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Bismillahirrahmanirrahim.
Alhamdulillahiabbil alamin. Allahumma
sholli wasallim wabarik ala sayyidina
Muhammadin wa ala ali sayyidina
Muhammad. Still broadcast from Jalan
Masjid Silaturahim number 36 Kalimagis
Cibubur Bekasi. Radio Silaturahim and
also Rasil TV for one Islam.
Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi
wabarakatuh. Blessed by Allah, Ikhwan
Akhwat. It is a pleasure to meet Ikhwan
Akhwat again this morning in a
reflection program under the auspices
of the Qur'an. Well, as usual with our
teacher Ustaz Husein Alatas for the
Monday edition, it has entered the 24th
day in the month of Jumadil Akhir and
also coincides with December 15, 2025.
Yes, Ikhwan Akhwat. On this occasion,
God willing, we will again listen to ee
studies and also maybe ee answers to
questions from ikhwan akhwat. On this
occasion, God willing, we will
immediately enter the question and
answer session of the brothers because
there are already several questions in
the previous ee program that we have
collected some with the same theme.
Brothers and sisters, we open this
meeting with the recitation of Surah
Al-Fatihah which God willing will be
directly guided by Ustaz Husein Lazas.
We invite you, Ustaz.
Auzubillahiminasyaitanirrajim.
Bismillahirrahmanirrahim.
Alhamdulillahirabbil alamin
arrahmanirrahim. iki yaumiddin iyaka
na'budu wa iyyaka nasta ihdinasirathal
mustaqim shathalladzina an'amta alaihim
ghairil maghdubi alaihim walad Amin.
Amin.
Amin. Okay, brothers and sisters, after
we open together with the recitation of
the Quran Surah Al-Fatihah, may this
morning we receive an outpouring of
mercy from Allah Subhanahu wa taala.
With your permission, Ustaz, I will
read out some of the questions that
have been submitted previously. And for
the brothers who also want to submit
their questions, we invite you to send
them to 08111999720. Iwan can send a
short message to the WA number or if
you want to call directly, please do.
Iwan, Awat via ee WA can WA call, yes,
please. Here are three questions, Ustaz
. Almost the same from ee our listeners
who said they were elderly, said Ustaz
from Pak Saifulah in Pondok Aren. Ustaz
, I am already old so that the assets I
leave behind will not be disputed and
actually become a burden on the
reckoning later. What is the Islamic
guide, the sharia guide for drafting a
will and preparing a fair and sunnah
distribution of inheritance before
death comes. Ustaz, one question first,
Ustaz, yes. We will go ahead.
Bismillahirrahmanirrahim. Praise be to
Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most
Merciful, the Most Merciful, the Most
Merciful. May Allah bless you with the
best of knowledge and may He be
glorified and exalted be He. May He...
We as believers are bound by the
provisions of Allah Subhanahu wa Taala,
bound by the provisions of Allah as our
Creator, our Ruler, and He is the one
who bestows His blessings and
sustenance so that we can live our
worldly lives with complete sufficiency
and security. And someday we will
return to Allah Subhanahu wa taala.
take responsibility for our deeds. If
we live in line with the provisions of
Allah Subhanahu wa Taala, then we will
automatically receive His pleasure,
forgiveness, His mercy, and Allah will
place Him in a noble place by His side
for those servants who are grateful to
Allah Subhanahu wa Taala. But if we
disbelieve in Allah, our Creator, who
has bestowed His grace upon us, and we
live our lives apart from the rules of
Allah Subhanahu wa Taala, who sent His
Messenger, sent down His book to guide
us towards a noble life by His side,
then we cannot blame Allah Subhanahu wa
Taala. But we can only blame ourselves
for our deviation and denial. Therefore
, what did you ask?
Mr. Saiful Ustaz.
Mr. Saiful from Tangerang, yes.
Yes.
Regarding matters related to
inheritance. Allah Subhanahu wa taala
has reminded us in Surah al-Baqarah
that when we reach old age or we feel
our death is getting closer. In verse
180, Allah Subhanahu wa taala says, "I
arrive at the alaikum idza hadoro
ahadakumul mautu in taroka khaironil
wasiyatu lil walidaini wal aqrabina bil
ma'ruf haqqon alal muttaqin." is
decreed, required for you. When the
time of death is near, death is before
him, if he leaves behind wealth, then
let him write his will. Write his will
to those who are entitled as
confirmation. First lil walidain.
Second for whom? First for both parents
. Because many people die, their heirs
only focus on distributing it among
themselves, forgetting the parents who
have done so much for the deceased.
Especially in these times the love for
material is so extraordinary. Respect
for old people is also overcome by love
for wealth. So, if someone is nearing
death and he has left behind assets, he
should write a will for his parents.
Then for his closest relatives. This is
an obligation that Allah imposes on
pious people. Writing a will here is
not changing God's will, but what is
this? Affirmation. Then we return to
the way of distribution to Allah's
verse in Surahun Nisa. Hug aikumakari.
Allah has established His will over you
and over your children. How much does
Allah determine for the share of sons?
Two
women's divisions and so on are
outlined in the verses of Suratun Nisa
which explain the division of
inheritance. So, what Allah stated in
Suratul Baqarah, yes, it confirms it,
reminds us not to make mistakes between
our parents, yes, writing a will on the
assets left behind. Say it says, ee,
parents own, say, two houses, a plot of
land, yes.
and also the amount of cash deposited
in the bank as well as valuable
decorations such as gold and silver
were all collected and father asked you
to divide the inheritance according to
Allah's rules stipulated in the Koran.
Likewise, it was exemplified by our
Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alaihi
waalihi wasallam. And don't forget the
happiness of my parents or one of my
parents. So the testament in Surah ee
Al-Baqarah does not replace what was
written in Suratun Nisa,
but what is the will in Suratul Baqarah
? As a basis to remind us. also remind
the heirs.
Then Suratun Nisa explains the
distribution that must be obeyed
according to the provisions of Allah
Subhanahu wa Taala. So they don't
conflict with each other. So you don't
need to worry, you don't need to be
confused, just go ahead and open Surah
Al-Baqarah which I read verse 180 as
well. Sir, can you open Surah al-Nisa
as explained by Allah Subhanahu wa
taala ee in verse ee 11 of Surah Nisa
verse 11 verse 12 ya 13 talks about the
division clearly, starting from "
Yusikumullahu fi auladikum lzakari
mluil untayain fain kunna". Nisaan
fauqnataini falahun maq waat wahidat,
am yakun lahu abawahu fa lahu
ikhwatunus ba wasin yuso bihain abaukum
wa abnaukum la tadruna ayyuhum aqruakum
nafidam minallah. Inallah. This
explains the inheritance according to
Allah's provisions on the share of
children, both male and female.
Likewise the rights of both parents.
The rights of both parents if the
deceased said they had children, how
much was their share? did not have
children. How much was the share of
both parents explained in Surah al-Nisa
verse 11. Verse 12 speaks of the rights
of a husband and wife, or siblings. But
we need to remember that inheritance is
divided after debts are paid. Likewise,
after a will is made by parents for,
say, building a house of worship, or a
will made by parents for their brothers
and sisters who are in need because
they cannot inherit if they have
children. So the deceased leaves a will
, say, a certain amount of property for
my brothers and sisters who are
incapacitated, or for his nephew who is
being cared for at his home, provided
that the will does not harm the heirs.
For example, a parent leaves a larger
share to another person than the heirs
'share. This gives rise to ijhaf (
consensus). If he has a large amount of
wealth and then donates it, say, to
build a mosque, and it does not exceed
one-third of his wealth, that is his
right. But if he donates a large amount
of his wealth while the heirs only
receive a small share, then the will
can be changed because it contradicts
the decree of our Prophet Muhammad (
peace be upon him). Because when Saad
bin Abi Waqqas was sick after Fathu
Mecca, he intended to bequeath most of
his wealth to someone else. Because at
that time he only had a sibling, a
daughter. Rasulullah sallallahu alaihi
wasallam prohibited it when only
allowing less than one third. Then the
Messenger of Allah said, "You leave
your children in a condition that is
quite better than you leave them
begging here and there." So pay
attention to the family, give them
their rights without exaggerating, but
don't reduce their rights. So, if you
want to make waqf, you want to say
donate in the way of Allah or make a
will for your brothers and sisters in
need, that is your right. But on
condition that it does not harm the
heirs. Wallahuam.
OK, Ustaz. Sometimes in the family too,
because inheritance causes conflict,
Ustaz. Skaitan. Now, for the heir
himself, Ustaz. Yes
What kind of advice, Ustaz? In fact,
there's a joke like this: if the
siblings are on good terms, it's likely
their parents didn't leave an
inheritance, according to Ustaz. So,
it's as if leaving an inheritance is
what the term is, eh, the conflict will
be high. The potential for conflict is
actually good, whether there is an
inheritance or not. If children are
guided to fear Allah, parents in their
lives respect Allah, uphold Allah's
teachings, children are also taught to
love Allah, respect Allah, and also
believe in the hereafter. Educated in
the truth of justice, even if left a
large amount of wealth, children will
not fight. But if children never
receive a good education, are not
introduced to Allah, are not reminded
of the hereafter, they assume religion
and life are separate.
This is what is happening now.
Religions, but their lives are not
bound by religious guidance. So,
children like this, whether they have
wealth or not, what is the potential
for conflict among them? Very big.
Yes. I once happened to be managing the
distribution of inheritance among
children. His father was a good man,
but not one who was religiously
educated. His children were also
harmonious, even his mother was
harmonious. At an inheritance
distribution, the oldest child said, "I
will not take my inheritance. I want it
divided among my siblings."
He.
He refused to take his inheritance.
Then I asked, "What about your siblings
? When your parents were still alive,
they received gifts of wealth? Some
were given a gas station for business,
some this.
But what are they now? They have
nothing, they have children. Will you
still share their inheritance with them
?" Because what their parents gave them
should be counted. He.
But the siblings said, "We are sincere,
Ustaz. Give them their share according
to our happiness." But it's different
for mothers.
Masyaallah. It's
different for me.
Because their parents raised them with
justice.
But many clerics have children who
fight. Their children fight among
themselves and even fight to control
the inheritance and set aside some
without setting aside others' shares.
Why? Because even though it's religious
, religion is only skin deep,
just a mask. The children are busy with
worldly affairs. Their fathers also
talk about worldly matters. Even among
children, they are not treated fairly.
They side with A, attacking B.
Sometimes the opposite happens, siding
with B, attacking A. So what are
children made of? What are they made of
? As children who are in conflict to
please their parents. So don't be
fooled by the cover of a book,
depending on the contents. If the
contents are good even if the cover is
torn,
what is the value? Then the value is
different. Don't look at the cover made
of a nice hard cover, he has what
paintings,
but the contents are not good. So it is
with humans. Don't judge by the cover.
His appearance is robed, pious yes, but
that doesn't necessarily mean what his
soul is. His soul is like his
appearance. But there are good people
who are not from among those who are
knowledgeable in religion. When his
mother made a will, "I order that my
inheritance be divided equally among my
sons and daughters. If not, I am not
satisfied." When her mother died, one
of the women said, "I will only take my
right as Allah has determined. I only
want half of my brother's share."
The others I am not responsible for.
But this is what Allah has given.
Unless their siblings have received
their inheritance, they say, "We want
it divided equally." Not because we
reject God's law, but we feel we have
enough while our sisters are in need.
Rida, Ustaz, yes.
Rid. But if we change God's law and
then use the words I'm not happy if
it's changed, then that's a major sin.
How can we lead our parents to hell?
Nauzubillah. Therefore, if a brother
sees his sister in need, he says, "Our
share is the same as so-and-so's share.
" But if the woman is rich,
she
doesn't need to receive a share. Only
the poor receive a share. Sometimes
even the rich sister is willing to
share.
As long as love is instilled among
siblings, don't treat them differently
and remind them of God. So it's not
actually about wealth that depends on
the person,
their piety, Ustaz. Yes. Okay, Ustaz.
Uh, next, it seems there's a caller
who's already connected. Kang Adi,
please answer first.
Hello.
Hello.
Assalamualaikum. Peace be
upon you. Peace be upon
you. With whom? Where, ma'am?
With a servant of Allah in West Jakarta
. Okay, we invite you to ask Ustaz
Husin above.
Okay, thank you very much. May all
those who are on my favorite Rasil
Radio be healthy.
Masyaallah.
Alhamdulillah.
Alhamdulillah.
The knowledge given is always
beneficial.
Amen.
To bring us closer to Allah Subhanahu
wa ta'ala.
Amen. Amen, O Lord. Hopefully, my
statement is the same as other
listeners.
Amen, O Lord.
Please, ma'am, the question.
Yes, Ustaz Husin.
Yes, please.
This is about advocating divorce for
children.
We understand that it is definitely not
permissible to advocate divorce. H
but the problem is a bit complicated
for us. For us, our son-in-law, ee,
from the first marriage to our child,
things have been going smoothly. ee
there is turmoil for picking up Rizki.
It turns out that he was probably
conned by his friend and ended up
borrowing money. Our son-in-law
borrowed money to cover
his debts because he was too friendly
with his friends without paying
attention to his wife and children.
Okay,
the question I'm going to ask is, did
he borrow money for himself or for his
friends? Uh, first, to cover his
friend's debts.
Yes.
Because Heeh. for his friends. Then
secondly, maybe to keep his life going,
Ustaz.
Yes.
Because maybe he's stuck, what? His
brain is stuck, can't go anywhere.
Hm.
But ee if we look at it, it's not
healthy, Ustaz. Is his marriage
unhealthy in our opinion, in our
layman's opinion, which has been around
for decades. But thank God, my husband
has protected me and educated me not to
borrow money and so on.
Alhamdulillah, it's been successful
until now. Now, the problem is with my
child. We recommend that we separate
because firstly, ee it's not healthy
for the marriage. Secondly, my child's
mental state, coincidentally, my child
is a girl. My child's mental health has
deteriorated, Ustaz.
Heeh. He's
become distant. He's now distant from
Allah.
But we often monitor him here. We often
give him advice. We often monitor him.
Third, his child is also a girl, Ustaz.
Heeh.
Well, and fourth, he...we advised him
to get a divorce, but my child is
confused because...what? Her husband
borrowed the loan using his ID card, my
child's ID card, Ustaz.
Hm. So we've fallen into a trap in our
neighborhood. Thank God, we're good
people. Good people, God willing. Good
people, God willing. Then there are
debt collectors. So maybe some people
here know. But I don't really
understand because I rarely go out. So
I ask for your enlightenment, Ustaz
Husein, on how we can deal with our
child's marriage so that you can just
separate from your husband. Let him be,
God willing, we'll take care of our
children and our grandchildren.
Then what about the loans in your
daughter's name? How did they
separate? E, she felt sorry for her
husband. He.
So the husband was blacklisted, Ustaz.
And what are the rules for online loans
? I don't understand. Basically, he has
a name,
meaning he doesn't have any, no, no, he
no longer has the right to borrow.
Finally, the wife lent her ID card to
her husband.
She didn't lend it, she asked.
Hm.
The husband asked, "Yes, just use your
name to lend. My name is no longer
valid for me. So if we separate, who
will pay the debt later?
Yes. K, her husband
has a debt that will clearly come later
to ask for it to be collected
from the projector,
from your child, not from your husband.
Right. But we will make a statement on
the material later. Ustaz.
Heeh. That's
how you enlighten me, Ustaz? It's like
this,
to the point where my child has gone to
a psychologist, Ustaz. The psychologist
said," This mother, uh, her problems
are multi-level. "
Yes. So
yes, her mental state is already very
low, she said
this, Ma'am. Bismillahirrahmanirrahim.
So, regarding your child, if a man like
this gets involved in online loans,
which are usurious loans, don't expect
them to find peace. Engaging in illicit
activities can never achieve peace. And
online loans, subhanallah, are
addictive.
Because they're easy, convenient,
without collateral, and so on. And this
is also a trap set by Satan, the jinn,
and his minions.
This is human. People always have needs
and will find ways to meet them. When
halal means are unavailable, what can
be haram? Even haram means are used.
Now, regarding your child, if you want
your child, a man like this who has put
his wife in this situation is an
oppressive man. You should take your
child, separate him from her, and then
tell him to resolve the matter. If you
want things to be okay again,
then
resolve your issues. If not, then each
of you is responsible for your actions.
The husband borrowed money in his
wife's name. Therefore, the husband is
automatically responsible for what he
did. But it's not that easy, even if
you use a stamp and other evidence that
the loan was borrowed by your husband,
the loan shark and the lending
institution
will not stop harassing your daughter.
They will
definitely pursue you, and they
will definitely pursue you. Even the
people involved will be called.
H
will then be attacked with nasty words
and slandered with all sorts of slander
, causing unrest. So, this loan issue
must be resolved outside of the
separation discussion. What is the real
problem of this loan? It must be
resolved wisely without oppressing your
daughter. So, in my opinion, take your
daughter and grandchildren back to live
with you, and give them four months.
Just as someone who swears not to have
sex with their wife gives them four
months. If the man refuses to resolve
his affairs and change his ways, save
your daughter and separate her from her
husband. And let your daughter think
about it at home, in a good way. Then
draw her closer to Allah Ta'ala and
remind her of the consequences of being
with a man like this who doesn't change
his ways, which will plunge her into
the abyss of suffering in this world
and the fires of hell in the hereafter.
Therefore, why are we commanded to be
careful in choosing our son-in-law? Not
because of his high salary,
his spirituality, his position, or his
car. Choose a man who is pious and
responsible. God willing, he will lead
our children to happiness. So, mothers
should see a situation like this, take
your child home.
Then make an agreement.
Yes.
Be responsible for this loan, using
your child's ID card. Even if your
child doesn't know about it, then
change your lifestyle. Pay off his debt
, change your lifestyle. When the time
comes for him to change and resolve his
responsibilities and want to return to
being a good husband, thank God. But if
not, it means he doesn't appreciate the
opportunity and blessings Allah has
bestowed on him. Such people should not
be respected. Once, a woman complained
about her son-in-law or prospective
son-in-law proposing to her daughter.
The woman agreed. Suddenly, after
accepting his proposal, the man, who
was not yet married, was in significant
debt from online loans. The woman's
father was confused. Heh.
The woman was confused too, wasn't she?
The problem wasn't the amount of the
loan. The problem was how he could
possibly be a good, responsible husband
, burdened with debt that continued to
grow because he couldn't find a
legitimate business. I said," If the
man is like this, you should cancel the
proposal. "The woman decided," Yes, if
you want to seriously marry me, pay off
all your debts. Clean up your accounts,
and if you're truly responsible, I'm
ready to be your wife. "
But it turned out the man married this
woman. This woman has a job, and
apparently wants to use her for what?
To pay off her online loans, or at
least something? Maybe she could even
use her as collateral to receive
additional loans. Therefore, we hope
online loans are truly abolished. Heh.
Especially online gambling.
Well, the leaders above are responsible
for every child of our nation caught up
in this practice. Besides the sin of
the perpetrator, the sin of the person
who lent,
and the leaders above are also
responsible for plunging their nation
into destruction. People who are in
debt lose their respect and
independence.
Yes. So, mother, just take your
daughter and emphasize to your husband,
" If you want to come back, prove
yourself as a man worthy of receiving
my daughter's trust. "Complete your
loan, then change your lifestyle
according to Allah's pleasure.
Otherwise, each one is to live for
himself. Lana a'maluna wakum a'malukum.
Hopefully, Allah will provide a way out
for your daughter. And actually, the
best way is not to see a psychologist.
Allah created our souls in a state of
complete balance. Once we are released
from Allah's hand, given free choice,
pollution begins to occur in our lives.
Well, to purify it again, only by
returning to Allah, remembering Allah,
and drawing closer to Allah. This will
be a comfort for your daughter. So,
Mother wakes up together at home, wakes
up at night, prays, reads the Quran,
absorbs the verses of Allah while
asking for guidance for Mother, for
Mother's children so that they can find
the bright path to Allah who brings
happiness to them and their children.
God knows best.
Okay, Ustaz. I also had a case almost
the same as Ustaz,
ee, in the end the wife cut her work to
earn money. In the end, to cover the
loan from her husband, Ustaz. But
because her husband is very, very cruel
, Ustaz. So cruel, in today's cool
language, that's a red flag. Just
because of love for her husband, even
though his family has advised him, is
too much, what do you call it? It's
very appropriate to separate, Ustaz.
Because of her husband's cruelty,
because out of love, sometimes the wife
can't let go, Ustaz. Moreover, her
mental state has
been affected, as her mother said. This
is the importance of controlling our
emotions, and subhanallah, the only one
who can control our emotions is Allah.
Frankly, even though our hearts are in
our hands, they are not in our control.
H
control where?
In God's hands. Yes muqallibal
qulubbqbi alini. Therefore, if we want
our hearts to be straight, clean, and
under control, we can only return them
to God's hands as they came out of
God's hands. This word hand is a
metaphorical language, OK? Coming out
of the hands of Allah subhanahu wa
taala in a state of balance. Laqad
khalaqnal insana fi ahsani taqwim. So
to return it to a straight, controlled
state, faqim wajhakidini hanifa. Face
your face in harmony with Allah's
religion. Yes, fitratallah allati
fatasa alaiha. If you return to
religion, straighten your heart,
straighten your face before Allah, then
you will return yourself to your
natural state when first created by
Allah.
Impossible what we can do? Can repair
our souls, purify them except with
Allah. Therefore pray parents pray
daughters also pray. If she is allowed
to drift in love, in emotion, it will
only sweep her away, and ultimately,
her guardian, may Allah bless her, will
disappear amidst a sea of dreams that
will never provide a way out for her.
So, we need to remind our families and
our daughters when faced with this
condition:
don't let the disease drag on.
Ultimately, once the disease appears,
it will be difficult to treat because
it has reached a chronic, final stage.
Yes. When faced with a situation like
this, parents and daughters should also
be reminded," Leave this kind of
depraved man. This man will lead you to
hellfire. "Likewise, if a good man is
side by side with a woman who doesn't
invite you to Allah, what will happen?
She will lead you away from Allah
Ta'ala. It will even make her husband
inattentive to his parents,
irresponsible. We shouldn't keep such a
woman. He.
Keep her far away from our lives
because this will lead us to hell.
Yes. Yes.
So, we should also be careful in
choosing a daughter-in-law.
Not only sons-in-law, but
daughters-in-law too.
Well, Ustaz, regarding choosing a
son-in-law, Ustaz ee is it allowed or
not, Ustaz, nowadays, there are dangers
of online loans, titles, or drugs,
Ustaz. Before we choose, there is a
screening, like that. Screening whether
he has online loans debt. Is he caught
in a title or e-screening until MCU
urine tests for drugs or not is that
allowed Ustaz?
Now in Jakarta, it is stipulated that
if someone wants to get married, what
must be checked? Ustaz, urine or blood
tests to see if he is a person who
has been there, there are
already some, but in Bekasi I don't
know, there are none yet, they must be
checked for blood and urine to see if
he carries a genital disease or
from the sharia side it is also
enforced, Ustaz, we are
ordered to be careful, we are
not
takayyaru linutofikum, choose carefully
, be careful in choosing the container
of your sperm,
don't let us choose only because of
attractive and charming beauty but it
is poisonous for us. Therefore, in a
narration, even though this narration
is not a valid sanad, there is a
warning from the Prophet. If we pay
attention to this warning, what is in
line with? With the reality of life.
Iyakum wa khroadiman. Beware of khadra
addiman. Then the companions asked,"
Wama khadiman O Messenger of Allah,
what is meant by khadr? "The answer was
," Almaratul hasil mambatis. "A
beautiful, attractive woman but grew up
in a bad environment.
Like a beautiful flower tree but grew
up in a poisonous swamp.
Does it absorb poison? It absorbs
poison. So, don't just be fooled by
beauty, appearance, spoiled, sweet
words, okay? If she is a Muslim woman,
there is no way she will be pampered by
a man who is not her mahram. There is
no way she will emphasize her curves.
And never say that later when she gets
married she will change. That's
nonsense. People who want to change and
change are different.
Oh yes. Yes.
Let's not get carried away with dreams.
Choose a pious woman who will be a
vessel for our descendants who will
absorb glory. Who also respects our
parents who invite us together to Allah
. So, men and women complement and
perfect each other. But unfortunately,
my average criteria and choice of
partner now are far from what Allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala showed and
exemplified by our Prophet Muhammad
sallallahu alaihi wasallam. God knows
best. Okay, hopefully this is answered
and hopefully there is the best
solution for the servant of Allah in
West Jakarta.
This is from Abu Azka, Ustaz. Oh, still
related to your question, Ustaz. This
conveys the Quran Surah ee Quran ee
Surah 4 verse 35, which means:" And if
you fear discord between their two
families, then send a peacemaker from
the man's family and a peacemaker from
the woman's family. "If both
peacemakers intend to make amends in
the way Allah gives success to husband
and wife. Well, isn't this the way,
Ustaz? ee in the case of the woman who
wanted to divorce because of pinjol.
Please explain, Ustazumqumqini, the
right of the expert to resolve the
dispute is the right of the expert to
resolve the dispute. So, if you are
worried about a rift between the two,
the two are not arguing because of the
aforementioned issue.
Hmm.
Not because of an issue related to what
violation? Related to the man's
violation or related to the woman's
violation. This means that the actual
issue is not related to this kind of
violation. They argue, there is a
misunderstanding, the man immediately
decides to divorce, or the woman asks
for a separation. Yes.
Then it is best to send a
fair judge from the man's side or an
intermediary. The same goes for the
woman's side. They sit together to
discuss it. What do you think is the
cause?
Because sometimes husband and wife are
in an emotional state and don't
communicate.
Is that right?
Yes. This case is different, Ustaz,
from the previous one.
So at that time, send a judge from the
man's side, a judge from the woman's
side.
Then, the man will ask his family, and
also the child in question," What
exactly is your problem? "The woman
will also ask the man what the problem
is. So, what do you want to do with the
previous case? For example, if it were
resolved this way, the woman's family
would explain that this man was
involved in online loans, even
involving his wife, and was starting to
distance himself from Allah, his
responsibility." H,
yes. So, we ask you to resolve this
issue, resolve the online loan issue,
his responsibility is also to use his
wife's ID card, and change his
lifestyle in line with Allah's pleasure
. We will welcome it with ahlan
wasahlan.
But if he persists, then the
woman will take a firm stance on this
issue because this is a clear problem.
Yes, the man's mistake is not an issue
that requires clarification of the
cause of the problem. It's not a
dispute, Ustaz, yes. It's not a dispute
, nor a misunderstanding, but the
reason from the man's side is
clearly unjust,
involved in wrongdoing.
Will they plunge their
wife and children
into disgrace? Because people like that
start to feel trapped and their common
sense seems to be gone.
Yes.
They can commit inappropriate acts. So
as parents, I worry that my daughter
will become increasingly involved in
bad things.
So don't say I'm afraid of interfering
in household affairs.
If it's a problem like this, don't go
too far. A father, huh? He recently
married his daughter to a man.
Suddenly, in the middle of the night,
his son-in-law comes home drunk.
Hm. Drunk.
Drunk. A person who is drunk like this,
and then socializes and even comes home
shows what this man is? This man has
absolutely no respect for what? Respect
for Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and his
wife. The father immediately asked, "
Divorce me, I have a daughter. I didn't
know you were a drunk." If she's only
been drunk once or twice, she's come
home sober, showing that she still
cares for him. But coming home drunk,
and he knows her parents are religious
and even knowledgeable. Divorce my
daughter, even though she's just
married. Don't let it get too late, the
daughter already likes this man.
Yes.
In the end, she falls deeper. And this
man turns out to be a depraved man,
they are immediately separated between
them. After her iddah ends, the woman
marries one of his family. So if it is
proven that even the son-in-law doesn't
pray, and when asked to pray, he
refuses, then remind him to Allah,
regardless. Save our daughter. Pull him
away from this kind of man. Prayer is
no joke. It proves his identity as a
Muslim.
As soon as he misses prayer, he is
reminded, reprimanded, with absolutely
no respect. This is this kind of man. A
man who is not worthy to be a husband
for our daughter. Likewise, if a man
has a wife who doesn't want to pray,
proud of her beauty. When reminded to
pray, she doesn't want to. Yes, if she
is like this, if she gives birth to a
child, what will the child be like?
Later, if you warn her and she doesn't
want to, divorce this kind of woman.
Find a pious woman who really wants
what? Maintaining her obedience to
Allah and fulfilling her obligations to
her husband, and vice versa, her
husband also does the same. Rather than
keeping a woman who looks beautiful,
attractive, but poisonous who can
poison our lives, it's better for us to
leave her. Let her marry someone else.
Men are like her too. But now, the
problem for men when choosing a woman
is, the requirements and criteria are
beauty, white, long hair, and slender,
not about the morals
and personality that will become a
mother who gives birth to pious
children and fights in the path of
Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala. Likewise,
for women, the requirements are how
much is your salary, where do you work?
Sometimes without looking at morals,
because the salary is large, they come
with a vehicle and a good appearance,
accepted directly
with a neat uniform. Ustaz.
Yes. So if we look at it, today is the
era of flexing.
Flexing.
So many people lie. Borrow a cellphone,
borrow a car. Then also borrow a
witness who says where he works. Once
married, what is the man? A
man wandering. Guardian iyadubillah.
There are also those who propose with a
3 billion rupiah check, Ustaz.
That's right.
Okay, Ustaz. Let's continue, Ustaz,
okay?
Please.
Maybe this is the last question I'll
read directly, Ustaz, from Mrs. Atin in
Cikarang, Ustaz.
Ee regarding heart diseases such as
envy, jealousy, or feeling the most
righteous, they often appear, Ustaz, in
old age, she said. What is the most
effective way to cleanse the heart of
these chronic diseases in this limited
time, Ustaz? In old age, so that the
heart meets Allah in the garden of
peace. Then from the servant of Allah,
also at the age of 68 years with
limited ability to do great deeds, ee,
Ustaz, what are the easiest and
lightest jariah deeds I do now, even
though their value is small in the eyes
of humans, but great in the sight of
Allah as eternal provisions later. Thus
.
Bismillahirrahmanirrahim.
Alhamdulillahi rabbil alamin. Allahumma
sholli ala Muhammadin wa ali Muhammad.
Rabbana zidna ilman wa ikna bihin.
Indeed, as you mentioned earlier, in
old age, things that didn't appear
before sometimes emerge.
Women, in particular, are suspicious.
Especially when they see themselves no
longer as beautiful as they used to be.
They're going through menopause, and
their husbands are still quite young.
That often creates fear in women's
hearts. What effect does it ultimately
have? It fosters suspicion in other
areas. Ultimately, their words are
often veiled in what? Suspicion.
Sometimes even obvious. That's very
dangerous, isn't it?
Men are the same. In old age, men often
lose control because, in their youth,
they were used to what?
They were used to not controlling
themselves. Well, getting older is a
bit of a hassle. But as troublesome as
it is, for Allah, it's
easy.
Easy. As I said earlier, Allah
Subhanahu wa Ta'ala created humans with
balance. Forgiveness and self-control
for the sake of the soul. And how Allah
perfected it with balance. Faalhamaha
fujuraha wa taqwaha. And Allah has
instilled in the human soul a light
that helps them distinguish between
fujur and taqwah. Therefore, even
before the revelation of Allah, or the
revelation of the prophets, if a person
lies, makes a mistake, or neglects
someone in need, his heart will surely
be troubled. That's for sure. As soon
as he lies, betrays, commits violence,
or neglects someone in need, he will
surely be troubled.
Even corruptors appear outwardly
prosperous, but their hearts are
actually gnawed by anxiety and fear.
But because they are lured by their
lifestyle, their halal income is
insufficient to cover their haram
living expenses. Yes, as this viral
incident shows, they finally muster the
courage to do so while turning a blind
eye. Then they distribute the proceeds
of their corruption to mosques,
religious teachers, religious study
groups, and events, such as Islamic
holidays, hoping that Allah will turn a
blind eye to their mistakes. Yet they
forget that Allah only accepts
offerings derived from devotion to Him.
So, to answer this, how do we calm our
hearts? Allah has given us guidance.
Alladzina amanu watatmainnu qulubuhum
bidikrillah. Those who believe will
find peace in their hearts when they
remember Allah. Remembering what is
with Allah, as He has promised in the
Hereafter. Remembering that life is
fleeting, that time passes second by
second, minute by minute, and will
never return. We will not take the
wealth we accumulate with us. We will
leave behind all the beauty of this
world. But the good deeds we do with
our time, the opportunities God gives
us, our health, and His blessings will
all be questioned by God. Therefore,
why should we feel jealous or
envious? What we receive now is a test
from God, whether it be pleasure or
hardship. And we must know that as
those being tested by God, we must
accept both. Just as we face the
alternating days and nights, we face
joy and hardship, too. We will
eventually leave this world for a place
of pleasure and eternal happiness, or a
place of hardship and eternal suffering
. It depends on our choices in our
lives, and we will reap the harvest in
the Hereafter that we sow today. So,
ladies and gentlemen, keep your hearts
occupied with remembering Allah. Dhikr
is not just a verbal remembrance, but a
reflection. Remembering Allah,
remembering the Last Day, remembering
how trivial this worldly life is.
By returning our hearts to Allah, the
dirt that clings to our hearts will all
dissolve. will disappear. But once we
forget Allah, we drift along with the
life of this world, then a thick crust
will cover our natural nature. Only by
returning to Allah, remembering Allah,
surrendering ourselves to Him, will
Allah purify and purify our souls. But
be careful, wala takunuinaullahahum
anfusahum. Don't be among those who
forget Allah. In the end, Allah makes
you forget yourself. The deeds you must
do as provisions for your life in this
world and the hereafter that you
abandon are the deeds that will destroy
you. So, try to recite dhikr a lot,
then increase your prayers in addition
to the obligatory prayers, and you, Mom
and Dad, cry when prostrating, asking
Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala to purify our
souls. Even the Prophet prayed, even
the Prophet prayed. Likewise, the
Prophet's family and companions prayed
for Allah to cleanse their souls and
pour piety into their hearts. This
means they realized that without Allah,
Satan would easily infiltrate our
hearts. Even the Prophet was commanded
to seek refuge in Allah. Therefore, if
we want to return to purity and
holiness, we must return our souls to
Allah. Remember Him often, establish
prayer. Then what should we do? Read
the Quran often, absorb its verses.
This will help purify our souls, calm
our hearts, and keep Satan away from us
. Heeh.
So, for the questioner, what is the
most beloved deed to Allah as a
provision for our lives? We know that
prayer is the most important deed we do
at the right time with reverence. If
Allah gives us wealth, let's not look
at the amount. If
we have wealth, we share it with our
wealth. That is a deed that Allah loves
. If someone has 1 trillion rupiah, he
spends Rp billion, mother has Rp 1
million, mother spends Rp 500,000,
mother is bigger.
Because mother spends 50%while he only
spends how much? So don't look at the
size, look at the devotion of mother
from her descendants who offer what
mother has. The more mother offers, the
more it shows the soul of mother who
truly dedicates what mother offers to
Allah. Qul inna shati wusuki wahyaya
waamati lillahi alamin. La syarika lahu
wabalika umirtu waana awal muslimin.
Quranic verse. So pay attention to our
close relatives, our neighbors. Don't
look at the large amount or who it is
given to. Our relatives, our neighbors
deserve more of what we have than
anyone else. Mother wants to give alms
and say giving aid donations to flood
victims even if it's only Rp 100,000.
Don't look at the Rp 100,000, but look
at what percentage of mother's
possessions.
Heeh. If not, it's a pity that little
people end up living on the edge of
heaven. Rich people buy lots in heaven.
Already in the world they control the
land, control plantations, control
everything.
Or in the afterlife they will take over
everything? All heavens. No. Because
your placement in the afterlife will
not be seen from how much you spend,
but how much you feel about your
sacrifice and your love for Allah
Subhanahu wa Taala. So we pray that you
will be guided to carry out the pious
deeds that Allah most approves of.
Read the prayer in Suratul Ahqaf. Rbi
azi an asura nmatakallati anamta alai
waid wa shi wa firi intuaika inni minal
muslimin. This verse from the Qur'an in
surah Al-Ahqaf is a prayer that Allah
teaches for those of us who have passed
the age of 40 years. But that doesn't
mean that below we are not encouraged
to read, but after 40 years of prayer,
"O my Lord, help me to be grateful for
Your blessings that You have bestowed
upon me, as well as upon my parents.
Help me to do the pious deeds that You
are pleased with, O Allah, who You are
most
pleased with." And repair for me my
descendants, O Allah. I repent to You.
I declare myself as a person who
surrenders to You, O Allah. Yes, this
is a very beautiful prayer that Allah
teaches directly to people who are
already 40 years old. Allah's answer,
ulaikalladinaqbaluhum ahsana ma amilu.
They are the people from whom we
receive from whom their best deeds are
placed in high positions. Charities at
the bottom are also raised to the top.
We erased their sins
and placed them among those who inhabit
Paradise. Waidzi yuadunah true promises
promised to them.
So read this prayer, absorb it and
follow the instructions. God willing,
ladies and gentlemen, and all our
listeners, we hope that we will hear
the guidance from Allah Subhanahu wa
ta'ala. Likewise, the mercy of His
forgiveness for the mother who
complained about the condition of her
daughter, young, was given the best way
out, saved from the wrongdoers.
Subhanakallahumma wabihamdik ashadu
alla ilahailla anta astagfiruka wa
atubu ilaik wal afu minkum.
Wasalamualaikum warahmatullahi
wabarakatuh.
Waalaikumsalam warahmatullahi
wabarakatuh. Thank you to our teacher
Ustaz Husain Atas who has answered the
questions from the Ikhwan Akhwat this
morning. We apologize that there are
some questions that we have not had
time to read due to time constraints.
God willing, if there is an opportunity
, in the next question and answer
session, we will read them and be
answered by Ustaz Husein Alatas.
Hopefully these answers will increase
our knowledge, and hopefully the
problems presented will be answered and
we will receive the best solutions from
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. Brothers and
sisters, and before we end, let's pray
for our brothers and sisters in Sumatra
, Ustaz, who are still struggling to
rise and recover. God willing, may
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala grant them
patience and strength, and amen. Amen.
Punish the oppressors who caused this
disaster.
Amen. Amen. Amen, Ustaz. Yes,
masyaallah. And also to the volunteers,
of course, our brothers and sisters who
have traveled all the way to Sumatra,
may they also be given strength and
patience, Ustaz. Some of our colleagues
have been there for almost two weeks.
Masyaallah. Alhamdulillah.
Leaving their families behind.
Masyaallah.
How far has the blood collection
reached?
Uh, if I'm not mistaken, it was over 50
yesterday, Ustaz. Some of it has been
distributed there.
This means we remind the congregation
who want to donate to the victims.
There are our representatives there.
Yes.
God willing, the mandate and deliver
directly to those who are entitled to
send their donations to the
account number of Ustaz Rasil later
there will be representatives Hilmi and
also ukhuwah alfatar rescue in the area
there Ustaz. This
will ease the difficulties, of course,
Allah will make it easier later Ustaz,
your reward Ustaz, yes. Okay, brothers
and sisters, we are leaving, I am Rizal
and also Kang Aldi and Kang Oldi Oni
subhanakamika asadua anah taufik
walhidah wasalamualaikum
warahmatullahikum