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In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious
, the Most Merciful. All praise is due
to Allah, Lord of the worlds. O Allah,
send prayers upon our master Muhammad
and upon the family of our master
Muhammad. Peace be upon you, and the
mercy of Allah, and His blessings.
>> And peace be upon you too.
>> Brothers and sisters, listeners of
Radio Silaturahim and viewers of Rasil
TV, may Allah bless you all. Praise be
to Allah, we meet again this Tuesday
afternoon, the 9th of Jumada al-Awwal
1448 Hijri, which corresponds to
October 20, 2026. We are back for our
afternoon lecture with Ustaz Wahyu di
Kais, who, praise be to Allah, is here
with us. Let us greet him first,
brothers and sisters. Peace be upon you
, and the mercy of Allah, and His
blessings, Ustaz.
>> And peace be upon you, and the mercy of
Allah, and His blessings. Are you doing
well?
>> Praise be to Allah.
>> Praise be to Allah. This afternoon, we
will listen together to the theme that
the Ustaz will present, which is: "
Because of Arrogance, Advice is
Rejected." Well, that is the topic. We
will listen to it together, brothers
and sisters. And for those who wish to
join and ask questions, please feel
free to send them via our WhatsApp at
0811999720. Please, Ustaz.
>> Very well. In the name of Allah, the
Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
Praise and gratitude to Allah. Whatever
Allah wills happens, and whatever He
does not will, does not happen. There
is no power and no strength except by
Allah. I bear witness that there is no
god but Allah alone, having no partner,
and I bear witness that Muhammad is His
servant and messenger. May the prayers
and peace of Allah be upon the
Messenger, his family, his companions,
and those who follow him. I seek refuge
in Allah from the accursed Satan. O you
who have believed, fear Allah as He
should be feared, and do not die except
as Muslims. To proceed. Indeed, the
best speech is the Book of Allah, and
the best guidance is the guidance of
Muhammad, may the peace and blessings
of Allah be upon him, and the worst of
affairs are the newly invented ones.
Brothers and sisters, viewers of Rasil
TV and listeners of Radio Silaturahim
wherever you are. Praise be to Allah,
on this afternoon's occasion, we can
meet again in this lecture session, and
this time we will try to discuss
together a theme, or rather the title
of the material is "Because of
Arrogance, Advice is Rejected." Yeah.
>> So, brothers and sisters whom I love
for the sake of Allah, this afternoon
the title is indeed a bit spicy. It's
okay to be spicy once in a while, right
? We shouldn't just have sweet things
all the time. But this is actually for
myself. I am trying to advise myself,
but hopefully, others can also benefit
from it.
>> Now, why did I bring this up? Because
lately, we see many great people,
public figures, even ustaz.
>> When advised, instead of accepting it,
they fight back and expose the flaws of
the person giving the advice. So, it's
like a kickback, right?
>> Now, why is that? Because there is a
disease called pride. And that pride is
another name for arrogance.
>> Yes. Masyaallah. I want us to reflect
on this. But beforehand, let us open
this session by reciting the prayer for
seeking knowledge. In the name of Allah
, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
O my Lord, increase me in knowledge. O
Allah, benefit me with what You have
taught me, teach me what will benefit
me, and provide me with knowledge that
benefits me. Amen. O Allah, Amen.
Hopefully, with that prayer, we begin
this session so that the knowledge we
gain can be far more beneficial than
just knowing it. We absorb more,
understand more, and then put it into
practice. It starts with a story about
the best leader after Abu Bakr.
>> Who was the best leader after Abu Bakr?
Who? Umar, right?
>> So, of course, his name is very well
known, namely Umar bin Khattab. Amir
al-Mu'minin. Leader of half the world.
>> Yes. Half the world.
>> Because at that time, there were few
people in the world. Uh.
>> But Umar already held, well, was in
control of Persia and Rome.
>> Uh-huh.
>> Just imagine, Persia and Rome were
already in his grasp,
>> already in his, uh, control, you see.
This Caliph Umar was truly
extraordinary, right? Throughout
history, what is called the golden age,
the golden era,
>> it reached its peak during the time of
Caliph Umar.
>> It started with the conquest of Mecca
during the time of the Prophet Muhammad
. Well, it reached its peak during the
time of Umar. After that, it
experienced a decline during Uthman's
era, continuing to decline until it
peaked in the conflict between Ali and
Muawiyah.
>> Like that. So the peak was during
Caliph Umar's time. Now, what's
interesting here is that a figure like
Caliph Umar, who was a leader of half
the world, was much greater than a
president,
>> you know. So, don't be arrogant if
you're a president.
>> There's no, there's no comparison to a
caliph. Caliph Umar.
>> Exactly. Caliph Abu Bakar and Caliph
Umar, they led half the world.
>> If it's a president, it's only one
country.
>> Yes.
>> But a caliph led up to half the world
back then. It stretched out. Then after
that, especially during the Ottoman
Empire, leaders ruled the Muslim
community from Morocco to Merauke.
>> Well, one day, Caliph Umar was walking
in Medina with his companion named
Al-Jarud. Suddenly, an old woman came
from across the street and called out
to him. "O Umar, stop." Surprising that
an old woman, a grandmother, dared to
stop Umar. Well, Umar stopped. His
companion was shocked. Al-Jarud said, "
>> This old woman is no ordinary woman,"
he said. It turned out she was Khawlah
binti Tha'labah.
>> Tha'labah.
>> Khawlah binti Tha'labah was a female
companion whose situation caused the
revelation of Surah Al-Mujadilah verses
1 to 4.
>> Uh.
>> So, I'll touch on the story a little.
One day, Khawlah's husband, Aus bin
Samit, returned from a journey and
asked Khawlah for food.
>> Uh.
>> But at that time, there was no food in
the house.
>> Uh.
>> So Khawlah told him the truth that she
had no food. Now, Aus was angry, angry
because he felt his wife wasn't taking
care of him.
>> Uh.
>> In his anger, he then "zihared" his
wife. Zihar is a pre-Islamic method of
divorce, by equating the wife's body
part to the mother's body part.
>> So, Aus said this, "O Khawlah, your
back is like my mother's back." Yes,
that clearly meant one is not allowed
to be intimate with one's mother, right
?
>> It's forbidden for a son to be intimate
with his mother. And here, his wife was
equated with his mother. So it was an
automatic divorce, you see.
>> So that automatic divorce is called
zihar.
>> Zihar.
>> Now, zihar is called zihar because of
zuhr. Zuhr means the back, right,
zuhrun. "Zuhur" means back, which is
why it is called "zihar." Right. Then,
when he said that, Khawlah was shocked.
>> How could you have the heart to divorce
me in such an ignorant way?
>> She went straight into her room. She
put on her hijab and covered her
modesty because she had been divorced.
>> Then, she left her house. Not long
after, he returned with some food.
>> He thought that by inviting her to eat,
they would reconcile. Huh. "Let's eat,
I've brought food." She refused because
, to this day, she hadn't received a
religious ruling. Whether it was truly
okay to just act like that. She refused
, and eventually, Khawlah...She left
her husband eating at home and went to
see the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon
him.
>> She told the Prophet, because Aus—the
companion Aus bin Samit—after looking
for her and bringing food, acted as if
they had reconciled and wanted to be
intimate with her. She refused because
it wasn't clear if it was lawful or not
.
>> So, she went to the Prophet.
>> Once she explained the problem to the
Prophet, he didn't immediately answer.
Then, verses 1 to 4 of Surah
Al-Mujadilah were revealed. It was
mentioned that Allah heard the two
servants who were, what? Engaging in
dialogue. Meaning the Prophet Muhammad,
peace be upon him, and Khawlah binti
Tha'labah.
>> The verses were revealed, stating that
to be released from the penalty of
zihar, one must free a slave.
>> If unable, fast for two months; if
still unable, feed 60 poor people.
>> All three were difficult for Aus, right
?
>> Yes, indeed.
>> How could he be expected to free a
slave? His family
>> was also poor. Slaves were expensive,
you know.
>> Yes. Indeed.
>> A slave could cost up to 100 million.
>> For one person.
>> Yes. Exactly. Some were even more
expensive.
>> Right.
>> Then, if he couldn't do that, he had to
fast for two months. How could an old
man like that fast for two months? That
was impossible, too. Feeding 60 poor
people was also beyond his means.
>> Finally, not long after, when the
Prophet received dates as charity, he
gave them to Khawlah so she could help
free her husband. In the end, Khawlah
also contributed her own savings.
>> Just so her husband could be set free.
Imagine a wife who had been hurt like
that.
>> Hurt, wounded, oppressed by being
subject to zihar—treated in a
pre-Islamic way—yet she still helped
free her husband. This is an
extraordinary human being.
>> Yes. It is only natural that Allah
honored Khawlah by revealing verses 1
to 4 of Surah Al-Mujadilah.
>> This was Umar's foundation. So when
Khawlah binti Tha'labah stood before
him, Umar stopped. Then Khawlah said
this to Umar: Who was the supreme
leader at that time. "O Umar, I have
known you since you were still called
Umayr."
>> Umair is the diminutive of Umar, a term
of endearment. So Umar becomes Umair.
Yes, little Umar. You were once just a
goat herder in the Ukaz market with
your small staff. Time passed, you were
called Umar, and now you are called the
Commander of the Faithful. O Umar, fear
Allah regarding your subjects, your
people, or those who are led by you.
That was the advice of Khawla bint
Tha'labah. Now, let's try to imagine,
brothers and sisters, viewers of Rasul
TV and listeners of Silaturahim.
Imagine if we were in Umar's place, and
suddenly an old woman in the street
rebuked us in front of our aides or
assistants.
>> Let's say we are a company leader.
Suddenly, an old woman reminds us of
our past, "Hey, do you remember when
you used to sell peanuts or ice on the
side of the road?" Now look at you.
What would we think?
>> Suddenly, if we are reminded, "Hey, you
were a goat herder." Umar is reminded
of being a goat herder. What is our
reaction? We might be offended.
>> Yes,
>> offended. But what happened to Umar? No
, Umar did not. Umar was not offended
at all. Umar stood there and bowed his
head, listening for a long time—not
just a minute or two.
>> He listened until his aide, Al-Jarud,
couldn't stand it anymore. He said, "O
woman, O old woman." Enough, stop it. "
Enough, enough, enough. You have kept
the Commander of the Faithful for too
long. MashaAllah. Then Umar became
angry with Al-Jarud. Well, Hey, do you
know who she is? Just let her be. Let
her finish what she has to say, for she
is the one whom Allah listens to. From
above the seven heavens. That’s how
Umar was. Let her be. Do you know who
she is? She is the woman whose words
Allah heard from above the seven
heavens. By Allah, if she were to keep
speaking to me until the night fell.
Yes, that is how it was. By Allah, if
she wanted to advise me until nightfall
, I would not leave her.
>> That is MashaAllah. Except only to pray
. And after that, I would return to
listen to her advice again.
>> See,
>> willing,
>> to that extent. Are there any leaders
among us who are like this? Valuing
someone who is indeed valued by Allah
SWT, like Khawla bint Tha'labah.
Because of her piety. So, what lesson
can we learn from this? Umar, the
Commander of the Faithful, being
advised by an old woman on the street.
He was ready to stand there until night
. Yet, we have 100,000 subscribers, for
example,
>> just called an 'ustadz', just became a
public figure, it hasn't been long,
only a few years, for example. If
someone leaves a reminder in the
comment section, we immediately block
them.
>> If someone gives advice via WhatsApp,
we immediately expose their flaws on
YouTube. MashaAllah. My brothers and
sisters, I am concerned with what has
been conveyed by the words of the
Prophet, peace be upon him." La
yadkhulul jannah misqola habbatim min
khordalin minal kibir. "That is
recorded by Bukhari. No one will enter
paradise if they have as much as a
mustard seed of pride, of arrogance, in
their heart. The companions asked," O
Messenger of Allah, what is al-kibr? ""
What is meant by arrogance? "The
Prophet replied," Al-kibru batarul haqq
wa ghamtun-nas. "" Indeed, arrogance is
rejecting the truth and belittling
people. "It is truly not easy to accept
advice. Especially when we are, you
know, already popular or respected by
many people,
>> having to accept advice from an
ordinary person,
>> it’s difficult; it’s a matter of
pride.
>> Oh, masya Allah. This is how it is
illustrated. We might reject the truth
not because the truth itself is wrong.
Not because the advice is wrong, no.
But because we consider the one
bringing the truth to be lower than us.
>> Hm. Yes, that is what is called"
batarul haqq. "We belittle the one
giving advice. Who are they?" They are
a novice, how dare they advise me. "Now
, that is what is called" ghamtun-nas,
"belittling people." Ah, you are just
an ordinary person, you only started
learning yesterday, "right?" So, why
are you advising me? "Yet, Umar taught
us—who doesn't know the stature of
Umar, who doesn't know the greatness of
Umar? To the point that the Prophet
mentioned, if there were to be a
prophet after me, it would have been
Umar. The Prophet held him in such high
regard, seeing his greatness and his
stature. But a figure like Umar, the
Commander of the Faithful, was willing
to listen to advice from an old woman
like Haulah binti Tsa'labah. Yes, the
truth is judged by what is said, not by
who says it. Now, masya Allah. So,
brothers and sisters, this afternoon we
learn to be like Umar. Don't be too
proud to be advised. If someone
corrects us today, don't get angry
immediately. Restrain yourself. Try to
evaluate yourself instead, say many
istighfar. Because it could be that the
person giving the advice is truly doing
it out of sincerity and love. So listen
, perhaps Allah is sending little
Haulahs.
>> Those little Haulahs who have the
courage to offer advice. Because the
principle is," Qulil haqq wa lau kana
murran. "Speak the truth even if it is
bitter. There it is. So, hopefully
through this, Allah will remove
arrogance from our hearts. Now, let's
understand what advice is. In Arabic,
linguistically, advice comes from the
verb" nasaha. "
>> Yes." Nasha "means people translate it
in two ways. Etymologically, the word"
nasaha "has several meanings; first,"
khalaso. "The meaning of" khalaso "is
pure, clear, and clean from any dirt or
mixture. For instance, the phrase"
nasah-tul 'asal. "' Asal means I am
extracting honey. So, when someone
filters honey until it is separated
from its wax, thus producing pure honey
, that is called" nasaha. "Use nasuha
nashtul asl
>> And becomes the basis of advice, right?
>> Now, there is also the word"
khaiyah-khot "which means to sew. Well,
giving advice is like sewing torn
clothing. The goal is to fix and
reunite the damaged fabric so it can be
used well.
>> Now Kang Pahri, your clothes are torn.
>> Yes.
>> I offer Kang Pahri, so your skin isn't
showing. How about I sew those tears?
Would you like that?
>> It can be free, no problem.
>> Now, you'd be happy, right?
>> Happy.
>> Happy.
>> Oh my God. Wow, it's free. Free, right?
Not paying. Free. Oh, Mashallah.
>> But what happens these days? Many
people want their torn clothes sewn but
get angry instead. This is because they
don't understand the substance of the
advice. The evidence and warnings in
the book Al-Kabair, in the copy I have
at home, are in part 17. It mentions
the meaning of arrogance, from Abdullah
bin Mas'ud, from the Prophet, may peace
be upon him. He said," La yadkhulul
jannah man kana fi qolbihi mithqalu
dharrah min kibrin. "This means a
person will not enter heaven if they
have arrogance in their heart the size
of a dharrah. Yes, a dharrah is even
smaller than an atom.
>> H
>> Yes, it is that small. But people
sometimes translate it as the weight of
a mustard seed. A mustard seed
>> is still visible; a dharrah is actually
even smaller than that.
>> However, since there is nothing else
generally visible to humans
>> without a microscope, a mustard seed is
what is used. The principle is that it
is something very small. That there is
something like that in their heart.
Then that is what is meant by" min
kibrin ", from the arrogance. Then a
man said, a man said" Innar-rajula
yuhibbu an yakuna... ""...thaubuhu
hasanan. ""...wa na'luhu hasanan. "He
asked," Indeed, everyone likes to have
nice clothes and nice sandals, right? "
Is that arrogance? Yes. Then the
Prophet said," Innallaha jamilun
yuhibbul jamal. "Indeed, Allah is
beautiful and loves beauty. Al-kibru,
while what is meant by arrogance is"
batrul-haqq. "Batrul-haqq wa
ghamtun-nas, which means rejecting the
truth and belittling people. Hadith
narrated by Bukhari and Muslim. Muslim
Hadith number 2749. Then in Surah
Al-Mu'minun verse 27 it is stated: *Wa
qala Musa*(and Moses said), *inni '
udhtu*(I seek refuge), indeed I seek
refuge*bi Rabbi wa Rabbikum*(in my Lord
and your Lord, Allah). He meant it for
Pharaoh, he said that to Pharaoh: from
every person who behaves arrogantly, *
la yu'minu bi yaumil-hisab*(and he does
not believe in the Day of Reckoning).
Well, in Surah Ghafir verse 27 and
Surah An-Nahl verse 23, it is mentioned
," innallaha la yuhibbul mustakbirin. "
Indeed, Allah does not like those who
are arrogant. See? Even if you look at
Surah Az-Zumar, it mentions" abwaba
jahannama khalidina fiha. "" wa libi'sa
mathwal mutakabbirin, "right? Enter the
gates of Hell. Now, that is the worst
place Allah has prepared for those who
are arrogant. Mashallah. May we be
spared from that, God forbid. So, the
essence of arrogance and pride—the
definition of arrogance has been stated
directly by the Prophet as" batarul
haqq wa ghamtun nas. "Now, the scope of
these traits includes self-pride, and
then, uh, excessive, uh, excessive
self-pride. Wow, to the point of
self-exaltation. Now, even a small
amount should not be allowed to become
a seed for the growth of self-pride, or
what is termed" fakhr. "There is"
alkibru, "there is" alfahru, "then
there is" al-ujub, "which is often
introduced as" ujub, "then there is
also" altih, "and also, uh, what is it
called? Arrogant, yes, it is mentioned.
Now, being amazed at oneself. This is
also dangerous, feeling better than
others.
>> But as mentioned, it is not called
arrogance if one wears nice clothes or
sandals, as long as one's heart remains
guarded, not to show off,
>> not to, uh, belittle others, and not to
boast. But they truly enjoy dressing
well and neatly. Uh, like wearing nice
sandals. Because Allah is truly
beautiful. Now, arrogance was the first
sin committed by a created being. Yes,
so arrogance was the first sin
committed by a creature.
>> A creature.
>> Among Allah's creations, there are
angels, jinn, humans, and so on. Now,
that arrogance was committed by one of
Allah's creations, namely the jinn.
>> Jinn.
>> Now, when? When Allah commanded the
angels to prostrate to Adam." Illa
Iblis "(And when We said)" lil
malaikati "(to the angels)" usjudu "(
prostrate)." usjudu liadama "(prostrate
to Prophet Adam)" fasajadu "(they all
prostrated)" illa Iblis "(except Iblis)
. Why did Iblis refuse to prostrate?"
Aba wastakbara, "he refused and acted
arrogantly; he refused and was haughty.
" Wakana minal kafirin. "And Iblis was
among the disbelievers. Now, then, uh,
he was asked."
>> Ma mana'aka. "
>> Why?
>> What prevented you from prostrating to
Prophet Adam?
>> Iblis replied," Ana khairun minhu. "
>> I am better than him." Khalaqtani min
narin wa khalaqtahu min tin. "Yes, You
created me from fire, while Adam from
clay. Wow, Mashallah. That is where the
" iktijab "or pride in oneself comes
from. So arrogance, pride, and so on
first occurred with Iblis.
>> So if there is an arrogant person, that
means they are a follower of Iblis. Yes
, so we must, we must avoid it. Let us
not become arrogant people, so we must
often seek forgiveness. Because it can
happen to anyone.
>> No exception, even for those called
ustaz, kiai, habib, or anyone else; it
can happen to anyone.
>> It can happen.
>> Yes. Oh, masyaAllah. If it reaches that
point, be careful. That is the seed of
the bad traits that happened to Iblis
earlier. That is in Surah Al-Baqarah
verse 34. Now, then hell is prepared
for arrogant people.
>> So hell is for the arrogant. That is
why in Surah Az-Zumar verse 72 it says,
" Kanadkhulu abwaba jahannama kholidina
fiha. "Enter. Yes, it is said," Enter
the gates of Jahannam. "" Kholidina
fiha, "you shall dwell therein forever.
" Wabsa matswal mutakabbirin. "So that
is the worst dwelling place for those
who are arrogant. That is, masyaAllah.
This is for my brothers and sisters.
Must be careful. Indeed. Guard your
heart, do not stain it, that's it.
MasyaAllah. Now let us look at three
traits. That bring ruin. The Prophet
said," Ala ukhbirukum? "Shall I tell
you? The Prophet was conveying this to
his companions in a hadith from
Harithah bin Wahab." Shall I tell you?
"" Shall I inform you about the people
of Paradise? "Yes, about who the
inhabitants of Paradise are. The
Prophet said," Kullu da'ifin ""
Mutada'ifin. "Those in Paradise are the
weak ones who are belittled by others.
>> Be careful, there are many.
>> So, the one you belittle might be a
person of Paradise. Oh, masyaAllah. How
shameful it will be to be exposed
before Allah later.
>> You were arrogant and strutted into
hell, while those you belittled in the
world are now in Paradise. Are you not
ashamed of that? Humiliated in the eyes
of the world, in the middle of billions
of people. MasyaAllah. Nauzubillah
minzalik. Then," Lau aqsama' alallahi
la-abbaroahu. "There. If he swears by
Allah, Allah will surely grant it.
>> When we belittle them and they feel
hurt, wronged, and then pray to Allah.
Allah grants it. Then you will feel it.
MasyaAllah, you have belittled them.
Then the Prophet said," Ala ukhbirukum
bi-ahlil nar. "Shall I tell you, shall
I inform you about the people of Hell?
He said," Kullu 'utullin jawwazin
mustakbirin. "Kullu' utullin jawwazin
mustakbirin. First, the harsh ones, as
mentioned in Surah Al-Qalam. 'Utul, the
harsh ones. Behaving unpleasantly,
their speech and actions are harsh,
making people uncomfortable around them
. Then the second, impatient. Jawwaz
means impatient. Cannot restrain
themselves from being emotional, from
being angry.
>> Cannot refrain from acting out. So when
they are slightly offended, they get
angry.
>> Well, basically, they immediately lash
out at people. That is it. Now the
third is mustakbirin. Those who are
arrogant. So these three things can
endanger a person. This is in the
hadith narrated by Bukhari number 4918
and Muslim number 2853. Alright,
brothers and sisters. Let us reflect
first, let us listen, uh, let us, what?
Absorb what we have just listened to,
and then after that we will continue
with the material. Let us add a little
more, God willing, for our discussion.
That is all, may Allah bless you.
>> Alright, we will take a break first.
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Islam, still with us, brothers and
sisters, in the afternoon lecture
program with Ustaz Wahyu KS regarding
why advice is rejected due to arrogance
. Now, that is it, yes. Let us not have
an arrogant nature. And arrogance,
earlier the Ustaz stated, because that
is, uh, what is it called? A follower
of Iblis, Ustaz. Yes, if we have an
arrogant nature. Because
>> the first creature who was arrogant is
Iblis. May Allah protect us from that.
Alright, Ustaz. We will continue to the
next points, Ustaz. Sir.
>> Alright, brothers may Allah have mercy
on you. May Allah protect you. Uh, that
in this case, the Messenger of Allah (
peace be upon him) mentioned three
types of people who, as mentioned by
the Messenger, are those whom Allah
will not look at. Allah will not speak
to them on the Day of Resurrection. And
for them is a painful punishment. This
is a hadith narrated by Imam Muslim,
then Abu Daud, An-Nasa'i, and Ad-Darimi
. So it is mentioned like this in this
quite long hadith, which means there
are three groups that will not be
spoken to by Allah on the Day of
Resurrection. Yes.
>> Now, for them is a painful punishment.
The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon
him) then mentioned those three groups
repeatedly until he stated it three
times.
>> H
>> yes, this is because of its importance.
So if the Messenger conveyed something
important, he usually repeated it.
>> Now, including this issue. Then Abu
Dzar said," May they be ruined, O
Messenger of Allah. "Who are they, O
Messenger of Allah? The Messenger
replied," First, those who like to
lengthen their clothing, that is isbal.
"
>> Isbal
>> means covering his ankles, even though
he is a man who wears his clothes until
they exceed his ankles. Now, this is
what is widely discussed among the
scholars, how until
>> controversy
>> uh, what if it is not out of arrogance,
and so on. Many such questions. That is
okay, maybe later listeners will also
ask that.
>> What is clear is that I will convey the
hadith first. This is a hadith narrated
by Muslim number 106. In Abu Daud
number 4087, in An-Nasa'i number 455
and in Ad-Darimi number 2608. Now, then
it is mentioned that the first one is
those who like to lengthen their
clothing so that it exceeds the ankle
line.
>> Yes. Then the second, those who like to
remind others of their favors.
>> Yes.
>> Well, it's in" la tubtilu sadaqatikum
bil manni wal adza. "Do not nullify
your acts of charity
>> by reminding others of your favors or
causing hurt.
>> Yes." You just got some yesterday, and
now you're asking again? "Wow, and in
front of other people too. See,
that’s clearly hurtful, bringing up
what has been given.
>> So, be careful with this. Now, the
third type is the person who boosts
their sales with a false oath."
>> By Allah, I bought it for this much. "
Or as mentioned before, conspiring with
others, what you’d call a" shill
bidder. "
>> For example, let's say Kang Fahri is
selling me an item, a motorbike, for 10
million. Then suddenly, I offer 8
million. Suddenly, Mas Neja comes in."
Hey, I'll take it for 10 million, sell
it to me. "Now, because Kang Fahri is
worried, he says," Fine, fine, I'll
take the 10 million, I really need the
money. "It’s okay, he pays the 10
million, even though the actual market
price is just 8 million. So, Mas Neja
is my accomplice.
>> Working together.
>> Yes, working together behind the scenes
. Acting as if he were a real buyer.
But he’s actually an accomplice to
trick Kang Fahri.
>> It's a setup, a total setup.
>> Yes, it's like that. He even goes as
far as swearing an oath. For instance,
the merchant swears," By Allah, I just
sold one for 10 million yesterday. ""
And now it's 11 million. "" So now,
since Kang Fahri is selling it for 10
million, why wouldn't you want it? "
Whereas in reality, he is just swearing
to deceive. All of this falls under
those things that Allah will not look
at. Allah will not speak to them on the
Day of Judgment. Masyaallah.
Nauzubillah minzalik. Therefore, we
must be careful with this arrogant
attitude. Let me give you an example
where Ibn Umar found that" isbal "was
actually forbidden outside of prayer.
>> H
>> outside of prayer.
>> So it wasn't initially just within the
prayer. Initially
>> this prohibition from the Prophet was
outside of prayer. In a hadith narrated
by Muslim, Ibn Umar himself said," I
passed by the Prophet (peace be upon
him) and my lower garment was trailing
on the ground. "Yes. So he said," O
Abdullah, raise your garment. "" Irfa'
izaraka. "Yes," irfa 'izaraka, "raise
your garment. Then, I raised it. Then
he said again," Raise it more, raise it
more. "Then I raised it further. Since
then, I have always paid attention to
this matter, to which people ask," To
what extent? "Yes, yes. Ibn Umar (may
Allah be pleased with him) said," To
the middle of the calves. "There, to
the middle of the calves. In another
narration, it is mentioned that when
Ibn Umar asked," O Messenger, if it is
this much, may it be lowered by half? "
" You may. "He said once it reaches the
ankle, stop, he said.
>> That is enough right there. There is no
right for it to be below the ankles. So
, it turns out this is also understood
by Imam an-Nawawi, so during prayer,
the ruling is haram. Outside of prayer,
the ruling is makruh. Now, this kind of
thing is certainly still a polemic
among Muslims, right? Some say," Well,
the important thing is not to be
arrogant, "right?
>> Now, what is the reason? Abu Bakar also
practiced isbal. Let's try to look at
the complete hadith about Abu Bakar and
what it's like. Abu Bakar was a
companion who was truly protected from
arrogance. Now, when he told the
Prophet," O Messenger of Allah, it
often slips down because my body is
thin. Unless I truly tighten it. "That
means, in reality, Abu Bakar also tried
. But because his physical condition
was thin, it would sometimes slip down.
That is forgiven, it is not an
intentional factor.
>> See. Whereas now, people sometimes
intentionally cover their ankles. So,
let us evaluate this so that we are
more in line with the example of the
Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam. It
is not difficult if we are truly doing
it based on love for the Prophet
Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam, it is not
heavy.
>> So if, for example, you do not agree
with what I am conveying or that it is
from the sunnah of the Prophet, please
go ahead. If you disagree, that is fine
, I am only conveying the many hadiths
about it.
>> Back in the year 2000 what year was it?
Around the 2000s. 2001, 2002 or so. I
had collected about 43 sources
>> about this.
>> And finally, I decided, if that's the
case, I will cut all my trousers.
Rather than having doubts in the heart.
Suppose we cover our ankles, in our
hearts
>> is it right or wrong? Doubts arise. So,
it is better to be safe, I just lift
them, I cut them all.
>> I had them all altered. That actually
makes the heart feel comfortable, no
more doubts, see. So, rather than being
busy dealing with differences of
opinion—some say it is allowed, some
say it is not—well, just go with the
one that is not allowed, it is clearly
safer, right? Rather than guessing,
like," Oh, maybe it is allowed. "See.
>> Rather than feeling anxious, it is
better to take the certain path. The
path that is confirmed as forbidden by
the Prophet, that is settled. So,
regardless of those who deem it haram,
makruh, or permissible. We have already
avoided it. So, let us try to carry out
the sunnah based on our love for the
Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam.
There is no need to feel embarrassed in
practicing the sunnah of the Prophet
Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam, even if you
might have to be different from those
around you.
>> After all, it is better for us to be
loved by Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala,
loved by the Messenger of Allah, and to
be among those he longs for; for the
most honored person by Allah to long
for us. Those who love his Sunnah,
those who believe in him, surely we
also long for the Messenger of Allah.
That is how it is, brothers. May Allah
Subhanahu wa ta'ala grant us comfort,
grant us happiness when we love the
Sunnah of the Prophet, and keep us away
from all forms of arrogance, no matter
how small. Yes, that is all.
>> Alright. Alhamdulillah, after we have
listened together to the afternoon
tausiah delivered by the Ustadz
regarding why arrogant advice is
rejected. Many have joined on WhatsApp
to share greetings and questions sent
to 0811999720. There is a first
greeting from Mr. Arwin, thank you
Ustadz for the tausiah and
enlightenment this afternoon. Listening
, Mr. Arwin in Lenteng Agung, South
Jakarta. Then there is Mrs. Retno who
is listening. There is also Mrs. Arsi
in Sukabumi listening to the secret
this afternoon. And also Mrs. Nurjanah
binti Madioo in Sydney, Australia,
listening while cooking with Rasil.
Masyaallah. There is also Mrs. Ani Cani
Hudaifa who is always loyal to
listening to Rasil. There is also from
Mr. Baruan Betawi, there is Mr. Rama
Mitra in South Tangerang. Thank you
Ustadz for the tausiah and the advice.
Hopefully, we are kept away from the
traits of takabbur and arrogance. Amin
ya rabbal alamin. There is also this
from Mrs. or Mr. Amma Amar Radika who
is listening. And many more, Ustadz.
Let's go straight to the incoming
questions, Ustadz. The first question I
will read from Okay. Mr. Deni in Bogor.
Assalamu'alaikum warahmatullahi
wabarakatuh, Ustadz.
>> Wa'alaikumussalam warahmatullahi
wabarakatuh. Regarding the trait of
arrogance, some say that being arrogant
towards disbelievers is allowed
according to Islam. How is the
explanation, Ustadz? I
>> that is it.
>> Arrogance towards disbelievers is
allowed in what context first? Yes, in
what context first? After all, Allah
Subhanahu wa ta'ala in the Qur'an
commanded Prophet Musa and Prophet
Harun to preach to Pharaoh, may Allah's
curse be upon him.
>> To Pharaoh, may he be cursed, with
kaulan layyinan,
>> kindly.
>> Yes. to speak gently.
>> H
>> and speak gently so he may think, so he
may understand. So, there is what?
There is a time when it is allowed to
act arrogantly towards disbelievers. I
mean not the disbeliever, but arrogance
towards someone who is arrogant, even
to a disbeliever.
>> So to bring down another person's
arrogance, we show them ours.
>> Correct.
>> To make them realize it, yes. For
example, let's say this. Mr. Fahri is
arrogant, for example, with his
extraordinarily large income.
>> Now, we say," Mr. Fahri, there is
someone who earns much, much more than
you, "
>> something like that. But thank God,
he's still a good person, you know.
>> Yes, my apologies. My apologies if I
offended you.
>> It’s not like Brother Fahri, you see.
Huh.
>> Brother Fahri looks a bit different,
doesn't he?
>> He's changed, his walk is upright now,
whereas he used to be hunched over. But
he remains a good person.
>> Yes, he even shares his profits with
others.
>> Hopefully, Brother Fahri can become
even better than that. Actually,
that’s a way of making someone
realize it.
>> By showing the virtues of others who
are better than himself.
>> As an example, you know. Yes, that’s
an example. That’s what it means when
they say being arrogant toward an
arrogant person is an act of charity.
>> H.
>> So, what it means is that people are
sometimes deceived by appearances.
>> Yes, by appearances.
>> Then, once it's revealed that the
person who was belittled is actually
far more noble. That is, Mashallah. In
this regard, there is an interesting
story about Abu Dharr and Bilal.
>> Bilal bin Rabah; once, Khalid bin Walid
gathered the companions to discuss war
strategy.
>> Yes.
>> They were asked for suggestions and
input.
>> Suddenly, Abu Dharr Al-Ghifari raised
his hand to propose an idea. Then,
Bilal interjected." Ah, I don't think
that fits, "he said. Like that. Noah.
Abu Dharr heard him and got angry. He
said," Quiet, you son of a black woman!
"
>> Yes. He immediately belittled him,
right?" You son of a black woman. "
Bilal was from Ethiopia, so he was
being belittled for that. Bilal was
shocked, like," Why? "
>> Like that.
>> How could he go that far? Even though
he could have just said,"
>> That doesn't fit, what do you think
would be a better fit? "That would have
been nicer, right? But he was
immediately offended, you see.
>> He went after his physical traits.
>> He insulted his appearance directly.
>> It wasn't his body, but his parents he
mentioned.
>> His parents."
>> Oh, be quiet, you son of a black woman.
"Bilal bin Rabah finally said," I will
tell the Messenger of Allah. "The
Messenger.
>> Bilal went to complain. Then he came to
the Prophet." O Messenger of Allah, Abu
Dharr called me the son of a black
woman. "Then the Prophet (peace be upon
him) met with Abu Dharr." O Abu Dharr.
"" Is it true that you said such and
such? "Yes. Now, then Abu Dharr replied
," It is true, O Messenger of Allah. "
The Prophet said," Indeed, there is an
act of Jahiliyyah (ignorance) in your
speech. "
>> Yeah.
>> Know that the sound of Bilal's sandals
was already heard in Paradise.
>> Yes, even though.
>> Such an expression is a sign that the
Prophet (PBUH) elevated Bilal's status.
Right? Yeah. Is it appropriate for an
Abu Dharr Al-Ghifari to exceed the
judgment of the Prophet (PBUH)?
Obviously. It's impossible. This is a
person most glorified by Allah, who
cherished Bilal bin Rabah.
>> How could he insult him? There. So, as
a form of apology, what did Bilal do?
Abu Dzar waited for Bilal to pass by.
>> Yeah.
>> As soon as Bilal passed, he immediately
stood before Bilal, placed one of his
cheeks on the ground, and asked Bilal
to step on the other. Asking for
forgiveness."
>> Bilal, step on my cheek, step on my
cheek, you are younger than me. "
>> Meaning to apologize, try to imagine
that, we rarely see things like that,
right?
>> Is there anyone like that?
>> Now, this Abu Dzar, masyaallah, finally
Bilal said, then he got down and held
his shoulder," It's okay, my brother. "
"
>> I have forgiven you, "they embraced and
forgave each other, masyaallah, how
beautiful is that. If everything is
based on sincerity,
>> then arrogance will disappear.
>> But try if someone insists on their
pride," Oh, I don't want to. "
>> Still stubborn."
>> Why should I be the one to apologize to
Bilal? "" He was the one who was wrong,
you know. "See, masyaallah. Even though
when two people, two Muslims, are in a
dispute, the most noble in the sight of
Allah is the one who apologizes first,
>> the one who is the first to say salam,
even if they are in the right.
>> Yes.
>> Masyaallah. Can you do that?
>> It's not easy, right? Now, this goes
back to the softness of the heart.
>> That is why Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala
commanded Prophet Musa to speak with"
qaulan layyinan "to
>> Pharaoh.
>> Pharaoh.
>> With the hope that he would remember
Allah, to become aware, but it turned
out Pharaoh couldn't. Yeah.
>> So, it was conveyed earlier in Surah
Al-Mu'min, verse 27,
>> that Allah does not love those who are
arrogant like Pharaoh.
>> Yes.
>> Well, that's it.
>> Alright, back to the next question from
Amma. Assalamu'alaikum warahmatullahi
wabarakatuh, Ustaz.
>> Wa'alaikumsalam warahmatullahi
wabarakatuh.
>> Amma Radika." If I give advice to
someone older, what if I give advice to
someone older but they turn it back on
us by saying' You yourself are not even
doing it right yet '? "
>> Actually, I give advice based on the
experience I had before. So what should
I do? Am I still allowed to give advice
or not, Ustaz? Because their words are
quite hurtful. Thank you.
>> In the Quran, there are three criteria.
In our preaching, there are also three
methods for giving advice. In our
preaching, Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala
says," Invite to the way of your Lord
with wisdom and good instruction and
argue with them in a way that is best.
"Yes, invite them to the path of Allah
with wisdom, with a wise attitude, with
knowledge, especially if their level is
above us.
>> Yes. Don't let it seem patronizing,
just be informative or ask for their
opinion. Oh, so maybe the method was
wrong.
>> If our language seems patronizing, they
will be offended, right? Because even
though pride is forbidden when
accepting the truth, as advisors, we
must know the ethics.
>> Proportional.
>> Because Allah also guides us to do that
.
>> Yes, with wisdom. With wisdom. Well,
wisdom can mean acting wisely, or it
can mean using knowledge,
>> yes, through argumentation like that.
Now, there is an interesting example
from the stories of the companions, the
salaf, the scholars of the past, about
a child who wanted to correct someone's
ablution.
>> Yeah.
>> Even though both of them were actually
correct. They saw an older man
performing his ablution incorrectly.
>> Uh-huh. So, they asked for his help,
sir." Sir, "if we were to put it in our
language,"
>> Excuse me, sir, could you help us,
please? "" My friend and I are arguing
about the proper way to perform
ablution. ""
>> Could you please watch both of us to
see who is right? "So, both of them
performed their ablution. And both of
them were correct, right?
>> The older man watched them and thought,
"
>> Oh, their ablution is actually better
than mine, "like that." Now, that is a
small example of how to advise someone.
"There is also a story from the Alfatah
boarding school.
>> Yeah.
>> I still remember a 4-year-old child
when a guest came,
>> a guest at the boarding school.
>> Now, when they came out of the mosque,
>> yeah.
>> They put on their left shoe first. Left
shoe first, right? The child just
stayed silent. Then they were asked,"
Why are you quiet, son? ""
>> How would you advise them? "The child
was thinking about what was wrong.
>> Then after a while, they took off the
shoe,
>> took off the shoe and changed to the
right one first,
>> and then the child left.
>> So the point is, they probably wanted
to advise but were afraid because they
were just a small child, mashallah, it
was very simple.
>> It went that far. So the phrase earlier
, first was' bil hikmah '(with wisdom).
Second is' wal mau'idhatul hasanah ',
advising in a good way. This is usually
applied to those in a lower social
standing than us.
>> Yeah.
>> Laypeople, for example, or those who
are intellectually lower. Now, as for'
wajadilhum billati hiya ahsan 'or
debating, that is usually done with
people who are equal in knowledge,
>> with peers. For instance, Kang Pahri
and Mas Neja are equals, so feel free
to debate, but don't try, Kang Arawi,
to invite the speaker to debate; that
could cause problems. But if you want
to give advice, advise with wisdom.
>> That's fine, for example, if Mas Neja,
Kang Pahri, or Bang Yusuf see that I am
wrong, don't hesitate.
>> Yes, just correct me, because we
shouldn't underestimate anyone, right?
>> It could be.
>> Things that we sometimes consider bad,
in reality, might provide an
extraordinary contribution.
>> Now, that is in the context of da'wah.
Regarding advice, Allah mentions'
tawasau bil-haqq wa tawasau bis-sabr wa
tawasau bil-marhamah '. Advising must
first be based on truth. Meaning, we
must truly be certain that it is
justified.
>> There is a basis or proof, even if we
haven't memorized it.
>> For example, a case like this."
>> Ustaz, forgive me, I have heard it
before. "" I heard it from the Quran,
but I forgot the verse, but the
sentence was like this. "Well, they
only remember a little, right?
>> So, how is it? Well, that means it's
based on*bilhaq*(the truth), or perhaps
they ran a hadith of the Prophet (pbuh)
that they said was authentic, so maybe
the Ustadz can explain it, as if asking
.
>> but with a clear source. So, conveying
the truth, or when we advise others
based on a certain verse of the Quran
or a certain hadith, it should be like
this. That is what is called*bilhaq*.
>> Second, *bisabr*, with patience,
>> not emotionally.
>> Hm.
>> See, with patience. Patience, as
mentioned earlier, includes*al-habsu*.
Patience is restraining oneself.
>> Yeah.
>> Restraining oneself from bad deeds,
restraining oneself from bad speech,
forbidden things, and so on. Now, then
the third is*bil marhamah*. with
compassion, done*watawa...watawa...**
bilhaq*, *watawa bisabr*, and*watawa
bil marhamah*, with compassion, not
with hatred, right?
>> See, if inside there is an element,
that element of emotion,
>> yes, there is hatred, there is, uh, a
feeling of envy or a desire to corner
someone, then the result will certainly
be bad.
>> So, this is where Imam Ali states that
something that is, uh, firm in the
heart, pure in the heart, will also
reach and be pure in the hearts of
others. MasyaAllah. That is why it is
important for us to always guard our
hearts. Do not have the intention to
bring someone down, discredit them, or
embarrass them, especially. Do not let
that happen.
>> Like that.
>> So there are ethics, Ustadz, right?
>> Don't let, uh, like embarrassing
someone in public either, no, not like
that. MasyaAllah. Next, we turn to the
next question from, uh, Ibu Retno.
Assalamu'alaikum warahmatullahi
wabarakatuh, Ustadz.
>> Wa'alaikumussalam warahmatullahi
wabarakatuh.
>> Ustadz, how do we deal with an arrogant
person who, when we greet them, remains
indifferent and doesn't return our
greeting? What should our attitude be?
>> Yes,
>> like that, sir.
>> First, uh, if we can, say the greeting
right in front of them. No, the
greeting shouldn't be, it shouldn't be
soft, you know.
>> Hm.
>> But if they don't answer, that's fine.
After all, we get rewards for greeting.
>> Yes.
>> It is a sunnah, and we hope for a
reward from Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala.
Don't, don't expect a reward from them.
>> They can't give rewards, right?
>> Our hope is in Allah. But for them, it
becomes obligatory; they commit a sin
by not answering it. Yeah.
>> Well, maybe once, twice, right,
eventually they will be like that. I
have experienced this myself.
>> I have greeted someone several times,
they just stayed silent and didn't
answer, right. One time, I went
straight to their front and said
Assalamu'alaikum. They were shocked.
Assalamu'alaikum, I said.
>> Wa'alaikumussalam. See, they were even
shocked, right. See, masyaAllah. That's
because sometimes people aren't used to
it.
>> Yes. Yes, it could also be because, as
I said, there is a feeling of grudge in
the heart, a feeling of hatred in the
heart. Yes, by saying the greeting, it
is a prayer, God willing, it will
soften a person. That is what the
Prophet meant earlier, the person who
is the first to offer greetings is the
most noble in the sight of Allah, the
Almighty.
>> Oh, so if a dispute or misunderstanding
occurs, for example, masyaallah. I have
encountered cases like that a few times
. There are people who just stay silent
. I approach them directly, say"
Assalamu'alaikum, "and catch their eye.
My mouth is visible to them, right? In
the end, they have no choice but to
reply" Wa'alaikumsalam. "
>> Perhaps they were afraid they didn't
hear it?
>> Well, at first, they pretend not to
hear it. Now, what about the response
mentioned earlier? Returning good for
the evil that they have done. In the
Quran, in Surah Fussilat, it is
mentioned," idfa' billati hiya ahsan,
fa idhalladhi bainaka wa bainahu '
adawatun ka'annahu waliyyun hamim. "Yes
. So, repel evil with good, so that the
one you were enemies with becomes a
friend, an ally. Masyaallah, from
enmity to a loyal friend. That is truly
extraordinary, and it happened to the
Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him. So
many of the companions, including Abu
Sufyan, said," When I was in my
pre-Islamic state, there was no one I
hated more than Muhammad, and after I
embraced Islam, there was no one I
loved more than Muhammad. "Wow,
masyaallah. This shows that things can
indeed change. And that change belongs
to Allah. We just leave it to Him.
>> Yes.
>> Just pray for them. If we repeatedly do
good but they do not return that
kindness, we just pray to Allah.
>> Do not put your hope in humans.
>> If you rely on humans, you will be
disappointed often.
>> He he he.
>> Yes, masyaallah. That is all.
>> Ustaz, these are also the greetings
coming in from the YouTube comments on
Rasil TV today, for those...who are
following our live broadcast, which
account is this? Umi Midah is tuning in
. There is also the YouTube account
Mezia, who is also tuning in. There is
Rahma Mitra, also Ibu Cani is tuning in
, Muhammad Aid is here, as well as
Retno SW, and a question that came in
the YouTube comments from the account
Wiji Rahayu. Assalamu'alaikum
warahmatullahi wabarakatuh, Ustaz.
>> Wa'alaikumsalam warahmatullahi
wabarakatuh.
>> May I ask a question, Ustaz? Is pride
something that only exists in speech,
or is it in the heart? Is it both, or
just speech, or just the heart? Ustaz,
as has been mentioned in the scripture
earlier. That is why the Prophet
mentioned" fi qolbihi, "in the heart.
The origin of pride is in the heart.
Speech is just a consequence.
>> H.
>> Some is manifested in speech, and some
is not.
>> Correct.
>> Some is not manifested in speech, but
through attitude.
>> Their attitude, right?
>> Yes, their arrogant posture and
demeanor. Then in their heart, they
suddenly feel superior, proud, even
puffing out their chest. Now, all of
that can happen, but it all starts from
the heart. Therefore, it is said,"
Al-qolbu kal malik. "The heart is like
a king." Fasada fasada sairul amali. "
If it is good, then all other deeds
will be good. If the heart is good, all
deeds will be good. But if the heart is
corrupt, all deeds will be corrupt.
That is why we must guard our hearts
there. And arrogance is the primary
disease, or well, arrogance is the
first bad deed committed by a creature.
>> Yes.
>> Namely, the devil towards Prophet Adam.
So, we must not possess that trait;
some people display arrogance with
their words. There are those who say,"
I'm sorry, I'm not being arrogant, but
... "
>> Arrogant."
>> I am not arrogant. "Sometimes I find it
funny when people do that." Well,
excuse me, I'm not being arrogant, I
also have this and that, "and then they
list their achievements." Oh, I have
memorized this much. "" I have devoured
hundreds of books, "and so on." Look,
I'm not being arrogant. "Well, the one
who knows it is arrogance is the heart
itself.
>> And Allah knows best that what he is
doing will actually ruin his heart.
>> Just so others will say," Wow. "Wow,
this is truly a heavy matter, it can
affect anyone. It doesn't mean that
because I have this theory, I am
automatically safe from it. Not
necessarily; it is very possible that
sometimes we unknowingly state things
that lead to arrogance.
>> See. Masyaallah. Therefore, we must
seek forgiveness from Allah often.
>> We must ask Allah for forgiveness for
the filth of this heart. Because people
enter hell not due to physical diseases
, but because of heart diseases.
>> Hmm.
>> That is so.
>> That is why we must guard our hearts,
Ustaz.
>> Yes. Do not taint it. Masyaallah. There
is Mr. Baron Betawi. Peace be upon you,
Ustaz.
>> And peace be upon you too.
>> Regarding the*isbal*you mentioned
earlier, Ustaz. Why do people, or even
some preachers who know the prohibition
against lengthening clothes below the
ankles, still violate it as if they
deliberately let them sag? Why go
against Allah's law, Ustaz? Why is that
the case? Is it because there is
arrogance in their hearts? Please
enlighten us, Ustaz.
>> Yes. Allah knows best. If I have to
guess what is in someone's heart, I am
incapable. Allah is the one who knows
whether one is arrogant or not. But it
is clear that in the explanation of the
book*Al-Kabair*, Imam Adz-Dzahabi
mentions that arrogance in clothing is
letting it fall below the ankles.
>> That's it. So that is what is called*
al-khuyala*, that arrogance which then
causes vanity, and usually in the
Middle East, the elites indeed cover
their ankles.
>> Yes.
>> So we rarely see scholars covering
their ankles with their garments.
>> And the Prophet, peace be upon him,
throughout his life, his garments were
always above his ankles.
>> Now, the companions too, like Umar bin
Khattab, were very firm. Even when Umar
bin Khattab was in a critical condition
after being stabbed by Abu Lu'lu'ah,
while in pain, he was visited by a
young man. So, after seeing the young
man pass by to take his leave, right.
Umar looked and saw his garment was
below his ankles.
>> Then Umar said," Ya shabab, irfa'
izaraka. "" O young man, raise your
garment. "See. MashaAllah. This shows
how much attention the Prophet and the
companions paid to the issue of
garments on the feet. So, there is
etiquette when Muslims dress. As for
why there is an ustadz or a kyai who
does otherwise, wallahu a'lam
bish-shawab. I cannot guess what is in
their hearts. But what is certain is
perhaps they have another
interpretation or understanding, as if
it is allowed as long as one is not
arrogant. With the note that if we
delve deeper into the commentary of the
hadith regarding Abu Bakar's incident,
Abu Bakar was the person most guarded
against arrogance.
>> Yes. After the Prophet (peace be upon
him), it was Abu Bakar, including Umar
as mentioned earlier. Yet they kept
trying to avoid isbal. And Abu Bakar
himself, being thin, his garment would
often slip down unless he made a
serious effort. That shows that the
essential truth is that it should
clearly not be isbal.
>> Like that. So, if you want to hold on
to your view, please go ahead. If you
have evidence or the conviction that it
is correct to do so, please do, we will
return to Allah later and be
responsible individually. But, the
point is we must not blame each other.
We must not blame those who practice
isbal. Especially if someone says they
do not practice isbal but acts
arrogantly. That's messy. It means that
someone who does not practice isbal,
who wears their garment above the
ankles, must also possess humility.
>> So, remain humble while keeping the
garment above the ankles. Yes, not
covering the ankles is actually their
effort to follow the Sunnah of the
Prophet (peace be upon him).
>> And the Prophet was the most humble
person. The Prophet was the most humble
person, yet he guarded against isbal.
We must not avoid isbal, not covering
the ankles, while being arrogant. That
would mean mixing the truth with
falsehood. That is
>> a contradiction.
>> Because that is often the problem.
>> Yes. Because eventually, they belittle
those who do practice isbal.
>> Yes.
>> Sometimes it is like this. There is a
person or a community.
>> They do not want to accept advice if
the ustadz practices isbal.
>> Hmm. They even refuse to be led in
prayer. If the ustadz practices isbal.
If the ustadz giving the advice is seen
,
>> they say his beard is trimmed, not
according to the Sunnah. Then, oh, his
garment is also below his ankles." Ah,
I don't want it, I'll say just go away.
"
>> Yes.
>> There are people like that. MashaAllah.
So, things like this should not happen.
Let us be proportional and put
everything in its proper place. The
point is, we must indeed avoid all
prohibitions.
>> Yes, but do not let small matters in
the dynamics of life or even those
related to jurisprudence issues,
>> result in a rift in our brotherhood,
>> yes.
>> Where the sin could be much greater.
>> So, that is how it is.
>> Alright. Regarding matters of
difference of opinion, perhaps we can,
what do you call it? Respect each other
as well, yes. Yes, understood.
>> Understood.
>> But we must be more careful.
>> Careful.
>> From Mrs. Aminah. This is still about '
isbal' as well, Ustadz. Peace be upon
you, and Allah's mercy and blessings.
>> And peace be upon you, and Allah's
mercy and blessings.
>> May I ask, is it allowed for women to
cover their ankles, Ustadz?
>> For women, it is actually encouraged (
sunnah).
>> Encouraged, yes.
>> The sunnah of 'isbal' for women, is
even, if possible, up to one span from
the ankle.
>> Hm.
>> See, it goes that far. Up to one span.
>> Yes, especially when praying.
>> So that when prostrating, the soles of
the feet are also covered. So, for
women, 'isbal' is a sunnah,
>> while for men, 'isbal' is prohibited.
>> That is the benchmark, yes. Masya Allah
.
>> From Mr. Rama Mitra in South Tangerang.
Peace be upon you, and Allah's mercy
and blessings, Ustadz.
>> And peace be upon you, and Allah's
mercy and blessings.
>> Ustadz, if someone shows off in their
dressing, appearing excessive, tacky,
or gaudy, does that fall into the
category of arrogance, Ustadz? Please
provide some enlightenment.
>> Well, that was the story earlier about
the companions who dressed well, but in
the sense—in quotes—in a reasonable
form.
>> Reasonable means not too flashy.
Because if it is flashy, it will
clearly hurt people who are simple, for
instance, the poor. Poor people who—
let alone dressing luxuriously like
that—cannot even afford to dress
simply.
>> Yes.
>> If, for example, in a poor society
where the economy is middle-to-lower
class,
>> suddenly someone comes dressed like a
king or a high-ranking official,
wearing a full suit, everything
complete,
>> everything expensive, yes. So it
becomes conspicuous. This must also be
avoided because arrogance can grow from
it.
>> Therefore, it is better if we try to
equalize or adjust, even if not exactly
the same as those around us, but we
should not be too flashy,
>> because it will disturb the heart.
>> Hm.
>> See. So indeed, the heart must be
guarded in that regard.
>> Yes.
>> Yes, must be guarded there. Masya Allah
. That is why there are often stories,
sometimes a director disguises himself
as a parking attendant, for example.
>> Disguising as a scavenger, for instance
, just to find sincere people. This is
a reasonable thing to do. And I was
told by my friend, a husband and wife
who are wealthy.
>> Hm.
>> He told me," Ustadz, my wife and I once
agreed to dress simply. "Hm.
>> Yes. Then I walked the whole way.
>> At that time, people looked at me and
squinted, they said.
>> Hm.
>> Well, those who didn't know my
situation at home, they squinted at me.
But we had prepared ourselves, that we
must be patient with others 'glances
and views and so on. Just be patient
the whole way while walking barefoot
>> and wearing very simple clothes. The
husband and wife agreed to do that
>> walking like that. Even though he was
just out for a healthy walk, but
barefoot.
>> It turns out the story is true, right
>> like the story of Luqman al-Hakim,
right. Naturally, people's opinions
will always vary.
>> Yes.
>> Most humans look at physical factors,
as is clear in the hadith. Innallaha
ta'ala la yanzuru ila suwarikum. Verily
, Allah Ta'ala will not look at your
appearance. Allah will not look at your
wealth either. Allah will not look at
your lineage either. Allah will only
look at your hearts and your deeds.
>> Yes.
>> Oh, masyaallah. So the fact is in the
field, many people are still deceived
by physical
>> appearance.
>> That is why we should never
>> get trapped just by seeing a person
like this and immediately conclude, oh,
this must be this kind of person. So we
treat them half-heartedly.
>> But when they are dressed in a suit,
wearing a tie,
>> stepping out of a car, we are so
respectful, even though the car might
be a rental.
>> Well, he could also be a swindler,
right, that's possible. It could be.
>> Well, masyaallah. Now, there is this
one case. A developing Islamic boarding
school was visited by someone claiming
to be a donor distributor from the
Middle East.
>> Hm.
>> Then, after that, the boarding school
welcomed him well. Welcomed him well,
even provided extraordinary hospitality
. Then he asked for the school's
profile, saying he would help get the
funds released. Then it was translated
into Arabic. It was made, it was
prepared.
>> Not long after that, he left.
>> No goodbye, no word, no news until
today.
>> For years
>> there has never been any news again.
>> So, this is an example like that. And
by the will of Allah, I met the person
at that time. He.
>> Even I still don't know where that
person is now. But clearly, he took it,
so he is a robber.
>> And it could be that it was submitted
over there.
>> Yes. The
>> funds were released but not given to us
, so
>> that is an example.
>> Yes. Masyaallah. So we must be careful
not to get trapped just by looking at
appearances alone
>> because that appearance might deceive
us.
>> That is all.
>> Don't judge a book by its cover, they
say, like that.
>> Masyaallah. There is another one, Ustaz
. A question that came in, if there is
still time, from Mr. Yusman.
Assalamu'alaikum warahmatullahi
wabarakatuh, Ustaz.
>> Wa'alaikumussalam warahmatullahi
wabarakatuh.
>> Ustaz, there are people who are very
bold and knowledgeable when advising
others, but when they are advised, they
get offended. Is this a sign that
someone has been afflicted by the
disease of arrogance?
>> That is all, Ustaz.
>> It is true that there are indeed people
like that.
>> Sometimes it happens, yes.
>> Yes, we might even be like that
sometimes.
>> Yes. It feels good to give advice,
right? Yes, isn't it? Sometimes it
really is pleasant to advise people.
But when the advice is turned back on
them, wow, they get offended. So, if
there is prestige or arrogance in the
heart, it is hard to accept advice from
others.
>> Yes, definitely. But for someone who is
always trying to guard their heart,
>> it is not difficult to accept advice
from others. In fact, if necessary, we
should ask for that advice.
>> He he.
>> Ask for that advice. Yes, for example,
I was once advised by someone,
>> who in terms of social status was far,
>> the gap in standards was wide.
>> But I did it on purpose because I was
afraid of what you mentioned earlier.
>> Afraid. I deliberately went to their
house. I wanted to hear their
heart-to-heart thoughts on how things
were.
>> Finally, they spoke up,"
>> Ah, no, I'm not, I'm not worthy, "they
said." Eh, I said, "I really am asking
for this.""I really am asking, so don't
hesitate, just say it.""Finally, they
were willing to convey it."
>> Ustaz, I just, I only want to suggest,
"they said," a suggestion. "" Try,
Ustaz, when you lecture, don't go so
fast. "Well, praise be to God, I said
this is a valuable thing, and it turns
out it was true, and I got that
feedback from many different people.
>> Once, it was also directly from a
senior person, yes, a senior.
>> As I was getting down from the pulpit
here, they said," When you speak, don't
go so fast. "Astagfirullahalazim. So,
it turns out that even laypeople are
brave enough to say such things because
we asked.
>> He-eh.
>> Perhaps they don't have the heart,
right?
>> Oh, we feel reluctant.
>> If it were a senior person, it would be
natural, right? But this was someone
who, in terms of social status, was far
below.
>> But when we ask, it is an extraordinary
thing. It turns out you can find pearls
of wisdom there. Masyaallah. Now, this
is the importance of continuing to
respect others. Even if in terms of
social conditions, they are far below
us.
>> Masyaallah. Well, that is all.
>> Ustaz, we are limited by time, perhaps
before we say goodbye, could you
conclude our theme, Ustaz?
>> Alright, brothers and sisters, may
Allah protect you, let us organize our
hearts by praying. Ya muqalibal qulub,
sabbit qolbi ala dinik. Ya musorifal
qulub, sabbit qolbi ala thaatik. O
Turner of hearts, keep my heart firm in
Your religion. O Director of hearts,
keep my heart firm in obedience to You.
And, Allahumma inni a'udzubika min
syarrin sami'. Oh Allah, I seek refuge
in You from the evil of my hearing. And
from the evil of my sight. And from the
evil of my tongue. And from the evil of
my heart. And from the evil of my
desires.
>> The Prophet (peace be upon him)
answered by reciting
>> these prayers so that his heart would
always be guarded."
>> Our Lord, let not our hearts deviate
after You have guided us. "Oh Allah, do
not let us turn away into deviation
after You have given us guidance. Yes.
>> Then in Surah Al-Hashr verse 10, it
says" And [for] those who came after
them. "Oh Allah, forgive us and our
brothers. And those who preceded us in
faith.
>> And oh Allah, do not place in our
hearts
>> any resentment. Jealousy, ill will, or
negative prejudices against those who
believed before us. MasyaAllah. All of
this is meant to purify the heart. And
pray to Allah," Oh Allah, guard our
hearts from all forms of arrogance. "
Keep us away from haughtiness, keep us
away from arrogance, keep us away from
vanity and the like. Ask Allah, for
Allah is the Almighty. The One who has
the power to turn the hearts of men.
Brothers, let us improve ourselves and
our hearts, especially me, Kang Fahri,
Mas Neja, Bang Yusuf, and the whole
Rasil crew. Let us improve ourselves
together so we can return with a sound
heart (qolbun salim). Where Allah says,
" The day. "On that day, there will be
no benefit at all. From the wealth we
pride ourselves on or the children we
boast about." Except for one who comes.
"Except for those who come to Allah
with a sound heart. Safe from all forms
of heart disease. And God willing, with
that, we will achieve the ultimate
success of a good end (husnul khatimah)
.
>> That is all from me, I apologize if
anything was displeasing. Glory be to
You, oh Allah, and by Your praise, I
bear witness that there is no god but
You, I seek Your forgiveness and repent
to You. Praise be to Allah, Lord of the
worlds. Peace be upon you. And the
mercy of Allah and His blessings.
>> And peace be upon you, and the mercy of
Allah and His blessings. That was the
evening sermon we just heard, delivered
by the Ustaz regarding how advice is
rejected due to arrogance. Hopefully,
what the Ustaz conveyed is beneficial
for me, Pak Har, accompanied by Neza
and Yusuf Subangit. May there be
success and guidance. Peace be upon you
, and the mercy of Allah and His
blessings.