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0:16 Alhamdulilla wasalam ala rasulillah wa 0:18 alalamualaikum warahmatullahi 0:20 wabarakatuh ikhting dirahmatiullah 0:22 subhanahu wa taala how are you welcome 0:24 back to the reflection under the shade 0:26 of the Qur'an with alfagqir isa alkaf 0:28 there is mas algja operator and 0:30 accompanying us our teacher with Ustaz 0:32 Husein bin Hamid Alatt. Assalamualaikum 0:34 Ustaz. 0:35 Waalaikumsalam warahmatullahi 0:36 wabarakatuh. 0:37 Masyaallah the price of the dollar fell 0:39 yesterday Ustaz now it has gone up a 0:41 little again. Masyaallah there is 0:42 a lot of demand right? 0:44 That's right Ustaz 0:44 when there is demand 0:46 Heeh. 0:47 or a lot of demand inevitably the price 0:48 of the dollar increases. 0:49 Oh. 0:51 Demand to pay debts, demand to buy 0:54 imported goods. 0:57 Okay. So it depends on our demand. 1:01 Yes. Because there is a high purchase 1:03 of dollars so it goes up again. Ist 1:05 oh don't want that. 1:07 Insyaallah. Insyaallah. Hopefully Allah 1:09 will continue to protect us, Allah will 1:10 make our sustenance easier. Ikhwan 1:12 akhwat today this morning we will be 1:15 live and we are live not we will be 1:17 live, we are live. For those of you who 1:19 want to ask questions, please send your 1:21 questions via WhatsApp message at 1:23 0811999720. Once again, send your 1:29 questions via WhatsApp message at 1:32 0811999720. We are waiting for your 1:38 questions and we will open first by 1:40 reading the ummul Quran surah 1:42 Al-Fatihah. 1:43 Auzubillahiminasyaitanirrajim. 1:49 Bismillahirrahmanirrahim. 1:54 Alhamdulillahi rabbil alamin 1:59 arrahmanirrahim. Maiki yaumiddin. 2:07 Iyyaka na'budu wa iyyaka nasta ' 2:12 ihdinasirathal mustaqim. Shathalladzina 2:19 an'amta alaihim ghairil maghdubi 2:24 alaihim waladin. 2:32 Amen. 2:33 Amen. Amen. Amen. Amen ya rabbal alamin 2:35 . Hopefully from the reading of the 2:36 letter al-Fatihah earlier, Allah will 2:38 open the door of guidance, the door of 2:40 mercy, the door of everything so that 2:41 we will always be in the pleasure of 2:43 Allah subhanahu wa taala. Ustaz, this 2:45 is your opening question. What are the 2:49 things that actually make the human 2:51 heart lose its empathy and cannot see 2:54 the guidance and guidance of Allah 2:57 subhanahu wa taala? Thank you Ustaz, 2:59 jazakumullah khairan jaza. 3:02 Bismillahirrahmanirrahim. 3:04 Walhamdulillahiabbil alamin. Allahumma 3:09 sholli wasallim wabarik ala abdika wa 3:12 rasulika sayyidina Muhammadin wa alihi 3:16 wasohbihi wasallam. Allahumma atina 3:21 minika rahmah waimna min ladunka ilman 3:25 nafi wna bimaam. Rbana zidna ilman 3:30 walhikna bisihin. Amma ba'du. 3:32 Brotherhood, sisters, listeners, radio 3:35 TV viewers, friendship, who are blessed 3:38 by Allah. Allah Subhanahu wa Taala says 3:44 in surah al-Mutaffifin to explain to us 3:50 the behavior of people who behave less 3:54 when it comes to their rights. They ask 3:57 to be fulfilled. In fact, it's not 4:01 uncommon for them to ask to be added. 4:04 But when it comes to other people's 4:05 rights, they reduce them. This kind of 4:09 cheating attitude will definitely cause 4:15 discomfort and disharmony. For example, 4:20 if a husband demands that his rights be 4:24 fulfilled, 4:25 Heeh. but does not fulfill his wife's 4:27 rights. Or vice versa, the wife demands 4:29 her rights but does not carry out her 4:32 obligations which are the husband's 4:34 rights, it is impossible for the 4:36 household to be harmonious. Likewise 4:41 among us. If we demand our rights from 4:45 our friends, from our clients, but we 4:48 do not give them their rights, our 4:55 social life will naturally suffer 4:57 damage. Likewise, in economic life we 5:04 are required to act fairly. Just as we 5:08 want our rights to be fulfilled, 5:10 protect the rights of others. In fact, 5:14 Allah recommends that we do ihsan. We 5:16 give up our rights if we see that our 5:19 colleagues are unable to fulfill their 5:21 obligations. In all aspects of life, 5:26 Allah commands us to act fairly. 5:29 Innallaha yammuru bil. Then Allah 5:31 subhanahu wa taala invites you to 5:34 something more perfect. Wal ihsan. But 5:38 unfortunately Muslims ruin their lives 5:41 because they lose their sense of 5:44 injustice. Ee loses their sense of 5:48 justice which results in them being 5:51 selfish. They are selfish. What is 5:56 right and wrong determined by? With 5:59 himself. Not with a standard of truth 6:02 that will safeguard everyone's rights. 6:07 So, after Allah explained how people 6:09 who act fraudulently in this life can 6:13 destroy harmony among mankind, Allah 6:18 emphasized, kalla barrona ala qulubihim 6:23 ma kanu yaksibun. Allah reminds you to 6:28 be aware. Don't behave like this. You 6:35 will experience a terrible fate in the 6:37 afterlife as threatened in the previous 6:40 verses. And you in the world will be 6:45 covered by Allah's grace. Likewise in 6:49 the afterlife. Kalla innahum abbihim 6:53 yaumaidin lamahjubun. Tumma innahumul 6:57 jahim. yuqalu hadzi florets bihi 6:59 tukadibun. So when a human's behavior 7:04 deviates from the truth, commits 7:07 injustice, then the grace of Allah 7:10 Subhanahu wa Taala will be withheld 7:13 from him. Because Allah's mercy is near 7:17 to those who do good. Inna Rahmatallah 7:19 Qoribun 7:20 Minal Muhsinin. Likewise, Allah loves 7:23 those who do good deeds, but hates 7:26 those who do injustice. And Allah will 7:29 not give them guidance. Wallahu la 7:31 yahdilimin. 7:35 In the afterlife they will also be 7:37 covered by Allah's grace and 7:38 forgiveness. Then they will enter the 7:41 fire of hell. Then Allah said, "This is 7:44 what you used to lie about." So what 7:47 makes our hearts harden and also lose 7:52 our sense of empathy, lose our sense of 7:56 justice are actually the sins that we 7:59 commit. Allah said earlier kalla 8:02 barrana ala qulubihim want yaksibun. 8:05 This means that you should be aware, O 8:08 people, that they are not listening to 8:10 God's guidance and guidance. What are 8:12 their consequences? They carried out 8:15 their bad deeds over and over until 8:17 finally Ron ala Qulubihim wanted to 8:19 yaksibun. The evil sins they committed 8:22 eventually covered their hearts. 8:25 H. In a history, the Prophet said, "If 8:29 a person commits a sin, commits a crime 8:33 , a black spot will appear in his heart 8:38 ." What was previously glowing, black 8:40 spots appear. If he repents, Allah will 8:42 erase him. But if he continues to do 8:46 Israr continuously without repenting to 8:49 Allah, over time his heart will be 8:52 filled with black spots until it covers 8:55 the light of his heart. These kinds of 9:00 people have truly terrible fates. Allah 9:04 says, "Afaroaita manakza ilahahu hawa." 9:07 Have you not seen a person who makes 9:11 his God his lust? What's the 9:13 consequence? Ak isa waahullahu ilm. 9:18 Allah misled him or Allah let him go 9:20 astray, not in ignorance. The science 9:23 of knowledge. He knows what is wrong 9:27 but he does it. So wahallahi aliman 9:32 bima fa'al. Allah led him astray in a 9:35 state of knowledge. If he doesn't know, 9:38 it's still understandable. But he knows 9:41 , he is knowledgeable. Maybe he even 9:43 memorized the Koran. But Allah misled 9:47 him. Because of what? Because he makes 9:49 lust his God. Samihi waqbih style wama. 9:53 Allah seals his hearing and heart. 9:57 Faman yahdihi m ba'dillah. If people 9:59 are like this, who has the power to 10:01 give guidance after being abandoned by 10:03 Allah? So what makes this heart lose 10:07 the empathy of the guardian of 10:09 Iyadzubillah is disobedience and 10:11 injustice. But if a person sharpens his 10:15 heart with virtue, with nobility, he 10:19 upholds justice, God loves, his soul 10:22 will truly be enveloped in God's grace. 10:27 With ease, God willing, he will receive 10:29 guidance from Allah Subhanahu wa Taala. 10:32 So human behavior depends on how his 10:35 heart is, how his heart is. If the 10:38 heart is healthy, the heart is really 10:41 in good condition, love is good, 10:44 automatically the body is an instrument 10:47 , what will it do? Will reflect what is 10:51 in his heart. But if his soul is 10:54 dominated by the lust of anger, then 10:56 his eyes will be closed to the truth. 10:59 He will commit terrible deeds. He 11:02 thought he was right. 11:03 Oh my God. 11:04 This is terrible. Guardian yesdubillah. 11:07 Natubu astagfirullah waubu ilaihi min 11:10 jamil maasi w. Amen. Amen, rabbal 11:13 alamin. Uh, here are Ustaz greetings 11:16 from Tuti Alawiyah, there is Mrs. 11:18 Sundari, there is Siti Salama, there is 11:21 Mrs. Suyati, there is Khairidin. So, 11:23 Ustaz's next question continued from 11:25 that. Ustaz explained that what makes 11:28 our hearts shut down ala qulubihim is 11:30 our sins against Allah Subhanahu wa 11:32 taala. What training, Ustaz, makes us 11:35 more sensitive to seeing God's guidance 11:38 or maybe even more sensitive to seeing 11:41 what is good and right for us to do and 11:44 what we have to live with, what we have 11:47 to prioritize and what we have to give 11:50 up. Thank you, Ustaz. 11:51 Bismillahirrahmanirrahim. Allah says in 11:54 Suratus Shams wa Nafsin w 11:58 faalhamahajujur q aflaha waq 12:07 Allah swears by the human soul which is 12:09 truly amazing. When humans reflect on 12:14 their souls they will discover 12:17 extraordinary miracles. a miracle far 12:20 more beautiful than the physical realm. 12:23 Even our physical being is controlled 12:26 by our soul. 12:27 Yes Is 12:27 that right? 12:28 That's right. 12:28 Allah swears here by the soul. Wama 12:31 sawaha a taswiyatiha. How God created 12:36 the soul in a state of balance. Full of 12:43 balance. And when the human soul was 12:45 first created, Allah mentioned in Surah 12:48 at-Tin, laqad khalaqnal insana fi ahsan 12:51 . We have created humans in the best 12:57 and straightest conditions. This means 13:03 that when humans were first created by 13:05 God, they came out of the great hands 13:07 of God's majesty, they were created in 13:10 a state of fitr, in a state of holiness 13:12 . As the Prophet said, "Kullu mauludin 13:16 yuladu alal fitrah." 13:20 Fitrah in Arabic is sim haiah. 13:23 Isim hai means a state that is truly 13:27 straight, perfect, full of balance. 13:32 Faadasaru alladzani yuhawidanihi a 13:36 yunasiranihi. So what happened to his 13:43 parents? Masar's birth of the child 13:47 with education with its influence makes 13:50 the child become a Jew or become a 13:53 Christian or even become a Magian. It 14:01 describes the condition of the human 14:03 soul. But even so, we must know the 14:06 influence of parents, the influence of 14:08 education is not absolute. 14:10 Therefore, it is not an absolute factor 14:14 because humans still have independence. 14:16 He. 14:17 Has a choice. 14:19 Therefore, many are born to parents who 14:21 are infidels, but their children are 14:22 believers. 14:23 Many are also born to parents who 14:24 believe, but their children are 14:26 infidels, like the son of the Prophet 14:27 Noah. 14:28 Yes. Is 14:28 that right? 14:29 Yes. Environmental influence. We often 14:32 encounter women who are married to 14:34 infidel, oppressive husbands, but the 14:37 women are faithful and love the truth, 14:40 like Asiah, the wife of Pharaoh. But 14:43 how many women become wives of pious 14:46 men, but they turn out to be wali 14:49 iyadzubillah, including those who are 14:51 traitors. For example, the wives of the 14:53 Prophets Noah and Lot. So humans still 14:57 have a choice, and when they discover 14:59 the truth, they will be faced with a 15:01 choice. Will they follow the truth? 15:04 Will they follow the desires and 15:07 traditions inherited from their parents 15:10 and environment? Those who prioritize 15:12 Allah, Allah will guide. But those who 15:15 prioritize their desires, then their 15:17 desires will lead them astray. So for 15:21 the sake of the soul and how Allah 15:23 created the soul in a state of complete 15:26 balance. Faalhamaha fujuraha wa taqwaha 15:30 . Even this soul contains a great 15:32 secret. Allah has implanted in the 15:35 human soul an instinct that helps it 15:38 distinguish between fujur and piety. 15:42 When a person does good, his heart is 15:44 at ease. When he does wrong, his heart 15:47 is restless. Isn't that right? Allah 15:49 created this human soul to be calm and 15:52 happy when doing good, but it will be 15:54 restless, anxious, and uncomfortable 15:57 when doing bad. Then Allah reminds us, 16:01 qod aflaha man zaka. Indeed, it is 16:03 fortunate to successfully undergo the 16:07 trials of this worldly life that always 16:10 seeks to purify one's soul and then 16:13 cultivate a love for noble values. 16:16 Because the word zaka yuzaki indicates 16:18 two meanings. First, purity. What is 16:21 the second? The second is growth. So 16:25 purifying from impurity fosters good 16:28 things. If a person is accustomed to 16:31 doing good repeatedly, then what is 16:34 loved is virtue. When he sees its 16:36 opposite, which is bad deeds, he will 16:38 feel disgusted. Isn't 16:39 that right? On the other hand, if 16:43 someone gets used to doing bad things, 16:45 over time they will love that habit and 16:48 feel uncomfortable when invited to do 16:50 good. 16:52 Hmm. 16:52 If someone gets used to smoking, it's 16:55 hard to quit. If someone gets used to 16:59 drinking alcohol, it's also hard to 17:01 quit. If someone gets used to 17:02 committing adultery, 17:03 they will lose interest in their wife. 17:05 God forbid. But on the other hand, 17:08 people who maintain their chastity with 17:11 their wives, don't socialize freely, 17:14 and also protect themselves from 17:16 inappropriate words, so they will only 17:19 enjoy the same things. But when they 17:22 witness different things that 17:23 contradict each other, they will feel 17:25 disgusted and even embarrassed to 17:26 listen. So, those who purify their 17:28 souls are truly fortunate, and those 17:30 who pollute their souls are truly at a 17:33 loss. Waqha. So, it all comes back to 17:37 whom? Back to us. 17:39 Yes. 17:39 It depends on our choices. It will 17:42 shape our character and souls, and we 17:46 will also bear the consequences of our 17:50 choices. And Allah knows best. 17:52 Masyaallah. This is the next question, 17:55 Ustaz, from Vivi Luthfi, yes, Ustaz. 17:57 Well, ee about the use of financial 18:00 support from a husband given to his 18:03 wife, what is it like in more detail, 18:05 Ustaz? Allah Subhanahu wa taala in 18:10 surah at-Thalaq says, "La yukallifulahu 18:14 nafsan illa ma ataha wasayaj'alulllahu 18:17 ba'da usrin 18:19 yusra." 18:21 Allah does not burden anyone 18:23 except according to what Allah gives. 18:27 to him. Allah promises that after 18:30 difficulties there will 18:32 definitely be ease and 18:33 will provide ease. Likewise in another 18:37 verse, la yukallifulahu nafsan illa 18:39 wus'aha. So if a husband says his 18:42 income, he is doing well, is IDR 3 18:45 million, he will not be obliged to 18:49 provide support for his family of IDR 5 18:52 million. H. But if he is given the 18:55 freedom, then he is automatically 18:58 obliged to meet the needs of his wife 19:01 and children according to what is 19:04 appropriate. 19:05 Without 19:07 doing wasteful actions and without 19:10 being stingy towards his family. 19:13 Because the best man is the kindest to 19:16 his family. khairukum khairukum liahli 19:19 and this good attitude should not only 19:23 provide what is desired from material 19:27 needs but noble treatment noble 19:30 treatment 19:31 many women are married to men whose 19:34 income is just enough, sometimes even 19:38 less, their household lasts long even 19:41 the wife loves her husband very much 19:44 why Because even though his income is 19:48 small, he treats his wife nobly. There 19:52 is a story, I once told a man who had 19:55 four wives. He had a fairly comfortable 20:00 house. But one day a crisis occurred 20:04 where he had to sell his house. Then 20:09 the person who bought the house paid 20:11 little by little until the money was 20:14 nothing. He was interested in buying a 20:16 lower house. The rest was used for 20:19 business but it turned out he didn't 20:21 get what he wanted, lost the house. 20:25 Finally he came to his wives. I'm not 20:29 like before, unable to provide for me. 20:33 I'm afraid before Allah, responsible, 20:35 yes. So I want to separate from some of 20:41 you. So he means he will only keep one 20:44 wife. What was his wives' response? His 20:47 wives said, "You don't need to divorce 20:50 us. We don't need a living from you 20:52 either. Even if you can't afford to 20:55 come, don't have the money, we will 20:57 provide the money." His wife happens to 21:01 have a small business. So, the husband 21:06 wants to leave his wife because he is 21:08 afraid of Allah, unable to carry out 21:10 his obligations. The wife rejected all 21:12 of that because of what? Not because he 21:16 often gave money, because his husband 21:19 treated his wife nobly. If she 21:22 separated at that time she would get a 21:23 similar man. So the wife feels like 21:28 what? Her husband considers her to be 21:30 his idol. He was fair to them. But many 21:34 men marry only one wife, but his wife 21:38 suffers alongside the man because he is 21:42 rude, harsh, and belittles his wife. He 21:46 felt genuine he made his wife as if 21:48 what? Her glory is due to her husband. 21:51 So treating people with dignity is the 21:54 most beautiful thing. The Prophet was 21:57 loved and respected not because he was 21:59 rich. The rich Roman king did not get 22:03 the love of his people like our Prophet 22:07 Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam who 22:10 was willing to make himself a ransom. 22:14 Bi ummi anta, Rasulullah. I am willing 22:16 to redeem you with my parents, even 22:18 with myself. Because of why? Because of 22:22 noble morals. So, a man who says he is 22:25 unable to provide a good living for his 22:29 wife, because of his inability can be 22:32 compensated by helping his wife, 22:35 helping her, calming her heart, making 22:39 her smile. Don't make her grieve. 22:41 This is a good deed that will open a 22:44 sense of love and mercy, it will also 22:47 open the door to sustenance. 22:50 Waasyiruhunna 22:51 bil ma'ruf. 22:52 Biluf. 22:53 Masyaallah. Hey, is it true, Ustaz, if 22:56 we give gifts to our wives, it makes 22:58 sustenance easier? 23:01 Treating 23:03 people well will open the door to mercy 23:05 . 23:06 Especially to wives, 23:08 especially to parents. 23:10 Oh, masyaallah. Especially to 23:11 parents. 23:12 Don't treat our wives well. We give 23:14 gifts, buy this, buy that. We ignore 23:17 our parents. 23:18 Because parents 'rights in this matter 23:20 are greater. 23:21 For example, in inheritance. 23:24 If a man dies leaving a wife and 23:27 parents, the wife gets a quarter if 23:30 there are no children. He. 23:34 If there are children, they get 1/8. 23:36 Heeh. If parents have children, how 23:39 much do they get? 23:41 Per 3/6 23:42 1/6 is enough. 23:44 Eh, if there are children, parents get 23:48 a wife, they get a half. 23:50 Heeh. 23:50 If there are no children, the entire 23:53 inheritance can be transferred to the 23:56 parents. The wife at that time received 23:58 1/4 at. 3/4 for the father and mother. 24:03 The father could get 2/4. The mother 24:08 got 1/4 at ee like the mother got a 24:11 third, the 2/3 belonged to the father. 24:16 So, the mother got tulutul baqi 24:17 one-third of the remainder. 24:19 He. 24:20 While 2/3 of the remainder belongs to 24:22 the parents. While the wife only gets a 24:24 quarter. H. 24:27 Why? Because if the parents planted 24:29 from the beginning until the children 24:32 became independent people. While the 24:34 wife enjoys the results of the parents' 24:36 crops. The wife should be grateful for 24:38 the kindness of her husband's parents. 24:40 Likewise, we towards our wives, we 24:42 should also be grateful for the 24:44 kindness of our wife's parents who 24:46 educate their children to be good 24:48 people given to us as a gift without 24:50 asking for anything in return. This is 24:52 a noble attitude of karim. It means 24:56 giving the rights of others as we want 24:59 our rights to be fulfilled. So, Islam 25:01 really guides us to glorify people who 25:05 do good to us, especially our parents. 25:08 Wallahualam. 25:10 Bismillah, Ustaz. This is actually a 25:12 follow-up question, Ustaz. And it looks 25:14 like some of it has been answered, but 25:17 Ustaz can hear it from Mrs. Yeti. 25:19 Asalamualaikum warahmatullahi 25:20 wabarakatuh. Permission to ask, Mr 25:21 Ustaz. There is a husband who does not 25:24 provide optimal support for his wife, 25:26 both physically and spiritually. So his 25:29 wife couldn't take care of him 25:31 optimally either. But the husband said 25:33 to his wife, "A master of hell." Is 25:35 that true, Mr Ustaz? Syukran. 25:38 Bismillahirrahmanirrahim. What I said 25:41 earlier was related to Allah's 25:44 fraudulent attitude, 25:46 namely Wailun Lilin Alladinaasiun 25:53 Waumuhum. It's 25:55 really a disaster or an accident for 25:59 the mutfifins when it comes to their 26:04 rights, so he asked that the scales be 26:07 fulfilled. 26:08 So that the scales 26:09 are filled. necessary. But when it 26:13 comes to other people's rights, he 26:14 reduces other people's scales. This 26:16 isn't just about weighing things, 26:19 but also about social and economic 26:21 relationships. So, if a husband demands 26:24 his rights from his wife, threatening 26:26 you with min ahlin nar, and if your 26:27 husband isn't pleased, you'll go to 26:29 hell, but he doesn't fulfill his 26:31 obligations, then those words are 26:32 turned against him. 26:34 Heeh. 26:35 Turned against 26:36 himself. 26:36 Himself. Now, men often use narrations 26:41 that are completely baseless. 26:48 Threatening their wives with various 26:51 threats. If your husband isn't pleased, 26:53 you won't smell paradise. 26:55 Heeh. If these words are uttered by a 26:58 man who fulfills his obligations to his 27:01 wife, treats her with dignity, but his 27:04 wife disobeys him, disobeys him 27:07 completely, and does wrong things, then 27:10 he won't smell paradise. 27:12 But if these words come from a man who 27:15 treats his wife badly, 27:17 doesn't provide for her properly, 27:19 demands from his wife, even to the 27:21 point of taking her rights, 27:23 her property, what is hers? He asks, " 27:25 If you don't give it to her, and your 27:28 husband isn't pleased, you'll go to 27:30 hell." 27:31 These are the words of all who will 27:33 return to themselves and Allah 27:35 Subhanahu wa ta'ala will withhold His 27:37 mercy until they repent. 27:39 Because Allah hates those who commit 27:41 injustice the most. And Allah knows 27:44 best. Masyaallah. 27:46 Mr. Algi, I've been calling repeatedly 27:48 from WhatsApp messages. Can you answer, 27:50 Mr. Algi? The cellphone is here. Oh, 27:54 the mic is dead. This cellphone can't 27:56 be used. Oh, 27:57 you can just open it directly. It 27:59 can't be opened, Mrs. Vivi. I'm sorry, 28:02 Mrs. Vivi Lutfiah. Actually, Mrs. 28:05 Vivi's question about living expenses 28:07 was explained earlier, but perhaps 28:09 there's something you want to emphasize 28:12 . Yes, that's why I 28:13 can't, Ma'am. I can't. I'm sorry, don't 28:15 call again. Hey, if you want to use 28:19 WhatsApp, 28:20 just use the number for the sisters, 28:24 and if you want to ask, it's 0811 28:29 999720. Once again, it's 0811999720. 28:35 Ustaz, but is there a standard limit, 28:37 Ustaz, in providing a living, 28:40 what is the minimum obligation of a 28:42 husband, Ustaz? So in general, in 28:46 general, it's as stated in the previous 28:52 verse. La yukallifulahu nafsan illa ma 28:55 ataha. 28:57 A person's economic condition is not 29:00 always in what condition? In a broad 29:02 condition. 29:03 Yes. 29:04 Well, when he is broad, Allah makes it 29:07 broad for his wife. When he is tight, 29:10 he asks his wife to be patient. Let's 29:13 take the example of our Prophet 29:15 Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam 29:17 when he married his noble wife 29:22 who chose him because of the nobility 29:24 of our Prophet, not because of his 29:25 wealth. Many young men of Quraysh 29:27 wanted Khadijah but were rejected. How 29:31 do you think Sayidah Khadijah treated 29:33 the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam? 29:38 If the Prophet, in his humble 29:41 circumstances, were required to provide 29:45 for his wife 29:47 according to her needs and standards, 29:50 he would certainly not be able to. 29:53 Meaning, God could have given him what 29:55 he desired. 29:56 What is this really about? It is a test 29:59 and a trial. 30:02 If God had to intervene at any time, 30:05 where is the test? 30:06 Yes. That's right. God could have 30:08 defeated the infidels without Muslims 30:09 having to fight. Could he have 30:11 destroyed the Zionists without Muslims? 30:13 But through the current test, with the 30:16 brutal behavior of the Zionists who 30:19 committed massacres, we see true 30:21 Muslims who care for their brothers and 30:24 sisters regardless of their tribe, 30:27 nation, or sect. And it is evident who 30:30 is the betrayer. Whoever 30:33 betrays 30:33 betrays. Without a test, it will not be 30:36 seen. So God said, "Liyabluakum ayyukum 30:38 ahsan 30:39 ahsanu amal." So, our humble Prophet 30:42 Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah 30:44 be upon him) accepted the marriage 30:45 proposal from Hadrat Khadijah. Then the 30:47 Prophet proposed. And Abu Talib, while 30:51 delivering his sermon, said, "This son 30:55 of my niece is not a man of property." 30:59 But the Quraysh all knew what morals 31:01 and personalities were like. 31:03 Heeh. Heeh. And this is precisely what 31:06 attracted Asayidah Khadijah. So if the 31:11 demand for sustenance was always 31:18 absolutely complete, even though 31:21 people's circumstances are different 31:24 and their circumstances are not the 31:26 same, then this could cause damage to 31:29 household life. 31:30 The important thing is that the husband 31:32 should not be lazy. Yes, that's right. 31:34 Now, if her husband is lazy from 31:37 morning to evening, staying up late 31:41 with friends, playing gafle, and 31:43 chatting about meaningless things, then 31:46 it means he has wasted the obligation 31:49 that Allah has imposed on him. But if 31:53 he has tried, tried earnestly but has 31:56 not yet found the opportunity, is it 32:00 right for his wife to ask for 32:03 separation from him because she is 32:05 unable to fulfill what? His obligation 32:08 to provide for her and children? 32:10 Heeh. 32:11 In itself, it is inappropriate in this 32:13 case. 32:14 She is not 32:15 prohibited. If she demands separation, 32:16 that is her right. 32:17 Yes. But if she demands only because 32:21 her husband is not yet able to provide 32:25 for her in full, this is in itself 32:28 contrary to ethics and mercy. Therefore 32:32 , there is a saying that 32:34 h 32:35 y'fuz zauju y'fuz zauj fi halati marad 32:42 zaujiha or fi maradi zaujiha. If you 32:45 want a good man, how will he behave 32:48 when his wife is sick? When a watful 32:53 wife is angry, inda faqri zaujiha. If 32:57 you want to know a woman, try to see 32:59 how she is when her husband is poor or 33:01 in a state of decline. If she is loyal, 33:06 she cares and she is patient, this 33:08 shows she is a loyal woman. Likewise, 33:12 if you want to know the devotion of 33:15 children, see how her mother is in old 33:22 age, how her children behave, how they 33:26 behave. So if we pay attention, our 33:30 whole life is a test not only about our 33:35 knowledge and knowledge. If knowledge 33:37 is not put into practice, it will be a 33:39 proof from Allah against us all. 33:41 Therefore, in an economic situation, 33:43 especially like the current one, if our 33:45 women have husbands who are in 33:47 difficult conditions, it is not because 33:50 they are lazy, not because they don't 33:52 want to try, so be patient. Allah says, 33:55 "Fainna maal usri yus." inal. 33:58 Just as if a husband is married and 34:01 then his wife falls ill and is unable 34:03 to serve her husband, he should be 34:05 patient. Don't divorce her because of 34:07 this. There's a doctor I know who was 34:10 married with three children, four 34:13 children. One wife was sick and 34:16 helpless in comparison. For years, the 34:21 husband cared for his wife. He was 34:24 offered marriage. He refused, lovingly 34:27 caring for her. Only after a long time 34:30 had passed did his wife pass away did 34:34 he remarry. So, loyalty and purity are 34:38 the most beautiful things in life. 34:40 Women are not valued for their beauty 34:42 or wealth. Men are the same. What's 34:44 the point of a handsome, rich man 34:46 if his personality is rotten and rotten 34:48 ? Right. Well, when a husband is in 34:51 trouble because he can't work, he 34:54 can help his wife. 34:55 Yes. 34:56 If he has children, he can take his 34:58 wife to school. He can handle other 35:00 matters outside of his husband's. Don't 35:02 sleep at home daydreaming about what 35:04 he'll get? 35:05 Provisions. Especially in this day and 35:07 age, football matches until the morning 35:10 without work. 35:11 How will provision come to him? 35:13 Right, Ustaz. 35:14 Right? So we should truly be 35:17 responsible men who treat those around 35:21 us with dignity, our parents, including 35:24 our wives and children. Khairukum 35:27 khairukum liahlih. The best of you are 35:30 those who are best to their families. 35:32 Waana khairukum liahli. And I am the 35:34 best person to my family. This is what 35:37 is beautiful in this life. Not position 35:39 , not wealth, not knowledge. What is 35:42 the meaning of knowledge without 35:43 practice? And Allah knows best. 35:44 Masyaallah. Masyaallah. Jazakallah 35:46 khairan. Jaza Ustaz eh poor Mrs. Vivi 35:49 tried to call but couldn't, Mas Algi, 35:53 yes. Yes. Can you send a long WhatsApp 35:56 message? Ustaz, there is one material 36:01 in the premarital seminar like that, 36:04 Ustaz. that if for example the wife 36:07 demands payment for breastfeeding from 36:10 her husband, the husband must give it, 36:13 Ustaz because it is actually part of 36:16 the sustenance that the husband must 36:19 provide for the child, Ustaz. Is that 36:22 true, Ustaz? 36:24 When husband and wife are in harmony, 36:27 they do not separate, 36:28 yes. 36:29 So that is included in the sustenance 36:31 that Allah requires. 36:32 Oh. H 36:33 when they are still together. 36:36 Yes. 36:37 So among the sustenance given to his 36:39 wife is not only sustenance for kitchen 36:42 needs. 36:43 Heeh. 36:44 Yes. But a wife who cares for 36:46 breastfeeding children has many needs. 36:48 Right? 36:49 Right. Ustaz, 36:50 so give it to his wife and children too 36:52 . But when there is a separation 36:55 in Surah Thaq, Allah mentions faakum 36:59 faatun ujur. If your wives breastfeed 37:04 your children, 37:06 then give them wages. 37:09 But if it is like wain taasartum wa 37:12 taasartum, if there is no agreement 37:15 regarding the husband, he can be stingy 37:17 , 37:17 right? So is said, "Then, you find a 37:20 wet nurse for your child." Even though 37:23 breastfeeding a child with canned milk 37:26 alone, how much does it cost each month 37:28 ? Right. 37:29 Right? 37:30 If the wife is breastfeeding, her 37:32 health, her nutrition, and so on, so 37:35 give her wages. Don't make it easy for 37:38 you, the child is all borne by what? By 37:41 the wife. While the man is like a 37:44 rooster. After having intercourse with 37:47 the female, his nails are ruyuyuk 37:49 immediately go to another woman. And 37:51 what? Meanwhile, the wife has to bear 37:53 the burden. She lays eggs, she broods, 37:55 she cares for her children until they 37:57 are adults. Well, what is most suitable 38:00 for us is not a life like a chicken, 38:02 but a life like a bird. This 38:05 betel-hoofed bird is a loyal and 38:07 devoted animal. He he. 38:09 When the wife broods, her husband looks 38:12 for food for her. He also looks for 38:15 food for the little ones. 38:17 When the wife flies out to earn a 38:19 living, the husband sits waiting. 38:21 H. 38:22 Therefore, usually the love 38:23 relationship is 38:24 like a pair of doves, right? 38:26 Yes, Ustaz. 38:27 Subhanallah, even when their parents 38:29 are old, young birds earn a living to 38:32 feed their parents. 38:33 Yes. 38:35 So don't be like a rooster. Just what? 38:38 Just a relationship or biological needs 38:41 . After that, I'll cuddle. Ustaz, can 38:44 you call the person who called earlier. 38:48 It's connected. Assalamualaikum. 38:50 Waalaikumsalam warahmatullahi 38:52 wabarakatuh. 38:53 Waalaikumsalam warahmatullahi 38:54 wabarakatuh. 38:55 Always healthy and happy mother to all 38:58 those in Rasol whom I love so much. 39:01 You're welcome. 39:03 Masyaallah. Long life, good health to 39:06 all. 39:06 Amen. 39:07 Blessings of knowledge too. Amen. 39:08 Please ask, ma'am. 39:10 Yes. Yes. I'll just ask. 39:12 Heeh. For a husband's provision of 39:15 living expenses, what are the limits 39:18 for its use towards his wife, Ustaz? 39:21 What I mean by my question, if the 39:26 husband gives money and we use it 39:31 entirely for ourselves, or are there 39:36 limits that will be explained in all 39:42 the books, ee, which book explains 39:47 about ee what is sustenance? 39:50 Hm. Because what Ustaz just talked 39:52 about is indeed true. 39:54 So ee, I probably experienced it myself 39:57 . So when my husband provides living 40:01 expenses and I use that living expenses 40:05 to save. Then for future use, I give it 40:10 as charity. Well, in charity, in that 40:15 charity a few weeks ago, I heard ee 40:18 what is a religious study from one of 40:22 the great ustaz here on TikTok live on 40:26 TikTok. He said that if the wife has 40:29 been given a living by her husband, 40:31 then the money is given in charity and 40:34 if the husband is not pleased, then she 40:36 does not get any reward. 40:39 unless the husband is pleased And if 40:42 for example she has given her living 40:45 money in charity, only the husband gets 40:48 the reward, the wife does not. 40:50 H 40:51 that's me Heeh. So I'm confused, Ustaz, 40:54 why is it so narrow for the provision 40:56 of sustenance, because Allah is so wide 40:58 . You can use it for anything as long 41:00 as the husband has provided a living. 41:02 Hm. 41:03 That, Ustaz. And then for its use for 41:06 the wife, Ustaz, what I want to clarify 41:10 is what is its use? If the wife has 41:13 been given a living or we can ask for 41:16 more or we use the living for ourselves 41:20 , to buy anything, to have children. Do 41:23 you have children? 41:25 Oh, thank God, the children are all 41:27 married, Ustaz. Thank God, they are all 41:30 married. So the one who is given a 41:33 living by my husband is only me, Ustaz. 41:36 That's it. He's 41:36 good. He's 41:38 right. Okay. Thank you very much, Ustaz 41:40 . May you be in good health. And peace 41:43 be upon you. 41:45 So, if a husband says he provides for 41:49 his wife, it automatically covers her 41:53 husband's cooking needs at home and his 41:57 food needs. What else is included? For 42:00 his wife's proper grooming needs, and 42:03 for her appropriate makeup needs. Then, 42:10 if there is excess, he gives it in 42:18 charity, which is reasonable. He gives 42:21 charity that, in this case, his wife 42:24 will not object. The husband says, " 42:27 This is for you, for you and for the 42:29 household." The wife deserves to 42:32 receive the gift. 42:33 Right? 42:34 Besides her husband's food needs at 42:36 home, she also has the right to enjoy 42:39 it, just as a husband has the right to 42:42 enjoy eating out and so on with the 42:44 money Allah has given him. The wife 42:46 also has the right not to be excessive. 42:49 Well, if she feels that this is her 42:51 livelihood for all of that, and then 42:54 she shares the sustenance Allah has 42:56 given her to help those in need, then 42:58 both the wife and husband will 43:00 automatically receive rewards. Both 43:03 husband and wife will receive rewards. 43:08 But if a husband provides for his wife, 43:11 say, household needs, children's needs, 43:14 or his own needs, it means he has 43:17 prepared for all of that. Then there is 43:20 excess, and she knows that if she gives 43:23 it to someone without her husband's 43:25 permission, he will be angry. So she 43:28 should ask her husband's permission. 43:31 But if she knows, her husband will not 43:33 be angry about it. A husband is 43:35 broad-minded. Yes, not only giving for 43:38 food, but also for herself, which is 43:41 appropriate to use to buy necessities 43:43 so she appears fresh before her husband 43:46 . Then she shares the sustenance that 43:48 Allah has given her. Because what we 43:52 give to our wives, for example, we give 43:56 for food at home, is also for what? For 43:59 her needs. Because who needs it? Not 44:04 just the husband, right? Not just the 44:06 children, she also needs the happiness 44:09 of the spaciousness we provide for our 44:12 family. Therefore, providing for your 44:15 wife is the joy of jihad. What you 44:19 provide for your wife is an 44:21 extraordinary act of worship. And that 44:25 effort is part of jihad. 44:28 Therefore, whoever is given ample space 44:31 , give it to their family. Don't let 44:35 others enjoy their gifts while those at 44:38 home are in tight situations. Well, but 44:41 if things are tight, remind your wife 44:43 to be patient. And usually when a wife 44:46 is given ample space, when times are 44:48 tight they will be patient. She knows 44:50 her husband's condition. She even 44:52 ensures that her children don't burden 44:54 their parents. So, Mrs. Fifi, in this 44:57 case, if your husband provides for the 45:00 household and also for your mother, 45:03 there is no obstacle for you to share 45:06 alms with those in need. Your mother 45:09 gets happiness, and your husband also 45:11 gets reward. 45:13 Because husband and wife are one unit. 45:14 That's right. 45:15 Unless you give to someone your husband 45:18 doesn't approve of, that's absolutely 45:21 not allowed. Giving what your husband 45:25 gives to someone he doesn't approve of 45:28 is not allowed at all because it can 45:31 raise suspicion and 45:33 misunderstanding. Isn't that right? So, 45:36 husband and wife should care for each 45:39 other's feelings. If there are things 45:42 that need to be reminded, reprimand 45:44 them in a kind way. Because good words 45:46 foster love. But bad words sow hatred. 45:51 Little by little, it eventually makes 45:53 the hearts move away from each other. 45:56 Therefore, in a story, arahmatu ma 46:00 wubiat fiin illa zanatu. Grace if it is 46:03 in something will make it beautiful. 46:06 But warahmatu ma nuziat min illa sanatu 46:10 . If it is removed from something, its 46:13 beauty is lost. 46:14 For example, a tiger when licking its 46:16 cubs, protecting its cubs. Beautiful 46:18 isn't it? But humans who should be 46:21 civilized, are cruel to their wives and 46:23 children, the beauty is lost. It will 46:27 definitely be lost. So, let's spread 46:30 grace together. Irhamu man fil ardhi 46:33 yarhamkum man fisama. Subhanakallahum 46:36 wabihamdik ilahailla anta astagfiruka 46:39 waubuik walinkum. Wasalamualaikum 46:42 warahmatullahi 46:43 wabarakat. Waalaikumsalam 46:43 warahmatullahi wabarakatuh. Thank you 46:45 Ustaz for your advice, answers to your 46:46 questions. Thank you brothers and 46:48 sisters who have listened, especially 46:50 those who have asked. Hopefully what 46:52 Ustaz just explained will be a means of 46:55 guidance for all of us. My card is oni 46:58 and also Mr. Algini, the desk operator, 47:00 please step down. Asalamualaikum 47:01 warahmatullahi wabarakatuh. 47:02 Waalaikumsalam. Nowadays, Aisyah 
