pillars of faith is
believing in qada and qadar. Or for
example, "If only my child was
successful, my life would not be as
miserable as this. If only, try try."
So we are not satisfied with the life
we have. He tries this and that because
of illness try try try nauzubillah tak
kad. The Prophet said, "Never say if
only, if only, but say qadarallah waya
faala." This is Allah's determination.
Whatever Allah determines, what Allah
wills will happen. Well, here we are
open-hearted, yes, accepting reality.
We ee accept fate sincerely. This is
our determination. Maybe in old age we
won't have children. Maybe in old age
we won't be with our life partner.
Perhaps in her old age, the children
she raised, cared for, cared for, and
guided from infancy until marriage left
her to be with their husbands. So,
that's all she has to do. So, we no
longer regret fate. We accept all of
Allah's provisions. Because our lives
have been determined by Allah. So, we
accept everything. The destiny we
receive is destiny. Whether it's good
destiny or bad destiny. We must not
deny it. We should accept it sincerely.
Not complain. Not regret it. Why is
Allah like this? Why not? This shows a
lack of faith. Because the Prophet said
in his saying, "A servant is not said
to have faith until he believes in
destiny, both good and bad." And until
he knows that what is destined to
happen to him will never miss and what
is not destined to happen to him will
never happen. So everything has been
determined by Allah from A to Z,
everything has been destined by Allah.
So, we just have to accept it, we are
grateful for what Allah has destined.
The more we are grateful for the
blessings that Allah has given us or
perhaps a disaster, there must be
wisdom when Allah gives us a bad
destiny. So we accept the reality of
this life that befalls us, especially
those who remember the past. So the
story was in the past so that the
children and grandchildren don't want
to hear it anymore. In the end, why is
this, children, ah, enough, just a
little sick alone. Ah, now we are
approaching old age, may our lives be
blessed. Never mind, there is no need
to regret fate anymore. We accept the
reality that Allah has given. Yes,
maybe there are those who spend their
old age alone. Maybe Allah has not
destined a life partner. Ms. Olin,
there are several cases of our parents
who are alone, who are alone, they are
not married. God knows, it is a test
from Allah, they don't find a partner,
they end up alone. In the end, if we
don't return to faith, of course we
will try if I had married first, if I
had accepted the proposal, if I had
already had children, if I had already
had children, I would have...No way,
nauzubillah, this is destiny, we accept
it all sincerely. Even the sickness
that Allah gives us is part of the test
and God willing, there must be wisdom
in it. Isn't it when Allah gives
sickness, usually parents are sick a
lot, right, Sis, the sick are obedient,
the sick are whatever, there are always
illnesses. What else can we do, try it
first, ee, because parents are the ones
who like what, ee, calcium deficiency,
osteoporosis and all that. If only when
we were young we exercised diligently,
we would no longer look back, it's
happened, it's destiny. Hopefully, with
this sickness that Allah tests us, it
will erase all our sins. So just ask
Allah when you feel sick, O Allah, with
this sickness, forgive my sins. God
willing, hopefully Allah will forgive.
Moreover, the Prophet said that the
prayers of sick people are answered. In
fact, we were commanded by the Prophet
if there is a sick person to ask for
prayer from him. Because their prayers
are like angels, the prayers of angels,
ee, are answered by Allah. Because
people who are sick, who are willing to
accept the test that God gives can have
their sins erased. Yes, that's the
sixth. So accept reality, okay? Accept
fate sincerely. Then the seventh,
gather with pious people. Yes, we,
mothers, God willing, there are lots of
mothers who see all that. Let's join in
to take part in the recitation.
Hopefully the mothers won't make noise.
Hey, there are lots of mothers, God
willing, there are good mothers who are
far from sin and immorality. Avoid
going to gatherings that add to your
sins and contain gossip and backbiting
that only talks about the person you
are talking about, only about worldly
material problems. Avoid it because it
will be affected. In the end, instead
of increasing our worship, we increase
our competition. against the world,
with wealth competing to show that I am
capable and rich. Nauzbillah yes. We
choose a group of pious people who are
pious. God willing, it will increase
our faith. Then eighth, give a message
to children and descendants so that
they become pious children, pious
children who pray for their parents. Is
it prayed for when you are alive or
later after you die? Yes, I would
advise our children that if their
parents are sick or we are sick, don't
forget to talk about it when we are
about to die so that the last sentence
spoken is the sentence of monotheism.
Yes, we order it to our children. We
order everything that is good, we order
that after we die, never fight about
wealth, love each other. So, all these
messages, even though the children may
not be married yet, will at least be
remembered by them. Order it, Miss Olin
, I still really remember my parents,
eh, Mom was still small at that time,
maybe she was still in elementary
school, what did she play with before,
right? You still, still, still like Mom
to accompany you to play games with Dad
, that's how it is. When I was little,
I used to say that my mother would say,
"When I die, pray for me, my child's
prayers will come to me while playing."
We also responded to it while playing,
but I still remembered it, it was still
imprinted in my heart because it was
fun learning while playing, maybe I put
in positive sentences, those sentences
made me remember. Oh yeah, it's been a
long time since she passed away, but I
still remember. Oh yeah, my parents
asked me to pray for them. Well, this
is also a message for our children. So,
whatever we do from our good deeds and
our activities, don't forget to intend
it for our parents who have passed away
. Well, we tell our children that when
Mom has passed away, Dad has passed
away, don't forget to send rewards,
send good deeds. God willing, it will
arrive because that's what our parents
hope for. Well, these messages are even
a message for our children, don't ever
fight over our possessions that we have
left behind. We can imagine, Ma'am,
parents who forget to give advice,
perhaps also forget to educate their
children about these assets after their
parents die, their inheritance becomes
a fight over them. Killing each other,
breaking friendships. Nauzbillah yes.
At least it's possible that they won't
commit murder, but at least they will
fight among themselves over the
inheritance left by us parents who
haven't or forgotten to give advice,
messages or wills. Don't fight over it,
divide it according to inheritance law.
Well, this is it. This is very
important because we don't want
whatever we leave behind, whatever we
leave behind to be a disaster for our
children. The children we give birth
with the hope that they will become
pious children, in fact they fight over
our property which has not yet been
given away or perhaps even the property
which is still left behind, which is
still our legacy, which they are
enemies with, breaking off the
friendship, even though we are the
parents who gave birth to them. How sad
is that? So, we are telling them to
help each other, really, so that our
children will hopefully remember this,
God willing. This is the eighth. The
ninth is a will regarding property. So
you can be a parent so that your
children don't fight, so when dividing
inheritance, you can just give it to
them while they are still alive. You
don't take property with you when you
die, you save it, that means how much M
you keep, you don't know if your child
will die suddenly or not. So when I
checked my parents 'inheritance, I
found at the bank everything up to
billions. Wow, there's been a fight,
nauzubillah. So just make a will now
whether you want to donate, donate or
give alms. Because the best wealth is
when you are still alive, it is donated
or donated or alms or gifts to children
. Yes, we will make a will regarding
our assets. In fact, it should be noted
, if perhaps at this time he doesn't
want to be open, the father is the one
who earns his living, maybe he's not
open with his wife and children, so he
keeps his wealth privately. Bring it
and make notes. Who knows, maybe he'll
suddenly die, or be hit in an accident.
Suddenly, after he dies, his son
rummages around and finds it, or
something, in a safe, for example. Wow,
it turns out there's 50 million, huh!
Wow, it could be a fight, huh. In fact,
it could belong to someone else, huh,
because it wasn't in a will. Write a
will! That's why the Prophet advised us
to write a will, huh. Where the debt is
, to whom, it's necessary, huh, so it
doesn't become a burden on us too.
People who owe money will be a hassle
later, huh, when they die, huh, they're
told to pay, but the reward is
postponed. Oh dear, and hopefully we
don't die leaving behind any debt, God
willing. That's a will, huh, a will, a
message of advice to our children
regarding wealth. Well, the last thing
is to always pray. Pray with every
breath we take, in our days, in all our
time, not only when praying, at any
time, in any condition, many prayers,
yes, especially prayers for Husnul
Khatimah. Biha Allah bihusnil ktimah,
Allahumarzuqnal husnul khatimah, yes,
basically the prayer that we die in a
state of husnul khatimah or the prayer
that for example we often hear, yes,'
Allah'alir umri akiru amaliq, O Allah,
make the end of my last age, my last
deed, and my best day is the day when I
meet you. So, here are 10 things for
our old age that can be a blessing.
Hopefully we can put it into practice.
At least to remind myself, Sis, yes.
Hopefully you can remember what has
been said and put it into practice.
Hopefully God willing. Wallahuam below.
Amen. Amen, rabbal alamin. God willing.
We have listened to the theme raised
and discussed by Ustazah, namely 10
things that cause old age to be more
blessed. And the opportunity has been
opened to ask questions, I will go
straight to the first questioner from
Cibinong. A servant of Allah asks,
Ustazah. Peace be upon you, Ustazah.
Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi
wabarakatuh.
Waalaikumsalam warahmatullahi
wabarakatuh. I teach gentlemen who are
over 60 years old but are learning to
recite the Quran, I mean. But for the
pronunciation of the letters and the
tajweed, Ustazah, I wonder if it is a
sin, Ustazah? Thank you.
Um, so it's not like I'm old, because
the pronunciation of the letters should
be from childhood. Meaning, when you're
old, it's difficult, at least there's
an effort. Even if it's not possible,
God willing, it's okay. It means keep
trying, keep trying, Masyaallah. Indeed
, learning in old age is like writing
on water, as the saying goes. If at a
young age it's like writing on stone,
right? Well, the important thing is the
enthusiasm to keep learning. Keep
learning, right? That's it, Miss.
Okay, Ustazah. This is from a servant
of Allah in Jakarta. Peace be upon you,
Ustazah.
May you always be given good health and
we always faithfully listen to the
study of women's jurisprudence. Ustazah
, I currently live with my parents,
namely my father who is over 70 years
old, but has a habit of watching soap
operas for hours. So when we remind him
to perform obligatory prayers, Ustazah
gets angry. What should we do to
motivate him to maintain or improve his
obligatory worship activities, Ustazah
at least. Thank you, Ustazah. First of
all, yes, we, O Allah, yes, it is a
lesson for us, hopefully, in our old
age we will not be like that. First, as
a child, pray a lot, pray, pray, pray,
pray, pray, that's the first. Second,
if there are soap operas with religious
themes, that's okay. Not romance themes
, religious themes, right? What, Miss,
religious themes?
Just those guidances. Guidance,
guidance, remembering death. I think
it's okay if you have YouTube, Miss, I
don't know what's on TV, it's been a
long time since I watched TV. That
means, don't immediately close or turn
off the fun, but change it to something
with more story content that reminds
you of the end of the world. That's the
second. Third, keep reminding them to
be patient, especially in prayer,
because in Surah Thaha verse 132 it
says, "Well, good morals are alaiha."
Command your family to pray and be
patient with that command. That also
applies to our parents, not just to our
children. Continue to be reminded,
guided, don't let anyone feel like
they're lecturing you, don't feel like
they're lecturing you. Just be patient.
Gu, yes. It means that our parents used
to raise us with patience and love. Now
it's our parents 'turn to be like
little children. We also have to be
more patient, just as our parents used
to raise us. Yes, that's right.
Hopefully, in this way, Allah will give
us guidance. Hopefully, we can do the
obligatory things, God willing.
Okay. Uh, hopefully this servant of
Allah has answered. Then, still from a
servant of Allah in Bekasi.
Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi
wabarakatuh, Ustazah.
Waalaikumsalam warahmatullahi
wabarakatuh.
We have parents, a father who has
difficulty walking and has to be helped
by others because his hearing and sight
are not good. We are both very busy
siblings. We can't leave work. Several
times we left him with a nurse and a
distant relative. But it seems like
father is uncomfortable, in fact, it
tends to be short-lived. Ustazah, it's
really hard for me to ask this. But I
think the best thing is for us to
entrust father to a nursing home,
Ustazah. Are we considered disobedient
children, Ustazah? Sorry. I
apologize for earlier, I was busy
working. Is that a girl or a boy? It
wasn't
mentioned, Ustazah.
So, it's like this,
two siblings just said it.
So, if he is indeed entrusted to a
nursing home, now, what is the father's
attitude and acceptance? Is he happy or
sad? This is the determining factor.
When our parents are entrusted to a
nursing home and they can't refuse but
are sad, they are disobedient children.
Yes, it means their parents didn't
actually want to, they didn't want to
be entrusted. But with the condition
that they feel burdened, they are
ultimately entrusted with it, and with
the parents' unwillingness, this child
gets, of course, quotation marks, qul
walidain, ee, they are disobedient. So
how do we do it? Yes, of course, he
remains under our supervision. In a
nursing home, you rarely see him. But
if he's with us, we can see him every
day. No matter how busy we are, at
least we can come home at night and
meet and greet him. That's already very
happy for parents. In a nursing home,
you feel like you're being abandoned.
You feel far away from your family. It
wasn't explained earlier whether his
family is married or what about their
children. So, if I look at it here,
it's okay for us to use someone to take
care of him, to replace us if it's
deemed difficult for us to make time
for him. However, in any case, it's
actually better to prioritize child
supervision. Hiring someone is
expensive. Don't think about money,
because there might be people who work
hard to care for their parents like
this and get little pay. If we give
them a lot, meaning what's appropriate,
of course our parents will be taken
care of. So, we don't have to think
about material things. As long as our
parents are cared for, yes. ter eeeni
fulfilled all his needs. Even with ee
big reward is not enough to repay his
services, yes, rather than regretting
it later, yes. Because parents are the
key to heaven. We will no longer be
able to find heaven except by being
devoted to our parents. That's why the
pious predecessors cried when their
parents died, yes. Now there is no
longer a key to heaven that I can guard
. Well, so while it's not too late,
never entrust our parents to a nursing
home. Don't. Yes, no matter how
difficult our parents 'condition is. It
means try, God willing, where there is
a will, there is a way, God willing. So
, ee, never be cared for by others,
meaning in other places, yes. Unless
that is the parents' request. Maybe
there are parents, there are also Miss
Nursing homes that are full, ee, full
of activities, yes, what Mr. Winarno,
yes, nursing homes for the elderly, no,
no, not sick people there, yes, but
when they are old, they enter something
like an Islamic boarding school, yes.
Oh. Well, he can study there. He is
still able to serve himself. He just
wants to fill his days with knowledge.
That's an exception. Yes. Well, if
parents are old, sick and unable to
care for themselves, this is a child's
opportunity to be devoted at the end of
their parents 'lives. This is a child's
opportunity to show that he is a pious
child. What are we looking for? Looking
for material things, what are we
looking for in this world? The key to
heaven is already there. Don't waste it
. In fact, when we make all kinds of
sacrifices, time, energy, and material
things, our lives can be blessed.
Because Allah gives us parents whom we
will care for forever. So remain
patient because serving our parents is
like jihad. It's hard. It's hard. Jihad
is hard. Jihad means sacrificing wealth
, energy, tears, all of which are part
of jihad. It turns out it's the same as
caring for parents, it requires
sacrifice of feelings, sacrifice of
time, energy. Because parents sometimes
say things that are thoughtless,
hurtful, and alienating. ah, the main
thing is, it's truly jihad. Never
resist it. The priority should be that
our life is full of blessings. So, when
we are devoted to our parents at the
end of their lives, God willing, our
children will later be devoted to us.
Yes, I see, for the questioner, I don't
know whether it's a mother or a father.
So while there are still parents, we
have the opportunity to be filial at
the end of our lives. Hopefully it
explains and provides the best solution
. And it seems that this Ustazah's
servant of God was the last questioner
in Tangerang. Asalamualaikum
warahmatullahi wabarakatuh. May
the peace, mercy, and blessings of
Allah be with you too.
I am a wife where ee has two children.
One is in high school, the other is
still in elementary school. And my
mother lives with me, she is 70 years
old. Subhanallah, Ustazah. Mother lives
with us. However, in the past 3 years,
my mother has become very, often
gets angry and often curses at everyone
, including the children and my husband
, so they don't like their grandmother.
Well, the problem is that my husband is
also starting to feel uncomfortable.
What should I do, Ustazah? Even though
I often try to talk to my mother, but
she gets even angrier, Ustazah. We are
confused because the children,
especially the older one, are not
comfortable at home because they say
they are often scolded by grandmother.
Ee, it's like this, Mother, ee, most of
them, in their old age, ee, first, like
a child, then second, yes, there are
many mental disorders, maybe they used
to feel depressed, but now these mental
illnesses are emerging, right? Yes. So
that's the form of jihad, the form of
our patience. Because ee, this is a
test, right? It just depends on how we,
with our husband and children,
encourage them. Don't entertain it.
Indeed, ee, grandmother is very patient
, right? Hopefully. So don't take it to
heart, okay? Because I once got it,
even though I'm not a mental health
expert, right, Sis. I've read a lot of
books about mental health, ee, old
people like this, what's it called?
Diseases like paranoid schizophrenia,
you know, Miss. So if it happens, it's
actually the disappointing past that's
now emerging. So if he's offended, the
past is brought up again and again.
It's like when he nags, we wait for
hours, then we nag at length until it
hurts. But the advantage is when he's
in a good mood, he's very kind. Well,
that's what it means, we as children,
just lift our hearts, our children's
hearts, our husbands' hearts. This is
how parents are like, never mind, don't
take it to heart. So if he nags, then
shut up, don't take it to heart. So the
key is. Don't be the same. If it's the
same, it means both of us are a little
mentally disturbed. Yes, be patient,
patient, patient. This will end, God
willing, someday. The main thing is to
be patient, but don't ask when my
mother will die. Nauzubillah. Don't
ever do that. Don't do that. This is
the key to heaven. Indeed, heaven is
not cheap. Heaven is expensive. That's
why it's hard for us to get the key,
right? How should we be broad-hearted,
broad-minded, and have a lot of what do
we call it? Broaden our hearts, and
forgive a lot. Basically, we are truly
being tested. Because faith must be
tested, right? Tested by parents like
this. Be broad-minded, don't be the
same, just keep quiet. So, whatever our
parents want, as long as it doesn't
conflict with Islamic law, just fulfill
their wishes, buy whatever they want,
as long as it doesn't conflict with
Islamic law. Yes, so the point is this
is a test and convince us that innamal
usri yusron, with every hardship, there
will be ease. This condition won't last
, Mom. It won't last. How old we are
doesn't mean we wish for death. No.
That's God giving us a test. Because we
are indeed able to bear it. Don't let
your parents feel offended, "Oh, my
child rejects me, my grandson doesn't
like me, oh my son-in-law hates me." In
the end, they will be hurt. That's our
sin, you know. Yes, so once again this
is our best opportunity to be filial,
to show our devotion to our parents. We
just have to give understanding to our
husbands and children. Yes, I'm old,
I'm patient. That's how patient you are
, you don't need to take it to heart
and that's it, ma'am. Remain patient,
this is an extraordinary trial, later
it will be a regret, ma'am, yes, if our
parents have died, try to be patient,
try, yes, you can't do it anymore, yes,
the past can be returned now, now while
there is a golden opportunity, there
will be no second one anymore. This is
an extraordinary test if you pass it
well, God willing, good luck in the
afterlife for you and your family, God
willing. Yes, this is also an example
for children to prove that we are
filial to our parents. This is an
example for children so that they will
also be devoted to us, God willing.
Yes, good, mothers wherever they are
are enthusiastic and hopefully they
will be given patience and their
children and husband will also be given
patience and sincerity. Iwan and Awat
seems to be Ustazah's last question.
Hopefully, Ustazah's conclusion for the
theme is 10 things that will make old
age more blessed, God willing.
Yes, the listeners who are blessed by
Allah are indeed at a young age who are
very enthusiastic and fit to do good
deeds. Therefore, we make the best use
of it, don't waste it. We also ask
Allah for protection when we are in old
age, so that in our old age we don't
become a bad old age, which causes us
to return to what we did when we were
young. That is why the Prophet
sallallahu alaihi wasallam prayed with
a prayer and there was a request for
the Prophet to seek refuge in Allah.
Allahumma inni azubika minal kasal
waubika minal jub waubika minal
harubika minalqli. Yes, O Allah, I seek
refuge in You from laziness, from
weakness of heart, from old age which
makes it difficult to do good deeds and
I seek refuge in You from the nature of
dhikr. So, one of the Prophet's
protections from Allah is to avoid
having bad old days, old days that
don't have the slightest goodness, old
days that carry burdens, old days that
don't obey. Hopefully we can fill our
old age with days full of blessings and
benefits. Aulu qi hadza astagfirullahi
wakum. Asalamualaikum warahmatullah
wabarakatuh. May
the peace, mercy, and blessings of
Allah be with you too. Thank God, we
have participated in the study with
Iwan and Ahwat this afternoon. God
willing, it will be a reminder and can
motivate us to become better Muslims or
Muslim women in the future. Thank you
to our teacher Ustazah Helni Amran. May
Allah bless you with good health and
give your family ease in all their
affairs. Hopefully we will meet again
soon at the next opportunity. Ustazah
always healthy, Ustazah.
Thank You.
And we also thank Iana for submitting
her question via WhatsApp. There are
also some of the YouTubers who have
commented. We are listening, we are
listening. Thank you, alhamdulillah,
for the response from those on duty
today. I am Karolin, accompanied by ee
Anis and Ondi on the operator channel.
We once again apologize for any
shortcomings. I will close with a
prayer of expiation. Subhanakallahumma
wabihamdika ashadu alla ila anta
astagfiruka wa atubu ilaiik. Wabillahi
taufik wal hidayah. Peace be upon you
warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.
Waalaikumsalam warahmatullahi
wabarakatuh. Peace be upon you, Mbak
Oli.
Waalaikumsalam. Thank you Ustazah, see
you later.