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0:00 In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious 0:01 , the Most Merciful. Peace be upon you, 0:02 and the mercy and blessings of Allah. 0:05 All praise is due to Allah, Lord of all 0:07 worlds, and we seek His help in worldly 0:10 and religious matters, and may peace 0:11 and blessings be upon the most noble of 0:14 prophets and messengers, and upon his 0:16 family and all his companions. Allah 0:19 the Almighty said in the Holy Quran. I 0:21 seek refuge in Allah from the accursed 0:22 Satan. Indeed, Allah and His angels 0:26 send blessings upon the Prophet. O you 0:29 who have believed, ask [Allah to confer 0:31 ] blessing upon him and ask [Allah to 0:32 grant him] peace. Allah the Almighty 0:34 has spoken the truth. All praise is due 0:35 to Allah, Lord of all worlds. Still 0:37 broadcasting from Masjid Silaturahim 0:39 Street number 36, Cibubur, Bekasi. This 0:42 is Radio Silaturahim and Rasil TV for a 0:45 unified Islam. Brothers and sisters 0:48 honored by Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala, 0:50 how are you doing this Friday morning? 0:53 May you always be in good health. Amen. 0:56 I am very pleased, Ridwanul Ha, 0:59 accompanied by Ondi Saputra on camera 1:02 and Algifahr Rozi as the operator, to 1:05 be back with you in the program " 1:08 Morning Wisdom: Islamic Family Studies, 1:11 " for Friday, the 14th of Rabiul Akhir 1:14 1448. Hijri, coinciding with September 1:21 25, 2026, together with our teacher, 1:25 Ustaz Abu Sudarmaji. Alhamdulillah, he 1:28 is already here with us. Let us greet 1:30 our teacher first. Peace be upon you, 1:32 and the mercy and blessings of Allah, 1:34 Ustaz. 1:34 And peace be upon you, and the mercy 1:36 and blessings of Allah. 1:37 How are you doing, Ustaz? 1:38 Alhamdulillah. May we all always be in 1:41 a state of good health granted by Allah 1:44 and be able to be grateful for the 1:47 blessing of health. Amen. Amen, O Allah 1:49 . One of the times for gratitude is 1:53 that in this month of Rabiul Akhir, we 1:56 are in the days of Ayyamul Bidh. Today, 1:59 yes. Yes. Masha Allah. May we all, 2:03 brothers and sisters, be skilled in 2:05 being grateful for the days of Ayyamul 2:08 Bidh with the sunnah of fasting, the 2:11 13th, 14th, and 15th of the month, yes, 2:13 in the month of Rabiul Akhir. Alright, 2:17 brothers and sisters. May health also 2:18 be felt by brothers and sisters 2:20 wherever you are. And may this study 2:23 with Ustaz Agus accompany you in all 2:26 your activities this Friday morning at 2:30 home with your family, with your 2:33 children; whether they are still 2:36 school-age, college-age. And there are 2:41 also those who have finished college 2:44 and continue their studies in Master's 2:46 degrees and beyond. And surely this 2:50 becomes a provision for all of you. 2:53 Because, God willing, this Friday 2:55 morning, Ustaz Agus will discuss last 2:58 Friday's theme, which was the 3:01 guidelines for proposal, the guidelines 3:04 for Khitbah. Now, further, the title is 3:08 Fiqh of Marriage. Now, this is perfect 3:12 for brothers and sisters who have 3:14 children of marriageable age, even 3:16 though there might be new listeners. 3:20 New listeners who are of marriageable 3:22 age. This also becomes a provision for 3:25 you. God willing. And may it accompany 3:31 you in all your activities, and for 3:33 those already on the way or at the 3:36 office, may it accompany you and keep 3:39 you in the blessings of Allah Subhanahu 3:42 wa ta'ala. 3:43 Amen. 3:44 For those who want to ask about the 3:47 Fiqh of Marriage, which is very 3:49 important, you can send questions to 3:52 0811999720. And for those who want to 3:58 interact directly with the Ustaz, you 4:00 can call 0218451512. It would be best 4:06 if we start with blessings by praying 4:09 to Allah first. In the name of Allah, 4:11 the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. 4:16 and have mercy on them as they did for 4:17 me when I was small. Oh Lord, expand 4:19 for me my chest. and ease for me my 4:22 task, and untie the knot from my tongue 4:24 , so that they may understand my speech 4:26 . O Allah, we ask You for beneficial 4:28 knowledge, good deeds, and accepted 4:29 work. O Lord, increase our knowledge 4:31 and grant us understanding. O Allah, 4:33 grant us deep understanding of the 4:34 religion and teach us the 4:36 interpretation. Very well, brothers and 4:38 sisters, let us listen to the knowledge 4:39 that will be conveyed by Ustaz Agus 4:41 regarding the jurisprudence of marriage 4:43 . Please, Ustaz. 4:44 In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious 4:45 , the Most Merciful. May the peace, 4:47 mercy, and blessings of Allah be upon 4:49 you. 4:49 And may the peace and mercy of Allah be 4:50 upon you too. 4:51 All praise is due to Allah, Lord of the 4:52 worlds. O Allah, send prayers, 4:55 blessings, and peace upon our Prophet 4:57 Muhammad, his family, his companions, 4:59 and those who follow them until the Day 5:01 of Judgment. Whatever Allah wills 5:04 happens, and whatever He does not will 5:06 does not happen. There is no power or 5:08 strength except by Allah, the Exalted. 5:10 Furthermore. Brothers and sisters, may 5:13 Allah have mercy on you. We are 5:15 grateful to Allah that on this 5:18 mid-month of Rabiul Akhir, we are 5:20 brought together again by Allah 5:23 Subhanahu wa ta'ala, and hopefully in 5:25 good health and well-being. 5:28 Amen. 5:29 For our friends who are currently being 5:33 tested with uh, a condition of illness. 5:39 May they be granted health by Allah 5:41 Subhanahu wa ta'ala. Amen. 5:44 Those who are being tested with 5:46 hardship, may their hardship be lifted 5:49 and replaced with ease in many matters. 5:54 Those who are currently being tested 5:56 with oppression, especially our 5:58 brothers and sisters in Palestine, may 6:01 Allah lift the affliction of their 6:03 oppression. 6:04 Amen. 6:05 And may Allah grant them independence. 6:07 Amen. Amen, O Allah. 6:09 We must always remember our brothers 6:11 and sisters in Palestine because they 6:13 are part of our collective 6:15 responsibility. Al-Aqsa Mosque is the 6:19 mosque of the Muslim community. The 6:23 land where the mosque, a legacy of the 6:26 Prophet, peace be upon him, is located 6:28 is our land, our inheritance, and a 6:31 land endowed for the Muslim community. 6:34 So it is our duty to protect it. And if 6:39 possible, to reclaim it. Brothers and 6:44 sisters, this morning we will continue 6:47 our previous study. We previously 6:50 entered the topic of... 6:53 marriage, 6:54 the book of marriage, a discussion on 6:57 the book of marriage. So, this morning 7:00 we will continue with...uh, the 7:04 evidences related to marriage, the 7:06 beauty and the virtues of marriage. Yes 7:09 , first I will ask Abu Bilal to read 7:12 this from the Qur'an. It is a very 7:16 strong command 7:18 to marry, and even to help others among 7:22 us get married. Please, Ustaz. I seek 7:26 refuge in Allah from the accursed Satan 7:28 . And marry off the unmarried among you 7:34 and the righteous among your male and 7:37 female slaves. If they should be poor, 7:46 Allah will enrich them from His bounty, 7:50 and Allah is all-encompassing and 7:53 knowing. And marry off those among you 7:59 who are still single and those who are 8:02 eligible for marriage from among your 8:06 male and female slaves. If they are 8:10 poor, Allah will provide them with the 8:12 ability through His bounty. And Allah 8:15 is vast in His giving and All-Knowing. 8:18 The truth of Allah. 8:18 Allah has spoken the truth. MashaAllah. 8:22 A verse that clearly provides guidance 8:25 that marriage is part of the command of 8:29 Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala. Yes, this is 8:33 a very important part of Islam. A 8:37 direct command from Allah Subhanahu wa 8:39 ta'ala to marry off those who are 8:41 single among you. This also means that 8:46 those who wish to marry have already 8:49 held onto this verse as their primary 8:52 evidence. Yes, even to the extent of 8:57 marrying off those who have the status 8:59 of slaves or servants. Yes, there are 9:04 guidelines there, and we will discuss 9:07 them as we go. It turns out that slaves 9:12 have the right to marry, or to be 9:14 married off, it is to be married off 9:17 there. 9:18 To be married off, married off. So, it 9:20 is not allowed for those in authority 9:22 over slaves or their owners to block 9:27 their right to marry. That is not 9:30 allowed. Yes, this is part of the 9:32 command of Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala. 9:35 Now, brothers, marriage is commanded by 9:40 Allah because of its extraordinary 9:41 beauty. And it is part of human 9:48 perfection to get married. It is 9:53 impossible for a person to live 9:55 perfectly unless they carry out Allah's 9:57 command, which is the law of marriage. 10:00 Yes, imagine if there were no law of 10:06 marriage, there would be no humans. 10:10 Humans would immediately become a 10:12 species that is extinct, right. 10:19 Alhamdulillah, this is not just 10:21 encouraged, but even required in some 10:25 jurisprudential explanations. Now, we 10:29 will complete a few pieces of evidence 10:34 from the hadith of the Prophet 10:35 sallallahu alaihi wasallam. 10:37 Correct. 10:37 Yes, the Prophet said, tazwiju barokah. 10:48 Marriage or weddings are a blessing. 10:52 Wal waladur rahmah. And children are a 10:56 mercy. The marriage or wedding itself 11:00 is a blessing. The children who come 11:04 from that marriage are also a mercy. 11:10 Fakrimu auladakum fain karomah aludi 11:15 ibadah. So, honor your children. Indeed 11:21 , honoring your children is an act of 11:23 worship. What does that mean? So that 11:29 children are noble, it begins by 11:31 choosing a noble mother for them. It is 11:37 forbidden for a Muslim if they know a 11:39 woman is not noble, for instance she 11:41 has the status of an adulteress, it is 11:44 forbidden to marry her. So this is very 11:48 strong proof that marriage or weddings 11:51 are a blessing. Yes. Then children are 11:54 a mercy. Why is it called a blessing? A 11:58 blessing is goodness whose benefits are 12:03 real for human life. And fitting 12:08 exactly with human needs, that is a 12:11 blessing. Many things around us do not 12:15 become a blessing, their blessings are 12:18 removed by Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala, 12:20 so they are not beneficial for human 12:22 life. So once again, from this hadith, 12:28 we hopefully are able to carry it out, 12:33 that marriage is a blessing and 12:36 children are a mercy. Honoring children 12:42 is a religious command and an important 12:48 part of worship. So it was mentioned 12:51 earlier by the Prophet sallallahu 12:52 alaihi wasallam 12:53 sallallahu alaihi wasallam 12:53 as worship. Brothers, the next one is a 12:59 very famous hadith if there is marriage 13:02 advice, right. The Prophet sallallahu 13:06 alaihi wasallam said, "Annikahu sunnati 13:08 ." Marriage is my sunnah, my command. 13:14 If it is called a sunnah, it is a 13:16 command directly exemplified by the 13:18 Prophet. The Prophet is the doer and 13:22 becomes the main role model in that act 13:27 . Now, faman raghiba an sunnati falaisa 13:31 minni. Whoever does not follow my 13:36 sunnah is not part of me. Falaisa 13:41 minni, right. So, marriage is clearly 13:48 the sunnah of the Prophet. Yes. Next, 13:51 there is another hadith that is more or 13:54 less the same about marriage being the 13:58 sunnah of the Prophet. Annikahu min 14:00 sunnati faman la ya'mal bisunnati 14:03 falaisa minni. Marriage is my sunnah or 14:07 part of my sunnah. And whoever does not 14:11 practice my sunnah is not of me, 14:14 meaning not my follower. So, marry, for 14:19 I will be proud of you before other 14:23 nations. Yes, whoever has the means, 14:27 whoever has the wealth, then marry, and 14:30 whoever is not capable, let him fast. 14:34 Because indeed, fasting is a shield or 14:37 protection for him. Yes. For it is a 14:40 protection for him. It is commanded by 14:45 the Prophet that if one has the ability 14:47 , the ability means...physical and 14:51 spiritual capability. Having the wealth 14:55 , and then the ability to guide his 15:00 wife, then he is obligated to marry. 15:03 Yes. Now, brothers, these are many 15:07 hadiths regarding marriage. So there is 15:12 nothing else but for us to hold one 15:15 principle: that marriage is a command 15:18 from Allah and His Prophet. It is even 15:23 highly recommended, strongly commanded, 15:27 and those who abandon it are not 15:30 considered part of the Prophet's 15:33 followers, peace be upon him. 15:36 His followers. Later in the hereafter, 15:38 they will not receive intercession from 15:40 the Prophet, peace be upon him. So if 15:42 it can be concluded, one of the ways 15:45 for us to get intercession in the 15:48 hereafter is by performing his... 15:51 sunnah. One of his sunnahs is marriage. 15:54 Hopefully, all of us who are already 15:56 married 15:58 will be granted intercession by the 15:59 Prophet, peace be upon him, later in 16:01 the hereafter. Amen. O Allah, amen. Yes 16:04 , 16:04 what a joy it is. We are married, 16:07 fulfilling the Prophet's command. And 16:10 there in the hereafter, we will receive 16:12 his intercession. How much more could 16:15 Islam honor the servants of Allah? Yes. 16:18 Now, well brothers, we will continue: 16:20 what is the actual meaning of marriage 16:23 (nikah)? The word 'nikah' was fully 16:27 absorbed into the Malay language, into 16:31 the Indonesian language. It is also 16:36 called 'kawin'. In the Malay language, 16:39 it is called 'kahwin' or 'kawin'. But 16:42 then the meanings developed and became 16:44 different. 'Nikah' is usually performed 16:48 by humans. We don't see cats getting ' 16:51 married'(nikah). There isn't, right? 16:53 Right. But 'perkawinan'(mating) is for 16:56 all creatures. Mating is done by humans 17:01 , by cats, by chickens, and so on. It 17:06 means 'nikah' refers more to a marriage 17:09 performed according to Islamic law. Yes 17:13 . In Arabic, 'nikah' comes from the 17:18 concept of 'ad-dom wal jam'u'. Meaning 17:24 gathering two different things. Uniting 17:30 two different things, not two of the 17:33 same thing. It must be different for it 17:36 to be 'nikah'. If it is the same, it is 17:38 not 'nikah'. Therefore, there is no 17:41 such term as same-sex marriage in Islam 17:43 . In other religions, it might be 17:46 permitted. Yes, forgive me, we get 17:49 information that in several Western 17:52 countries, even same-sex people, the 17:55 gay community, the LGBT community, can 17:59 come to a church and ask to be married. 18:03 And there are some specific churches, 18:05 not all churches. There are churches 18:06 that still hold the principle of 18:08 rejecting LGBT. So, this 'nikah' is not 18:13 allowed in Islam unless it is between 18:16 different sexes, male and female. That 18:20 is the meaning of 'nikah'. It's clear 18:22 here, right, brother Fauzi? 18:24 In Islam, marriage brings together two 18:27 different things. Now, in this case, 18:31 who is different? Men and women. Men 18:35 and women are different. And they must 18:40 be different in lineage; siblings are 18:42 not allowed to marry. That is forbidden 18:45 . So, despite being different in 18:49 various ways, they are united. So, one 18:55 should not use the excuse of not having 19:00 enough in common as a reason to avoid 19:04 marriage. That is wrong, isn't it? 19:08 There is a phrase, "Why don't I feel 19:11 compatible with them?" Is it about 19:13 being compatible or not? It is about 19:18 how we adapt. So, two different 19:23 individuals; their genders are 19:25 different, their sexes are different, 19:27 their temperaments are different, and 19:29 their habits are different. But they 19:32 are united by Islam so that what? So 19:35 that they unite and gain blessings from 19:37 Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala. So, they do 19:40 not have to be exactly the same in 19:43 nature, habits, or aspirations. Right. 19:47 This is the definition of marriage. Yes 19:51 . Now, in one statement, Al-Qadi Abu 19:57 Suja rahimahullah says this. Anikahu 20:01 mustahabun liman yahtaju ilaih. 20:06 Marriage is a Sunnah act for whoever 20:08 needs it. A free person is permitted to 20:15 marry up to four free women. Then for 20:20 the slave between the two. If it is a 20:26 slave, says Al-Qadi Abu Suja, a slave 20:29 may marry more than one. Imagine that a 20:32 slave 20:33 a slave 20:35 but it is limited by scholars, based on 20:38 various evidences, to a maximum of two. 20:41 Two. 20:41 For a free person, 20:42 four. 20:43 Four at the most. Even a slave can have 20:47 two; a free person......may not dare to 20:50 have more than one, which is also a lot 20:52 . Meanwhile, we as free people, a slave 20:57 is only permitted to marry up to two 20:59 women. As for a free man, he is not 21:03 allowed to marry a slave woman, unless 21:06 there are two conditions. First, says 21:12 Al-Qadi, is that he cannot afford the 21:19 dowry for a free woman. Second, he 21:24 fears falling into adultery if he does 21:27 not marry immediately. Yes. Oh, there 21:30 is no one else. There are no free women 21:32 available to be married. Because the 21:34 only one available is this slave woman. 21:36 Well then, he may marry that slave. Yes 21:40 , that is one thing regarding the 21:43 conditions for a free man to marry a 21:46 woman who is not free, a slave woman. 21:51 Now, brothers and sisters, in Islam, 21:55 marriage has several statuses. The 22:02 first, the status of the basic law of 22:08 marriage is that it is permissible. It 22:13 can be performed now or later; it does 22:16 not mean it should not be performed. 22:21 This is in relation to what? In 22:24 relation to the timing. So, a person 22:28 who is capable of marriage, physically, 22:33 mentally, and financially, but does not 22:37 yet feel it is urgent to marry soon. 22:41 For example, as Bang Fauzi mentioned 22:44 earlier, praying for those currently in 22:47 school, may their studies go smoothly. 22:51 this includes, in this case, I want to 22:53 finish my studies, my school has 2 22:56 years left. And he is a righteous 22:58 person, does not associate with women 23:02 indiscriminately, is not seen riding a 23:06 motorcycle with a woman who is not his 23:08 mahram. Ah, if so, what is the ruling? 23:11 It is mubah (permissible). He already 23:13 has plans and a design, go ahead. Now, 23:18 that is the mubah status of marriage. 23:22 Then the second one is its nature is 23:28 sunnah yes. Sunnah means it is 23:32 encouraged. Those who already have the 23:39 ability, who are ready, then hasten it. 23:46 But there, it is higher than the mubah 23:50 one earlier, yes. Everything is ready 23:55 and it is more appropriate for him to 23:57 hasten it because he is not waiting for 23:58 anything else, right? Not waiting for 24:01 anything, already graduated, already 24:03 has a job, yes. So this is called 24:07 sunnah muakkadah. Hasten it, yes. Next 24:17 is, uh, makruh (disliked). What is this 24:22 makruh marriage? In fact, one should 24:25 not be told to marry yet, yes. Because 24:29 why? It is feared that if he marries, 24:32 he himself will not be able to carry 24:34 out his obligations as head of the 24:39 family. Yes, this is actually for men, 24:42 yes, for men, just got a job for 24:48 example, yes, just got a job, feared, 24:50 uh, psychologically not stable yet, yes 24:55 . Because many people then separate due 24:59 to economic factors, yes, because there 25:02 are many statistics about that. Not 25:07 able to carry his own burden, let alone 25:09 the burden of a second person. But, uh, 25:14 here, by our religion, this makruh can 25:20 actually be abandoned if supported by 25:23 his extended family or even by the 25:25 Muslims. So he is unable to, uh, fund 25:32 his wedding, his wedding ceremony, 25:34 inviting people to the walimah. Yes, 25:37 this should be assisted by the Muslims, 25:39 yes. Next, marriage becomes mandatory 25:44 for what? Who? Someone who, if not 25:48 married off, would even face harm. Yes, 25:52 there is already a candidate, already 25:55 arranged since childhood for example, 25:57 and he is able to carry it out. Now 26:01 there is no reason to delay it even for 26:05 a moment, so it is mandatory, yes. 26:08 Mandatory and it is feared, uh, that 26:16 things we do not want will happen if he 26:19 delays the marriage, such as, well, 26:21 forgive me, because in this day and age 26:24 , falling into free association, yes, 26:26 adultery, because adultery stalks 26:29 everyone, yes, adultery stalks everyone 26:31 , so it is mandatory for those who are 26:34 capable of marriage to be married off, 26:37 right. So the criterion is there is a 26:41 fear of falling into adultery. Then he 26:46 truly needs to marry, already wants to 26:49 marry, yes, and is able to cover the 26:52 wedding costs and provide for his wife 26:54 later, yes. And if someone who has 26:59 reached the mandatory status of 27:02 marriage is blocked, wow, that will 27:05 cause*takun fitnatun*. *wa fasadun 27:09 kabir*, there could be great corruption 27:12 on earth. Because someone who is 27:14 already required to marry is blocked. 27:17 Now, why, for example, do parents want, 27:20 forgive me, does the extended family 27:23 want, perhaps a family that is socially 27:26 and economically prominent. So if they 27:30 don't hold a grand and colossal wedding 27:33 ceremony, yes, it will be a disgrace 27:35 for the family. Well, that is a 27:39 different matter. Islam does not 27:43 encourage people to cite a reason uh of 27:55 holding a massive wedding ceremony by 27:58 rushing into marriage. Yes, so rushing 28:02 into marriage is part of religious 28:05 struggle. Yes. Finally, there is also 28:08 prohibited marriage. Who is prohibited 28:09 from marrying? This is prohibited, 28:11 prohibited from marrying. If later on 28:15 this man has the potential to oppress 28:21 the woman, oppress his wife, for 28:25 example, his personality is not mature 28:29 yet, unstable, easily confused, moody, 28:33 yes. Psychologically, he has that 28:36 potential. Right now he might look good 28:39 , but then later, wow 28:41 this is dangerous, domestic violence 28:42 could happen or something, right? So, 28:44 because they are not declared 28:46 psychologically healthy, this is 28:48 prohibited. So, a person who is 28:52 prohibited is one who is unable to 28:55 fulfill responsibilities toward their 28:58 partner and also unable to carry out 29:01 duties as a husband or as a wife, for 29:04 the woman. Yes, worried, sorry not 29:11 capable of being a good husband. That 29:14 is what is feared. So the ruling is 29:17 prohibited. Yes. So in conclusion, 29:21 brothers, marriage is a law the basic 29:25 law is that it is commanded by Allah 29:27 Subhanahu wa ta'ala. However, its 29:29 implementation depends on the 29:31 conditions, the situation, and the 29:33 circumstances of each individual who 29:36 will carry it out. Yes, the purpose of 29:39 marriage in Islam, first and most 29:40 importantly, is to carry out the 29:42 command of Allah. That is the first one 29:45 , yes. Second, the goal is to fulfill 29:50 human natural needs. This is human 29:53 nature, which is to marry. So if a 29:55 person does not marry, their nature 29:57 will be shaken. They will fall apart as 30:01 a human being. Not complete. Next is to 30:05 maintain personal purity. Ah, by doing 30:11 so, especially the woman, the woman, 30:15 especially, is guarded until marriage 30:18 so she remains pure, her virginity is 30:21 not compromised, yes. This is part of 30:26 our religious guidance. So, brothers, 30:31 for now let us solidify this first, 30:34 that marriage is an important part of 30:37 our religion. Alright. Some things we 30:46 must remember are that we do not have 30:50 to seek perfection in marriage in the 30:54 sense that it is not perfect. Perfect 30:58 how? Must they have a car, have a big 31:02 house? No. As long as they are able to 31:05 afford the wedding ceremony, that is 31:09 enough. So, how do we do it? If the 31:14 Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam 31:16 provided guidance, the standard is one 31:18 goat, right? The standard is one goat. 31:20 People can buy one goat. How much is 31:23 one goat now, brother? Yes, around 3 31:25 million. So, one goat is 3 million plus 31:28 various foods, yes. Let's round it up 31:33 to 6 million, yes. Having 6 million, 31:36 one can get married, it's already 31:38 mandatory to marry, brother. Don't have 31:41 to wait until having 60 million or even 31:43 600 million because, wow, there are 31:45 people who spend 1 billion on a wedding 31:48 , you know. 31:49 Masyaallah 31:50 yes. People who marry for 1 billion, 31:53 they exist, yes. I won't tell the story 31:55 , yes. Imagine, 1 billion is very 31:58 luxurious, isn't it? What is it like? 32:00 Very luxurious. 32:01 It is very luxurious 32:02 yes. With just 6 million, you can 32:05 already afford to get married. 32:08 And we know that the fee at the KUA is 32:10 very affordable, right? Very affordable 32:13 . 32:13 Yes. The Prophet said, announce your 32:19 marriage, even if only by slaughtering 32:24 a goat. A goat is 3 million. Add in 32:28 other expenses, 6 million is enough. 32:32 It's enough. Now, once a goat is 32:35 mentioned. How many people can one goat 32:39 feed? I don't think it would even reach 32:45 100 people, right? 32:46 No, it wouldn't. 32:46 It wouldn't. At most, one goat can feed 32:49 only 50 people. So it's enough if, 32:53 nowadays, there is such a thing as an 32:56 intimate wedding. Intimate means 33:01 inviting close relatives, family, and 33:04 peers. It doesn't have to be a grand 33:08 affair. Is that good? It is. But it 33:13 shouldn't be done in a way that is 33:16 exclusive, where you only invite 33:18 certain people who are at least from 33:25 the middle class. Now, this is what is 33:29 criticized by the Prophet, peace be 33:30 upon him. We will talk about the next 33:33 part, God willing. A wedding meant only 33:38 for the elites among us is criticized 33:42 by the Prophet, peace be upon him. 33:46 Instead, we should publicize the 33:48 wedding so that what? It is attended 33:50 and prayed for by 33:53 those whose prayers are accepted. 33:56 Namely, the righteous people. And 33:58 usually, these righteous people are 34:00 those who are in fields of serving the 34:05 community, who are often also among 34:08 those in the path of God. 34:11 Yes. 34:11 Usually, their economic status is not 34:14 middle-to-upper, but middle-to-lower. 34:18 So, the Prophet says the blessing of a 34:21 wedding banquet comes because those who 34:24 eat there are 34:27 the righteous, 34:28 the poor, the needy, who eat there. But 34:34 don't be extreme either. Like, calling 34:36 someone passing by with a cart. 34:39 Yeah. 34:40 The banquet would just end up in chaos. 34:42 But you can invite them, for example, " 34:44 Sir, tomorrow I'm holding a wedding for 34:46 my child." Maybe tell a cart driver, " 34:50 Come tomorrow," but wear some 34:54 batik. 34:54 Something appropriate. Do you have 34:56 batik? "Oh, I don't have batik, sir."" 34:58 Here, take this.""Oh, batik," and give 35:00 them one. Alhamdulillah, they get to 35:02 join the meal there. The angels know. 35:04 MashaAllah. 35:05 This person has made all the food at 35:07 the banquet permissible. Good heavens. 35:10 That is an extraordinary command from 35:12 the Prophet, peace be upon him. Alright 35:14 , brothers and sisters. That is how we 35:18 carry out the guidance of Islam. That 35:23 marriage is a command from Allah and a 35:26 sunnah of His Prophet, peace be upon 35:28 him. Alhamdulillahirabbil alamin. 35:32 Alhamdulillahirabbil alamin. MashaAllah 35:34 , Ustaz. Jazakumullah khairan katsiran, 35:36 Ustaz. We have all listened to the fiqh 35:40 of marriage presented by Ustaz Agus 35:42 Darmaji, starting from its purpose, 35:45 then its legal ruling, and this serves 35:47 as a provision for all our brothers and 35:50 sisters. Hm. It turns out marriage is 35:55 easy and simple, just with one goat. 35:58 A standard-sized goat, right? 36:00 Standard. Exactly. Alright brothers, we 36:03 will continue with the second session, 36:05 the Q&A session. God willing, we will 36:07 be right back. Thank you. All praise is 36:09 due to Allah, Lord of the worlds. Thank 36:10 you, brothers and sisters. Still with 36:12 Radio Silaturahim. You are currently 36:15 watching the live morning broadcast of 36:18 the Islamic family study with Ustaz 36:21 Agus Darmaji. The theme presented by 36:24 Ustaz Agus this Friday is a 36:26 continuation from last Friday regarding 36:28 the jurisprudence of marriage, part one 36:31 . God willing, it will be continued 36:34 next Friday for part two. There is Ibu 36:41 Ani Hanih Hudaifah who says hello. 36:44 Ustaz, peace, mercy, and blessings of 36:45 Allah be upon you. 36:46 And peace, mercy, and blessings of 36:48 Allah be upon you. 36:49 Praise be to Allah, Ustaz Agus, we are 36:50 here listening to the morning lecture 36:52 on the radio. God willing, Ustaz and 36:54 the entire Rasil family are in good 36:56 health. 36:58 Then there is also Mr. Setiawansi. 37:01 Praise be to Allah, listening in. May 37:02 Allah reward you with goodness. Thank 37:04 you, Ustaz, for the knowledge. Now, we 37:10 will read the questions. The first one 37:15 is from Mr. Farih. Peace, mercy, and 37:24 blessings of Allah be upon you, Ustaz. 37:25 And peace be upon you. 37:27 Ustaz, may I ask a question. The 37:30 purpose of marriage is to continue the 37:33 caliphate, but there is a phenomenon 37:35 where many married couples do not yet 37:38 have offspring. Ustaz, what is the view 37:42 on pre-marital fertility testing? Is it 37:45 permissible to make it a condition for 37:47 giving consent to a prospective 37:49 son-in-law, Ustaz? May Allah reward you 37:51 . 37:51 Yes. In the name of Allah, the Most 37:52 Gracious, the Most Merciful. Blessings 37:53 be upon Muhammad, and after that. Thank 37:55 you, Mr. Faris, for following our study 37:57 this morning. And indeed, it is 37:59 permissible for a man to marry a woman 38:04 for the purpose of having children, sir 38:08 . It is allowed. It is allowed. Yes, in 38:12 fact, it is part of what the Prophet, 38:13 may Allah bless him and grant him peace 38:15 , commanded. Yes. The Prophet once said 38:17 this, from a hadith narrated by the 38:19 companion Anas bin Malik, may Allah be 38:20 pleased with him. He said that the 38:22 Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant 38:24 him peace, once said this. Tazawaju 38:28 al-wadud al-walud. Yes. Tazawaju 38:34 al-wadud al-walud. What is that? Marry 38:38 women who are, first, al-wadud. 38:42 Al-wadud. Al-wadud means a woman who is 38:45 full of love and affection. She has the 38:50 potential to be a loving woman, sir. It 38:53 is clearly visible as a woman who is 38:56 full of affection and will later be 38:59 able to pour that affection onto her 39:02 children. That is the first one. The 39:04 first potential to look at is al-wadud. 39:07 The second is al-walud. What is 39:10 al-walud? Al-walud means having the 39:13 potential for many children, sir. Can 39:17 it be seen from her appearance? Yes, it 39:21 can. For example, a good posture. 39:25 Because many women have postures that 39:27 are not very convincing. But a woman 39:31 who will have many children has a good 39:33 posture, sir. Healthy and fit. Secondly 39:36 , look at her lineage. Her mother, her 39:40 grandmother. Oh, they have many 39:42 children. God willing, she is also from 39:46 a fertile lineage, sir. Yes. 39:51 In Islam, "many" is two or more. Plural 39:56 , right? Yes. 39:59 So, plural is three and above. If it is 40:02 two, it is not yet plural. It is still 40:04 dual. So, Mr. Faris, it is allowed, sir 40:08 , if, for example, you ask for a 40:10 fertility test, but you must also be 40:13 fair. You must be fair. Do not demand 40:16 fertility from the man's side only. 40:19 While your own daughter is not tested. 40:22 Well, this isn't fair, sir. 40:23 Yeah. Both sides. 40:24 Both sides should be fair. If there’s 40:25 already a demand, sir. If you already 40:27 demand, why demand it if you are 40:32 required to show proof of passing a 40:39 fertility test, right? Now, but what 40:43 about your daughter? It's mandatory too 40:46 , sir. Mandatory so that in the future. 40:49 If something happens, say after 1, 2, 40:51 or 3 years there are no children, there 40:54 are no demands from the man's side. 40:57 This must also be considered equal, 41:00 right? Equal in the sense of having the 41:04 same treatment. So it is allowed, sir. 41:08 But if you don't use that, then just* 41:09 lillahi ta'ala*(for God) and*bismillah* 41:11 . Because many people just say*lillahi 41:14 ta'ala*, *bismillah*, they already know 41:16 the father and mother, they are from 41:18 good families, so let's just marry them 41:21 off, *bismillah*. What about offspring 41:23 later? Offspring is a secret from God, 41:27 because we might encounter God's test 41:30 where both might be proven fertile but 41:34 haven't been blessed with children, 41:38 perhaps only after many years do they 41:42 get them. I have a friend, a friend who 41:45 for 11 years of marriage was not 41:46 blessed by God with a single child. 11 41:49 years. But he never stopped trying, 41:52 especially with prayer. And after he 41:55 went on Umrah with his wife, returning 41:57 from Umrah, his wife was pregnant. * 42:00 Masyaallah*. 42:01 And it continued. Continued pregnancies 42:04 , sir. Only 2 years apart. 2 years. In 42:07 2 years, four children, two boys, two 42:10 girls, and then it stopped. This is my 42:13 friend, a leader of the Muhammadiyah 42:15 central board. So that's how it is, Mr. 42:18 Paris, if you ask, "Is it allowed, 42:21 Ustaz?" It is allowed, but don't let it 42:24 be, pardon me, don't let it become 42:27 a reference 42:27 a requirement 42:29 an obstacle to marrying off our 42:31 children, sir. Yes. Now, there are many 42:34 efforts, too. made to obtain offspring 42:39 through medical approaches or other 42:43 approaches that are justified by 42:47 religion. I once heard of a young 42:52 couple who tried to obtain offspring 42:58 through various ways. First, they were 43:03 diagnosed by a doctor, it turned out, 43:07 pardon me, from the side of the man's 43:11 readiness, the husband's fertility 43:15 level was considered problematic 43:19 because, well, his sperm was said to be 43:23 not strong enough. He then made various 43:28 efforts according to the doctor's 43:30 advice and it turned out God granted 43:32 their prayers and efforts, and they 43:35 were blessed with a child in their 43:37 second year of marriage. *Alhamdulillah 43:41 *, I truly received such a real story 43:44 like that. So, Mr. Waris, that is the 43:47 case. Hopefully, our children who are 43:50 already married or will be married will 43:55 be given offspring blessed by God. * 43:59 Amin*. *Allahumma amin*. * 44:01 Amin ya rabbal alamin*. That is all, 44:03 Mr. Faris, I hope that answers your 44:04 question, *insyaallah*. Next, the 44:06 second question from Mr. Masyur. 44:12 Masur. 44:13 Mr. Maskur. 44:14 Maskur, right. 44:16 Yes. *Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi 44:17 wabarakatuh*, Ustaz. * 44:18 Waalaikumsalam warahmatullahi 44:19 wabarakatuh*. 44:20 Ustaz, may I ask a question? Our child 44:23 Married through taaruf in a relatively 44:27 short time. Then married with the 44:29 intention for Allah and believing the 44:31 prospective son-in-law was a righteous 44:33 man. It turned out that after 3 months 44:37 of pregnancy, the son-in-law threatened 44:39 to divorce his wife. The Religious 44:43 Court ordered a reconciliation hoping 44:45 for improvements in character, nature, 44:47 and affection. As God willed, the 44:49 son-in-law remained lacking in 44:51 affection for his wife and child. They 44:53 even lived separately. The son-in-law 44:57 prioritized his parents, while his wife 45:00 and child were left with us. He 45:03 provided minimal financial support, 45:05 visiting his wife and child at his own 45:07 convenience and showing little care. 45:09 Regarding this, my child is asking for 45:11 a divorce from her husband, Ustaz, who 45:13 has never provided happiness in their 6 45:15 years of marriage, Ustaz. Please give 45:18 your advice, Ustaz. 45:20 In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious 45:21 , the Most Merciful. O Allah, send 45:22 blessings upon Muhammad. We share your 45:26 concern, Sir, that this situation is 45:31 happening to your own child's family. 45:34 Yes, it is very concerning when a 45:39 household begins to dim, its affection 45:42 fading, making it far from the 45:45 characteristics of a sakinah, mawadah, 45:48 wa rahmah household. Because why? One 45:53 or both parties are showing signs of 45:56 deviating from religious guidance. This 46:00 is a deviation. Why does the man not 46:06 fulfill his obligations as a husband? 46:11 This is actually a form of deviation. 46:17 If it is called pri prioritizing his 46:21 parents, that is good, that is birrul 46:23 walidain. But above that, he must 46:27 prioritize his prophet, Muhammad 46:29 sallallahu alaihi wasallam. Above that, 46:33 prioritize his God. Because why? If 46:38 that is done, he has obeyed Allah and 46:41 His Messenger, and that is settled. God 46:44 willing, he will be safe. Because a 46:47 righteous man is seen from his 46:49 obedience to Allah, His Messenger, and 46:52 then his devotion to his parents. Do 46:55 not reverse it. Do not make excuses 46:59 about prioritizing your parents. Then 47:01 he abandons the commands of Allah and 47:04 His Messenger and acts cruelly toward 47:06 his wife. This is cruelty within the 47:08 household. Yes, if it has reached the 47:11 category of providing support at his 47:13 own convenience this is financial 47:17 support, let alone emotional support. 47:20 If it is like that, it is likely the 47:22 man no longer touches his wife, 47:24 especially since they are living apart, 47:27 right. The information we received 47:29 states they are living apart. 47:31 That means material and emotional 47:32 support are not being provided, and 47:34 that is cruel. And if it is brought to 47:40 court, because there has already been a 47:42 process, a mediation process, and 47:43 enduring from 3 months to 6 years is 47:45 already extraordinary. If the situation 47:51 is like this, there is no progress, and 47:55 even regression, then pursue further 47:59 mediation. If it cannot be managed, 48:01 then indeed they must be separated. 48:04 Well, if it has reached this point, 48:06 then the status really cannot be 48:08 continued, Sir. Yes, unless there is a 48:12 miracle where the husband is advised by 48:15 someone who understands religion and 48:18 then he repents. Yes, because if it 48:21 remains like this, I am concerned that 48:23 in the hereafter he will be held 48:25 accountable by Allah Subhanahu wa taala 48:27 . Yes. Okay, it is finished. Finished, 48:30 uh the marriage is finished. the 48:34 occurrence of talaq, so to speak, the 48:37 occurrence of a decision from the court 48:39 . But his past sins may not necessarily 48:43 be forgiven by Allah if the woman's 48:46 side does not grant him pardon. This is 48:50 actually the terrifying part, isn't it? 48:52 Yes. So, let us together save ourselves 48:56 and our families from the fires of hell 48:59 . This means the man must take 49:03 responsibility, for in the hereafter, 49:05 he will face questions he cannot 49:08 possibly ignore; he cannot escape the 49:12 questioning and accountability before 49:14 Allah. Yes, so that is it, sir. We pray 49:18 that Allah grants the best for your 49:20 child and also for your daughter-in-law 49:22 , who is currently still your 49:23 daughter-in-law, may Allah grant them 49:25 the best. Whether that best outcome is 49:29 to continue, or to separate, we leave 49:32 that entirely to Allah Subhanahu wa 49:34 ta'ala. Thus, wallahu a'lam bishawab. 49:38 Wallahu a'lam bishawab. That is all, 49:39 Mr. Maskur, I hope it answers your 49:41 question. Next, there is also an 49:45 inquiry from Mrs. Masykur, same name. 49:48 Alhamdulillah, Ustaz, we have just 49:50 gained a daughter-in-law. We have 49:53 already married off our eldest child. 49:56 All of our children are boys. The first 49:58 of the four just finished getting 50:00 married, Ustaz. Alhamdulillah. 50:02 Alhamdulillah. 50:03 Yes. Barakallahu lakum fi khair. 50:09 Amin. Amin. 50:10 Ustaz, please give a prayer, Ustaz. 50:11 Yes. Let us pray. 50:13 Bismillahirrahmanirrahim. May Mrs. 50:14 Maskur, who has just gained a 50:16 daughter-in-law, feel happy and may 50:18 everything be blessed by Allah. 50:21 Allahumma sholli ala Muhammad wa ala 50:23 ali Muhammad. O Allah, bless them both, 50:26 O Allah. Barakallahu laka wa baraka 50:31 alaika wa jama'a bainakuma fii khair. 50:34 Yes, may Allah bless both your children 50:38 , ma'am, the bride and groom, and keep 50:43 them always united in goodness. Amin. 50:46 May the whole extended family be 50:49 blessed, and may Allah grant them 50:52 complete pious offspring and a 50:55 prosperous life blessed by Allah in 50:59 this world and the hereafter. Amin. 51:02 Allahumma amin. Yes, congratulations, 51:04 ma'am. Once again. 51:05 Congratulations. 51:07 So, Mrs. Maskur, congratulations on 51:10 having been blessed with a 51:12 daughter-in-law. 51:14 Oh, alhamdulillah. Alhamdulillah. 51:17 Alright. Next is a question from Mr. 51:22 Abdullah. Ustaz. 51:24 Mr. Abdullah. Yes. 51:26 Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi 51:27 wabarakatuh, Ustaz. Jazakumullah 51:28 khairan for your time. Ustaz, may I ask 51:32 a question? Earlier, you mentioned that 51:38 when one is about to marry, as an 51:42 expression of gratitude, the walimah is 51:45 equivalent to one goat. Ustaz, we see 51:51 that when aqiqah for a boy is performed 51:56 , a boy is aqiqah-ed with two goats, 52:01 Ustaz. Now, looking at these two things 52:06 , aqiqah, which is smaller in value, 52:10 the aqiqah for a boy requires two, 52:14 equivalent to two goats. Whereas 52:17 marriage, which is greater in 52:20 significance, is valued equivalent to 52:24 just one goat. 52:25 A goat, yes. 52:27 How do we distinguish between them, 52:28 Ustaz? 52:28 Yes. Bismillahirrahmanirrahim. Sholli 52:30 ala Muhammad. Thank you, Mr. Abdullah, 52:32 for following our study this morning. 52:35 This is a critical and interesting 52:36 question for us to address, sir. 52:39 Alhamdulillah. Actually, there is no 52:42 connection, sir, between the walimah 52:44 ceremony and aqiqah; there is no 52:46 relationship at all. And if we compare 52:49 why this one is one goat and that one 52:52 is two goats for a boy, there is no 52:54 connection, Sir. There is no connection 52:57 . Let's just look at it this way, what 53:00 we can read is that Allah and His 53:05 Prophet have made light all marriage 53:11 requirements, so that young people are 53:15 encouraged to marry soon with the 53:20 leniency provided by the religion. 53:26 Getting married already has a 53:32 discussion of its legal status, from 53:35 mandatory, encouraged, or others. But 53:37 of course, we only focus on those three 53:39 : permissible, encouraged, and 53:41 mandatory. Yes, the marriage happens, 53:43 the wedding ceremony is finished. And 53:46 the Prophet said, "Announce your 53:50 marriage, even if it is with just one 53:54 goat, Sir." What is that for? Yes, 53:57 according to your ability. If someone 53:59 says, "Ustaz, I cannot afford one goat. 54:01 " How about a chicken? Can you afford 54:04 one? Oh, I can afford a chicken. A 54:07 free-range chicken, right? A free-range 54:08 chicken costs at most 150,000 Rupiah. 54:11 If you don't even have that, then you 54:13 are a poor person who must be helped. 54:17 Yes. So actually, Mr. Abdullah, this is 54:20 to lighten the burden for people who 54:23 want to marry. It is hoped that once he 54:25 is married, Sir, with that one goat, 54:29 God will open his sustenance. Because 54:32 that is God's promise from the 54:34 explanation in Surah An-Nur verse 32 54:36 earlier, right. God will grant 54:40 sufficiency to those who are poor. As 54:45 soon as he marries, God opens his 54:47 sustenance. What he previously carried 54:50 alone, now he carries with his wife. 54:52 His sustenance will increase, Sir. So 54:57 that when he has his first child, the 55:00 first child, Sir, whether a boy or a 55:02 girl, he is able to slaughter a goat 55:05 for the aqiqah. Yes. And that is all 55:09 according to one's ability. Aqiqah is 55:14 not mandatory for those who cannot 55:16 afford it. Yes, the basic rule of 55:19 aqiqah is sunnah muakkadah. Highly 55:22 recommended. But if you cannot afford 55:26 it, for instance, sorry, because you 55:28 just got married and your minimum wage 55:31 salary hasn't increased yet. It is okay 55:35 if you cannot buy a goat. It is waited 55:38 upon by the Prophet sallallahu alaihi 55:39 wasallam. Waited the first 7 days, and 55:42 you still cannot afford to buy a goat. 55:45 The second 7 days, you still cannot. 55:48 The third 7 days, meaning 21 days total 55:50 . 55:50 Yes. 55:50 Still cannot afford it. His obligation 55:53 for aqiqah is dropped. Dropped. Yes. So 56:01 the one required to do aqiqah is the 56:04 male, the father of the baby. Not the 56:08 grandfather, not the uncle, no. If 56:11 during that time from 7 to 21 days he 56:13 is unable, has no capability, and no 56:15 fortune to buy one or two goats, then 56:17 the aqiqah obligation is dropped. So 56:20 aqiqah is not mandatory to be performed 56:23 by those who cannot afford it. That is 56:26 it, Mr. Abdullah. Hopefully we are 56:33 given the fortune to also strengthen 56:35 the single children among us to get 56:37 married soon. Do not stay single for 56:40 too long, it is not good. Various 56:44 trials can happen if one stays single 56:47 for too long. Yes, that is correct. 56:49 Allah knows best. 56:52 That is it, Mr. Abdullah. Alhamdulillah 56:54 , hopefully that answers it. 56:56 Alhamdulillah, Ustaz, all questions 56:58 from the Q&A session have been answered 57:00 . 57:00 Alhamdulillah. 57:01 As an important final message, Ustaz, 57:04 for the brothers and sisters, to ensure 57:06 ......the preparation needed for 57:11 marriage is conveyed and useful. Please 57:14 , Ustaz, go ahead. 57:15 Very well. In the name of Allah, the 57:16 Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. Peace 57:17 and blessings be upon Muhammad and his 57:19 family. My brothers and sisters, Islam 57:22 is the religion brought by the Prophet, 57:24 peace be upon him, to spread mercy to 57:27 the entire universe—mercy to all 57:29 creation. 57:31 That is the Prophet's main mission, 57:33 peace be upon him. Yes, one of the ways 57:38 to bring about this mercy is through 57:41 marriage, or by marrying off those who 57:46 are single among people. Therefore, 57:50 this is part of the religious struggle, 57:53 which is to strengthen......the 57:59 intention, motivation, and desire of 58:02 our young people, our younger 58:04 generation, to hasten marriage. Do not 58:06 do the opposite, which is to keep 58:08 delaying it. There is a trend now, they 58:10 say, that marriage should be above the 58:12 age of 30. This has no Sunnah, no 58:14 guidance behind it. The best marriage 58:17 is one that is hastened. But also, if I 58:21 may, with knowledge. Once again, with 58:24 ...... 58:24 knowledge. 58:26 So marriage shouldn't just be about 58:28 recklessness, it shouldn't just be 58:29 about......mere desire, but rather with 58:34 knowledge. Yes, by seeking knowledge. 58:39 So, if one wants to get married, what 58:40 is the first thing to strengthen? The 58:42 knowledge first. If the knowledge is 58:45 there, God willing, it will become the 58:47 foundation for behavior because 58:48 marriage is an act of worship. Worship 58:52 cannot be carried out perfectly without 58:54 its knowledge. So we study the 58:56 jurisprudence of marriage. Yes, by 59:00 doing so, you know what the obligations 59:04 are for men and women. As with the 59:08 cases earlier, it turns out we...... 59:12 analyze that various household issues 59:16 are caused by one or both parties 59:19 lacking knowledge. 59:21 Yes. 59:22 Lack of knowledge. So when they face 59:26 trials, they immediately become 59:29 unsteady, immediately lose...... 59:34 self-confidence, right? Losing 59:37 self-assurance to face problems. 59:42 Whereas in a household, as the journey 59:45 goes on, the trials are diverse. This 59:51 is part of the knowledge we must study 59:54 so that the ship of the household runs 59:57 smoothly. Even when battered by various 1:00:03 tests, trials, and even storms. So, if 1:00:09 it is as often illustrated by our 1:00:13 scholars—sailing the ocean in a ship 1:00:17 —the further you leave the coastline, 1:00:21 the port, the more......diverse the 1:00:27 trials become. The waves get bigger, 1:00:30 even in the middle of the ocean there 1:00:33 are storms; that is part of life's 1:00:36 tests. And righteous people usually 1:00:40 have many tests, but they have Allah, 1:00:43 they always follow the guidance of the 1:00:46 Messenger, and God willing, their lives 1:00:49 will be saved. With that, day by day, 1:00:55 their family will grow stronger into a 1:00:58 family that is peaceful, loving, and 1:01:01 merciful, not the opposite. "Our Lord, 1:01:04 grant us from among our wives and 1:01:06 offspring comfort to our eyes and make 1:01:08 us an example for the righteous." O 1:01:12 Allah, make us those who establish 1:01:14 prayer, and accept our prayer. O Allah, 1:01:18 I ask You for beneficial knowledge, 1:01:20 good sustenance, and deeds that are 1:01:22 accepted. "Our Lord, give us in this 1:01:25 world [that which is] good and in the 1:01:26 Hereafter [that which is] good." And 1:01:28 all praise is due to Allah, the Lord of 1:01:29 all worlds. Peace be upon you, and 1:01:31 Allah's mercy and blessings. And peace 1:01:33 be upon you, and Allah's mercy and 1:01:34 blessings. May Allah reward you with 1:01:36 goodness, brothers. May this be 1:01:37 beneficial for you, brothers. So the 1:01:40 trend is not getting married at 30, 1:01:42 which is currently viral. If we want to 1:01:46 follow a trend, follow the trend of 1:01:48 Prophet Muhammad, may Allah honor him 1:01:50 and grant him peace, 1:01:51 and his companions. 1:01:52 And his companions, because that is the 1:01:53 Sunnah we must follow. 1:01:55 I am Fauzi Radanul Haq, I would like to 1:01:56 take my leave and apologize for any 1:01:58 mistakes. We close with: Glory be to 1:02:00 You, O Allah, and with Your praise, I 1:02:01 bear witness that there is no god but 1:02:03 You, I seek Your forgiveness and repent 1:02:04 to You. Peace be upon you, and Allah's 1:02:06 mercy and blessings. 1:02:07 And peace be upon you. 
